reconcile

[ucxb]

I wonder if any have been able to successfully reconcile and if you have recommendations (I would like to be proper friends with him) or is it too complicated to ask? I have been trying to reconcile and not sure if it’s likely. At this time, because I care, I won’t ignore him but I am not able to be in his presence or hold conversation for much time (it really spends me). Trying to be friends does not feel possible because the struggles I am enduring with our differences, mostly.

 

[LonelyLola]

So I am currently coping with a major breakup, and it sucks. I do not think we are going to reconcile, and if we did, it wouldn't be any time soon.

However, I am still friendly with all my other exes. It does take time, and you really need to want to be JUST FRIENDS. It doesn't work if you a hoping to be bf/gf again. I don't necessarily chum around as besties, but we talk pleasantly in public and have been at the same parties, played games, etc.

But the best thing you can do now is focus on being you, finding you and loving you. Then your ex will either come back all crazy like/someone else will fall for you/you will be satisfied even if you end up alone because you are just that awesome.

 

[ucxb]

Hi Lola,
I know this topic is complex but do my best at communicating. I should have mentioned that learning how to deal with the toxic personalities is of issue and concern. It just may be irreconcilable full circle or take time, with much distance.

 

[kamya]

I have been able to in the past but it takes a lot of time. Maybe a year or two.

 

[ladyforsaken]

Yeah, it's not easy to reconcile with someone associated with a lot of hurt and pain. It will take time for these memories to slowly fade into the back of your mind and the feelings to slowly be numbed. Until then, can you actually reconcile properly. Otherwise, it might just stop you from healing and moving on if you're not careful.