It depends on what is going on. All of us have our faults, and all of us annoy others in some way. So, if it is one of those "little" things that are not damaging in the long run, then it might be that the person feeling hurt would be better off learning to accept the partners humanity. On the other hand, there could be something larger that needs to be addressed. As I said, it depends.
But I think partners do bother each other in some way, and often without any malicious intention. For example, my wife cannot stand to be touched when she is in pain, or sad, or upset. Me, I want to give her a hug and hold her when she suffers, but if I do, she shoves me away. That hurts me, because I want to comfort her, but my preferred way of offering comfort hurts her. So I have had to adjust and tell her that I am there for her when she needs me and back away when she needs me to.
So learning to accept and work with the foibles of one's partner is all part of two people living together. But if the actions of one partner do cause abuse, then that is a completely different story.
