I experiment with myself a lot, physically and mentally.
I have a pretty active lifestyle and have mostly worked labor-intensive jobs, but I'm more inclined to libraries, bookstores and online encyclopedic directories than I am bars and clubs.
I have minimal social skills, but I'm confident and outspoken regardless because I kind of only need minimal social skills. Too much socialization, and I'm ready for a nap.
I think I've just adapted over time to being more logic-based than emotion-based.
I'm single by choice. My resources are meant to benefit my children and I, no one else. Since being a couple or married don't mean anything anymore and can send someone to jail before he can say 'likity-split' and can take care of myself and my stuff without anyone's help, I don't see the point anymore.
Been single since 2002 and don't regret a single thing about that decision. I feel happier than I ever was married or in a relationship. I'd be nuts to get with a woman now.
Yeah, it makes better for block structure planning for resource management, which is the basis for how to capitalize with efficiency.
im pretty much the same..im 33 and despite actually have people i can just straight up call up or message to get back together i chose not to cause im so tired of being used by them. sometimes its better to be alone and not worry about the guilt of staying with someone just so i can be with someone, if you guys get my drift.
in my country though its more of girls want you to look a certain way (like those korean pop guys theyres so obsessed with) or worse you gotta have tons of money. im sure there are still people here that actually do fall in love for real but the standards have just been set so high its ridiculous.
it just came to a point where id rather take my chances with online relationships and so here i am still being ghosted over and over.
long story short, slowly lost interest with my country women and will probly wait for that japanese or caucasian girl i ironically set a standard for myself.
I was actually a Music Major in College before I dropped out, I could write a whole essay on how media influences society. More or less, and to put it simply: You don't actually want anybody who goes with whatever is trending, and the reason why is because it's a form of mass brainwashing that simultaneously is very expensive.--Which is like the opposite of what you want in a long-term relationship.
I identify with this.
So, by choice, for me.
Plus, what most (I didn't say all!) men seem to be fine with at first - like free spiritedness, passion, creativity, energy, adventurousness, spontaneity, independence, etc. - they end up wanting to control.
-ish. Yeah....I kind of had the epiphany today that the reason I'm single is because predictability bores me, but spontaneity pisses me off. Really, what I am, is highly methodical and calculating. I'm all for doing whatever and I'm very liberal and open-minded and not particularly easily offended (usually I end up offending someone by accident, on the contrary), but I am as such within a certain scale or set of boundaries as to not detrimentally upset the base structure of my life. Like I love going to concerts, but it's counterintuitive of me to go out of state for a show when I have bills I've got to pay and the endeavor would cost me more than it's worth. I have the odd developmental ability to be emotionally hyper-compartmentalized and retractable, so power struggle dynamics just seem kind of silly to me. Play is different, but as far as another's existential dread is concerned, I don't want that liability or responsibility. Like I do what I do to myself as a personal practice, but I won't enforce that on somebody else unwillingly, you know? It's one thing is somebody comes to me with interest and wants to learn, but it's not really in me to be "out on the prowl," at least not for the endeavors of love. Resources and information? Sure. But for emotional and physiological affairs? Not really. My mind is usually just preoccupied with other things, and so a lot of my experiences with women have happened because they approached me first.
You're right. I should have said people, because there are plenty of controlling women too.
It's so hard to find someone, I've found, though, with a similar - never mind same - mindset.
That's a good thing to keep in mind - If you don't take control you'll lose control.
I just don't like a controlling aspect at all in relationships. I don't like controlling and I don't like attempts at being controlled. If we weren't such possessive, controlling, jealous creatures, relationships and life would be so much easier.
I think that happens in part because most people screw up the order of operations. It's easy to love another individual, but hard to learn to love yourself, to learn to respect yourself, and to hold yourself to certain standards. It's very demanding, very heavy on the mind, especially if a person is without introspection and is clueless about their internal mechanisms on a level of individualism. So it's kind of like, knowing how to drive a car, but not knowing how to change or add to the fluids when the time comes. And well, the car breaks down, and people learn the lesson the hard way. But if you know how to add to your fluids, your car can go wherever you need it to go freely.
