Steps in a relationship.

[Drew88]

What are your guys opinions/experiences on how a relationship should go and/or when to take certain step.

Ie: when to stay over at each other place, Priority stages?, etc

 

[Lost Drifter]

First Step: realise that nothing is set in stone, every relationship is different and abandon all other steps.

 

[perfanoff]

I'd live with a SO when I know her well, we can pay bills together, and things have settled down from the initial high.

 

[ucxb]

I do not have a set process since my last relationship was left to mind reading abilities that I did not have the training for... Since I have not dated or mingled in years I have learned from a few single friends of mine that there is a lot of effort in trying to read people, pick up on signals, etc. in their singles world. I can't do that or won't allow myself to.

I need direct communication and honesty, so perhaps if that exists in the relationship "steps" would unfold naturally?

 

[Drew88]

well thank you for the clear answers :/

 

[ladyforsaken]

every relationship is different

I need direct communication and honesty, so perhaps if that exists in the relationship "steps" would unfold naturally?

Well I agree with both the above quoted. Can't really have a set of fixed rules but I guess in general, a good relationship should be build on trust, honesty, understanding and communication. Oh and mutual compromise. I think those are the key things that keep a relationship going... in a healthy manner.

 

[blackdot]

Step 1: Find someone to talk to.
Step 2: Talk to that person.
Step 3: Sit back and wonder why that person no longer comes near you anymore.

Rinse and repeat.

 

[Drew88]

Step 1: Find someone to talk to.
Step 2: Talk to that person.
Step 3: Sit back and wonder why that person no longer comes near you anymore.

Rinse and repeat.

sarcasm much?

I know that everybodies different, however everbody has ideas and personal experience. I am not asking how I should go about things, I am asking how did you go about things or think they should go.

enough post modern bs.

 

[MadMonkè]

watch this (its funny, its sad, its true.... )

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[blackdot]

Step 1: Find someone to talk to.
Step 2: Talk to that person.
Step 3: Sit back and wonder why that person no longer comes near you anymore.

Rinse and repeat.

sarcasm much?

unfortunately I was being serious.

 

[annik]

Unfortunately there really is no advice anyone can give. Other than to do things when they feel right. Knowing what other people did will not help you with that.

I mean you can move in with someone after a week and it go perfectly (even though most people would think that's crazy) or you can wait and take things slow. Though that can lead to resentment.

It's a bit of a minefield, you have to pick your way though carefully...or jump in and hope for the best!

 

[Okiedokes]

I like to think that things should go on their own pace and naturally. Living in the moment and focusing on that. Rushing things won't make things better or promise a future together more or less than taking it slow. In fact, sometimes taking huge leaps too soon can lead to a crash landing.

But what it comes down to, as others have said.. is the mutual respect, understanding, honesty, and communication that makes a relationship and keeps it going. To not be selfish and care about the other persons desires too.

I think the steps are definitely different for everyone and the timing of each step varies.

 

[Drew88]

Sigh, you people are not objectively speaking from your own experience. You speak that of which I know of. Answer in object fact please of what you've done.

 

[aspalas]

I think it depends on people's age.

I'm (almost) 19 and obviously at this age there are almost no people who live together or get married. I guess the first step is dating. The second step (when you're both sure you like eachother and want a relationship) is a relationship, getting to know eachothers friends, regularly spending nights together etc. If this goes well you could introduce eachother to your family, go on vacation together etc.

I wouldn't rush into living together or getting married, obviously. Living together is quite a big step, I wouldn't do this very soon, but obviously it depends on how good your relationship is and whether you want it or not

 

[ladyforsaken]

What are your guys opinions/experiences on how a relationship should go and/or when to take certain step.

Ie: when to stay over at each other place, Priority stages?, etc

Sigh, you people are not objectively speaking from your own experience. You speak that of which I know of. Answer in object fact please of what you've done.

I was speaking from experience of what I've done, planned to do, failed to achieve and am re-doing now and I think some of the other posters too are speaking of experience. You asked for opinions and experience on how should a relationship go about and when to take certain steps.

Basically there are no set rules to how a relationship should be because each relationship is unique to the pair in it, but as I said earlier, it's always good to build a relationship based on communication, trust, honesty and compromise. It will take you a long way.

When to move in together or do other things together depends on what you and your SO want mutually. That's why communication with each other is important, you talk and discuss about what you both want to do or achieve together.

If all this is already what you know of, then what answers are you looking for exactly?

 

[EveWasFramed]

A. Talk to a guy.
B. He tells you what he's looking for in a woman.
C. Death Knell

 

[Okiedokes]

Sigh, you people are not objectively speaking from your own experience. You speak that of which I know of. Answer in object fact please of what you've done.

I would but then I'd be giving you an example of a marriage that failed. lol. I didn't think you would want to follow that. And it was from my personal experience, that rushing is never a good idea. I didn't take the time to get to know him very well and I was too blinded by infatuation/love to see what I was getting into.

 

[Drew88]

What are your guys opinions/experiences on how a relationship should go and/or when to take certain step.

Ie: when to stay over at each other place, Priority stages?, etc

Sigh, you people are not objectively speaking from your own experience. You speak that of which I know of. Answer in object fact please of what you've done.

I was speaking from experience of what I've done, planned to do, failed to achieve and am re-doing now and I think some of the other posters too are speaking of experience. You asked for opinions and experience on how should a relationship go about and when to take certain steps.

Basically there are no set rules to how a relationship should be because each relationship is unique to the pair in it, but as I said earlier, it's always good to build a relationship based on communication, trust, honesty and compromise. It will take you a long way.

When to move in together or do other things together depends on what you and your SO want mutually. That's why communication with each other is important, you talk and discuss about what you both want to do or achieve together.

If all this is already what you know of, then what answers are you looking for exactly?

when did you sleep (zzz) together into the relationship? what was the amount of time between sex and sleeping together? before or after sex? do u plan to do it or is it spontaneous.