stop over-thinking

[Papabear]

No really... stop... you're wrong.

90% of these threads on here are from people that are over-thinking situations, trying to read more into whats going on than actually is. Take things for what you know, assume the other is being honest, and stop trying to predict what you dont know.

You'll be wrong most of the time anyways.

 

[Rifle_Eyes]

I don't even have situations to over-think, so you're wrong.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

One foot in yesterday and one foot in tommorow....pissing all over today.
Thinking is hard, living ain't easy.
Being way the **** out there as a space case will only kill more brain cells.
Eventaully gravity will firmly plant your *** on planet earth.
Crash and burn baby..crash and burn. Mother fuckers has to die so that I may live.
Live and let die...Live and let die
When you're ready you're ready. Hopefully you'll still have enough brain cells to calulate 2+2= 4...lmao
Alian creatures dressed as humans residing on planet earth are dime a dozen, intellectaul ones too...lol
The doors are opens they're always open, it's a hell of a roller coaster ride.
Somedays the clouds are pink ..it's better than the E ticket trip ya been on.
Think...think ...think before you drink or feel the steel.
Please do more experiments for me so that I don't have to.
From the gates of hell onto the lights of heaven.
Snow fucken white you'll probably want to be render.
Oh...it'll get under your skin alrght when she gives you a KISS
Keep It Simple Stupid and stop thinking so god damn much

 

[SighX99]

good advice papabear, but i disagree. So its not right anymore to ask questions on this forum??? why couldnt we overthink? id like to ask "stupid" questions, talk about "stupid things" on this particular internet forum. this is why i signed up for this site. if u want people to stop asking "stupid questions" on this forum, then i suggest you look somewhere else, go to another forum where people dont ask about these things. no offense.

maybe in your situations, u never have to overthink for once, things just run smooth for you. for me, things have been failures in my experience. i never had a chance.
i used to never overthink, then i kept ****** up my chances, and lose everything in the end, keep thinking "what if i did this instead? things wouldve been so much better"

thats why i ask questions about these things.

heres a good forum for you to go if you think all these questions are making you feel uncomfortable.
http://forums.somethingawful.com/

 

[Papabear]

good advice papabear, but i disagree. So its not right anymore to ask questions on this forum??? why couldnt we overthink? id like to ask "stupid" questions, talk about "stupid things" on this particular internet forum. this is why i signed up for this site. if u want people to stop asking "stupid questions" on this forum, then i suggest you look somewhere else, go to another forum where people dont ask about these things. no offense.

maybe in your situations, u never have to overthink for once, things just run smooth for you. for me, things have been failures in my experience. i never had a chance.
i used to never overthink, then i kept ****** up my chances, and lose everything in the end, keep thinking "what if i did this instead? things wouldve been so much better"

thats why i ask questions about these things.

heres a good forum for you to go if you think all these questions are making you feel uncomfortable.
http://forums.somethingawful.com/

As you obviously and entirely misunderstood the point of my thread, which is probably partially my fault, i'll clear some of this up for you

1) Never, not once, did I say don't ask questions... nor did I even mention stupid questions.

2) I'm talking about in relationships, everyone who seems to interact with someone else. Not after it's over, not anything like that. Just the people that haven't even been out with a person yet but are trying to interpret every single thing that person does as to mean one thing or another pertaining to dating (either positive or negative).

3) I'm talking from a collective past experience of forum posters around the internet as well as real life experiences of myself and my friends.

 

[SighX99]

good advice papabear, but i disagree. So its not right anymore to ask questions on this forum??? why couldnt we overthink? id like to ask "stupid" questions, talk about "stupid things" on this particular internet forum. this is why i signed up for this site. if u want people to stop asking "stupid questions" on this forum, then i suggest you look somewhere else, go to another forum where people dont ask about these things. no offense.

maybe in your situations, u never have to overthink for once, things just run smooth for you. for me, things have been failures in my experience. i never had a chance.
i used to never overthink, then i kept ****** up my chances, and lose everything in the end, keep thinking "what if i did this instead? things wouldve been so much better"

thats why i ask questions about these things.

heres a good forum for you to go if you think all these questions are making you feel uncomfortable.
http://forums.somethingawful.com/

As you obviously and entirely misunderstood the point of my thread, which is probably partially my fault, i'll clear some of this up for you

1) Never, not once, did I say don't ask questions... nor did I even mention stupid questions.

2) I'm talking about in relationships, everyone who seems to interact with someone else. Not after it's over, not anything like that. Just the people that haven't even been out with a person yet but are trying to interpret every single thing that person does as to mean one thing or another pertaining to dating (either positive or negative).

3) I'm talking from a collective past experience of forum posters around the internet as well as real life experiences of myself and my friends.

i see. thank u for clearing that up

 

[Steel]

I agree with Papabear. Worrying, and I'm talking about the obsessive "running things round and around in your head" rather than being cautious... achieves nothing. Sometimes you just need to step back and go with the flow.

 

[Minus]

... trying to interpret every single thing that person does as to mean one thing or another ...

That can drive you crazy in no time.

 

[Bluey]

I think am sometimes guilty of over thinking things. Not always and a lot of the time I can be a very laid back kinder guy. But ye on certain things of my life I think I may over think to a point that's not healthy.

Sometimes though it is necessary to go to Australia to get to England. In your own head you have to go round the houses to put things in order be for you move on. This me thinking to much again lol

 

[evanescencefan91]

sometimes, maybe...yes

but God damn it i was right!

but all my god damned thinking couldn't change it

i've got a thousand million theories but i know God damn it one of them was the answer, but it was too late


my problem is i think too much, but never about the right things.

If i had spent all that time thinking about something other than why the f* everyone hates me,....................

..................

damn, twenty bucks says, i could have cured cancer

 

[Qui]

I underthink everything.
this drives the boys crazy and they get hyper-paranoid.
this never yet has ended well.

 

[Skorian]

I tend to see at least a half dozen directions for almost everything. I usually try to limit my answers to one possibility. Might drive people nuts to see something dissected multiple different ways.

Instead of projecting what something means sometimes it's best to just ask questions. If not, recognize your making assumptions. Though at some point you have to also recognize that assumptions can be probable.

My frame of mind at any moment can drastically alter everything.

It's always interesting how thin the line is between smart and moronic. "Did I do that?"

 

[cosmicpsyche]

I tend to see at least a half dozen directions for almost everything. I usually try to limit my answers to one possibility. Might drive people nuts to see something dissected multiple different ways.

Instead of projecting what something means sometimes it's best to just ask questions. If not, recognize your making assumptions. Though at some point you have to also recognize that assumptions can be probable.

My frame of mind at any moment can drastically alter everything.

It's always interesting how thin the line is between smart and moronic. "Did I do that?"

i am working so hard on not overthinking everything. i think your comments are very helpful, because what you describe sounds exactly like what i go through, and your passion to decrease overthinking only encourages me more to keep on struggling to discover how to stop doing it. i have to admit though, my first reaction to your comment is like a 'fight or flight' reaction. basically, i am frustrated that even though i know you are right, i still cannot stop myself from doing it.

i am starting to realize that overthinking actually does not involve thinking at all; it is driven by impulsive responses to unpleasant emotions. seemingly paradoxical, it takes not thinking, like breathing deeply through anxiety, to allow your true mind the chance of responding according to what you actually think about something. that's what i imagine is happening when you go from the half-dozen possibilities to choose the one that you actually say - you take that fraction of a second to step back and resolve something clear, for true thinking to take root, that allows for effective communication and uninterrupted sharing of ideas.

it's a hard lesson for me, and it's actually an emotionally-charged thing because i suffer the most tragic consequences of overthinking so much - all the lost opportunities of thinking truly and being able to share myself and connect with others.

 

[Skorian]

I tend to see at least a half dozen directions for almost everything. I usually try to limit my answers to one possibility. Might drive people nuts to see something dissected multiple different ways.

Well really reality has multiple sides in many different situations. But it's just hard to go around shooting out more then one point for everything. When I have tried, people just look at me funny and often get confused. Some things are pretty concrete, but many many things are simply POV.

Instead of projecting what something means sometimes it's best to just ask questions. If not, recognize your making assumptions. Though at some point you have to also recognize that assumptions can be probable.

Communication is a pain in the ***, plain and simple. The harder you try the more you realize how hard it can be. And some people make no effort, which renders it impossible.

My frame of mind at any moment can drastically alter everything.

Well, fight or flight is trouble. All you can really do is try to point out to people what you see them as doing. As in communicate. Fight is like trying to communicate by swinging a hammer. It doesn't really say much.

I don't think there is a way to remove emotions effects on our outlook. Those who say they do usually become even more clueless. It's best to just recognize things for what they are and work with it. When you try to defy reality, it will always win in some way. You just might lose the ability to tell.

It's always interesting how thin the line is between smart and moronic. "Did I do that?"

If you let negative emotions run wild they tend to just cause damage.

Ever declaring ourselves to have escaped ignorance is one sure fire way to get lost.

i am working so hard on not overthinking everything. i think your comments are very helpful, because what you describe sounds exactly like what i go through, and your passion to decrease overthinking only encourages me more to keep on struggling to discover how to stop doing it. i have to admit though, my first reaction to your comment is like a 'fight or flight' reaction. basically, i am frustrated that even though i know you are right, i still cannot stop myself from doing it.

i am starting to realize that overthinking actually does not involve thinking at all; it is driven by impulsive responses to unpleasant emotions. seemingly paradoxical, it takes not thinking, like breathing deeply through anxiety, to allow your true mind the chance of responding according to what you actually think about something. that's what i imagine is happening when you go from the half-dozen possibilities to choose the one that you actually say - you take that fraction of a second to step back and resolve something clear, for true thinking to take root, that allows for effective communication and uninterrupted sharing of ideas.

it's a hard lesson for me, and it's actually an emotionally-charged thing because i suffer the most tragic consequences of overthinking so much - all the lost opportunities of thinking truly and being able to share myself and connect with others.

 

[SilentThinker]

For me,I had to admit I had a bad habit of overthinking.

Some people asked me some simple questions.
I began to think of their intentions,their reasons of asking the questions and what answers should I give to them.

 

[Skorian]

For anyone who sees trying to understand the world we live in as over thinking. Which I don't think was the intent of this thread. I think it's more about worrying and false thinking. For anyone who sees trying to understand the world we live in as over thinking. There is a very good comedy called Idiocracy. It's funny and weird, but actually very true about the world we live in.


I will say it sucks when at least half the time you can always guess what your presents are just by holding the box and sometimes know how a movie you have never seen or heard about before will play out. Which I don't really think is that hard. It's just at some point you realize real information beats fiction many days. It can simply come down to what good is knowing nothing?

 

[VanillaCreme]

Well, since Papabear has made yet another thread, does that mean he's wrong too? Over thinking the over thoughts? And made a thread about it, so....

I agree with him. People think too much. Chilax.
... it's given me a headache that just won't go away.

 

[Caesium]

Just stop thinking all together. Let the stillness of the night engulf you.

 

[VanillaCreme]

It's still daylight here. Do I wait? Or does it happen early?

 

[Caesium]

It's still daylight here. Do I wait? Or does it happen early?

You'll have to wait, I'm afraid. In the meantime, you can go to the kitchen and make me a sandwich. Thanks.