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[man of one]

I just saw some pics of the girl i like in facebook having a blast at a party with friends and some guys and after that it's my mind going "wow you thought you had a chance with her? your a loser look at her she is social and popular while your a lonely misfit she def doesnt want you when there is better guys out there" so i pretty much get myself depressed when i see stuff like that about her cuz it shows me what little chance i have with her since im an outcast and she most def isnt so im pretty down right now..facebook is like torture to me so i took it down


ok well long story short on the girl, i have known her for 2 years and a few months ago i actually got the courage to ask her out she was the first girl i asked out and im 20 (yea sad) but she rejected me it obviously hurt and everything was akward the next few days but after some time passed things got back to normal, we arent friends that hang out or anything i rarely hang out with anyone anyways but we took classes together and talk from time to time so we get along ok..so today i still like her but i know now she doesnt like me and i dont blame her i guess she saw im shy/lonely dont have much confidence i also never had a gf and then she is social,has tons of friends and goes out all the time so we are 2 worlds apart but still i just dont wanna give up on her i just i like her too much to do that and she is a real nice person too so any advice on the matter would be appreciated and any people goin through this as well?

 

[darkwall]

Yeah, someone is going through a very similar situation to you. I posted some advice there that also applies to this post:

http://www.alonelylife.com/showthread.php?tid=7162

 

[Brian]

I kinda do the same thing. I basically check my ex's myspace and flickr on a daily basis to see if there's new pics of her.

She posted some a couple days ago. She's as gorgeous as ever. God, I'd give almost anything...

 

[samba101]

Your not alone, there's many guys your age who yearn for someone who has said "No". Hey at least you asked her, better to know where you stand then be left wondering.

Don't get so down, there will be someone out there for you. I had a crush on a guy at work never did anything about it but just looked and thought about him from afar. Four months later I met another guy and never looked back. We've parted now but life has a way of taking you in another direction.

She may be "The One" for now but there will be another girl to fill that place.

 

[man of one]

Little_Buddha-i def at first liked her for her looks only but later after i met her i liked her personality too she may be as you say in another social strata but aside from us being different in that department she is real nice and down to earth and we do have similar interest just not in the socializing and being "normal" we may say so that pretty much ruins my chances with a girl like her and it sucks so i def get your point..


Brian- i can imagine it hurts more cuz you got to be with her but at least you had someone and if i was you i would i dont know try to ask her out again

Samba101- yea i just get kinda worried cuz at this time i still have not found even one girl and all the girls i start liking its deja-vu same thing bf or they are the popular/social type but i dont know i hope something happens with the girl i like at the moment by some miracle if it doesnt happen i hope that i meet another better girl soon if possible lol

 

[Lonesome Crow]

I don't have a problem with FaceBook. I've only had an account for a couple of
weeks and the experience had been good for me so far.
Probably because I don't read too much into it. Probably becuase I've drank and
party my *** off.

My friends write on my wall all the time as if we're talking or socailizing
in HS. Mostly just joking around and fun stuff.

Idk...I've been chating to my ex-wf everyday. It's been totally great.
It's like we can talk like how we used to when we were just going out.
I love that woman..she has a great sense of humar. Very caring and loving
We're friends again...Somewhere alone the line we have an intimate relationship
that's beyound *******. Maybe it's just between her and I . Whether we do it on FB or other site it wouldn't matter.

(Btw Brain...all my duaghters looks like thier moms.)

 

[Brian]

Brian- i can imagine it hurts more cuz you got to be with her but at least you had someone and if i was you i would i dont know try to ask her out again

Well, it was an internet relationship. She moved on after meeting me in person...which I think was kind of a double whammy, lol.


I think the thing that makes these situations so heavy-hitting is that feeling that we've come close to having that which we lack in our lives, and now we're stuck on the outside looking in, wondering what it would have been like if things were different. Wondering if we made a major ****-up or not.

 

[DrawingCircleCircles]

man don't beat yourself up so much. stop thinking there are better guys out there when you should think you the best guy for any girl and that there are better girls out there. you were ballsy enough to at least ask her out. nothing should stop you from asking the next girl you think is pretty out. dont wait 2 years for it!

give the girl up man, take the rejection like a champ and move on. its harder going through a closed door than an open one. ya get me?

there's plenty of nice girls out there. the beauty of meeting new girls is that they dont know you never had a girlfriend and they dont know how social you are. fake it till you make it!

 

[WishIWereA]

When you do get confident and feel happy you could try it again. If she rejects you again that's just too bad. But not because she's too good for you, but because you're too good for her. You're not that lonely silly person you call yourself. Try to gain confidence and whenever someone rejects you just don't blame it on your looks and social capabilities, maybe she's not your type.
All I want to say is don't make too big a deal out of it and just give it another shot later with another girl. You can do it!