I think this is a very interesting topic
the concept of 'devaluation of ***.'
And my opinion on it is strong lol. People tend to think that they are very different from others when in this case I really believe that we are not. And that we are all the same.
To me.
In life we all have certain needs... food, rest, companionship ...whatever they are. These needs exist.
And these needs have priority. I need food a lot more than I need ***.
Maybe what we need and the importance we place on it varies per person... but the way I see it is that it only varies based on things you can not control.
For example if my mother got really sick when I was a teenager and ..passed away.. I might happen to be health-freak when I have kids. Because I happen to fear putting my kids through what I went through. In that case health my be a bit more important to me than to others.. And then what if i preach preach preach to my kids...'healthy food is good. eat healthy'..they might be health freaks as well.
The same way someone taught that *** is the most important thing in the world might place more value of *** than someone who's mom had *** with a different guy very week. Or someone who saw their parents split because of infidelity just might be more careful not to cheat in their own relationships....sure
But in general even with this apparent difference in 'value' we still have basically the same sort of need and those needs more often than not determine how we treat ***. In general for most humans.. food is more important than ***, love is more important that ***, and who we have *** with is generally important to us as well.
But in life sometimes we are in positions where we need one or two of these vital things very much and we offer *** in exchange for it. Sounds bad; but seems true to me. Yes certain things have supreme value. Life has supreme value, but it can still be traded. Even though historically people value their own lives so much; still people have traded their lives and killed themselves for something they saw as a 'greater good'.
It doesn't mean something has less value to you when you trade it for something else. But it does mean that something else has more value. And I really believe that in most cases what we trade *** for is ....the best world that comes to mind is HEALTH ..lol
Health meaning.. food (money) or mental health (which usually comes from love and the feeling of having worth e.t.c). And I truly believe that if ANY ANY ANY ANY of you did not have health and could not get it in another way you'll would trade *** for it as well.
You might look at the people who have one night stands and think that they are trading it for something else but they arent. The same love you are waiting to trade your *** for is the same love (or whatever it is we all seek) they trade theirs for. You'll just use different methods. Everyone's case is unique. But from the people who do things like this that I know. they usually say something like this...
"Right now..I dont want to hurt anyone or to get hurt or and of that relationship stuff. Relationships arent for me.. and I cant live without ***..soo."
- A person who says this ..may have been hurt and doesn't want to get hurt again..they are protecting their health. Many of them have egos which in the past have been fed through *** and don't know of another way to feed it.
Or they might say
"I do it simply for pleasure. I'm young and waant to live life to the fullest and explore yadda yadda yadda"
- To me a person who has *** only for pleasure really is lacking 'pleasure'. They are miising something (most likely real love). And it's a hole they are trying to fill.
Now I'm not saying that all of us here dont have holes to fill, and arent just as desperate for 'health'. But in seeking that 'health' we explore different methods....like
www.alonelylife.com ...And that's great but from what I see.. if we thought that we could get what we seek by having *** with a random guy from a bar, and we werent to shy or could easily do that..or were being offered this option. We'd do it too. So yes everyone is different to me. But we are very much all the same as well. And when it comes to *** most times we are looking for the same health....according to how much of it we lack.
Again yes everyone is different, so maybe you are different. And maybe I'm totally wrong in my generalizations. But just I felt like stating an opinion.
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I don't believe people want to change relationships like they do thier underware. It's not easy giving your heart to someone and becoming vulnerable. It hurts. Whether someone has had one relationship or four[/quote]ty, they still have a heart that can break. Just because someone can look back and take meaning from the relationships they had doesn't mean they want to keep having new ones. I think we all want that special once in a lifetime love to come along.
