The Meaner I Get, The More He Likes It

[SofiasMami]

Hi-
What is it with men? (Pardon the generalizations here but there's plenty of threads about women here. Now it's my turn.)
I've been having a fling with a man for about 4 months. He doesn't know a whole lot about me and that's exactly how I want it. He's not my type for a real relationship and I'm definitely not his type either. It's a fling.
I told him a few days ago that I'm not interested anymore. He's just not doing it for me.
Yet now he seems more interested than he's ever been!
I've said no, f*ck you, you should forget about me and I'm moving on (yes, those exact words) and now he's all over me like white on rice.
Maybe I should pretend to fawn all over him and stalk him and that will make him go away? lol

Teresa

 

[Kenny]

Don't know. Never had a "fling".

 

[Cosmo]

Meh. It's just the urge to try and keep someone, likely - he wants the relationship to continue and for you to "come around and forgive him." If you're treating him mean he probably figures he has "done something wrong" and is trying to correct it by being more attentive - it's a knee-jerk reaction of thinking one is in the dog house, if you will.

If you really want to shake him off insist that you've decided it's over and that you don't want him any more and no amount of trying is going to change you mind and I'm sorry this will be difficult for you to accept but that your decision has been made and thanks for the memories and goodbye. Make sure he knows he's not merely in trouble.

Having someone more into you than you are into them type breakups work best when you can coldly discuss the facts as you see it and the decision you have already made to end the relationship and that there really isn't anything more to discuss and that trying on his part to reconcile or woo will lead nowhere and he really shouldn't bother trying. In other words, if mean isn't working try cold (though not cruel) and factual instead.

If that doesn't work try a brick to the head. =P

Though if you are a person worth a man having you can't blame the guy for trying to work things out at least. A calm and clear signal needs to be sent and you need to confirm with him that your message has been properly received and understood and that he should respect your wishes and leave you alone from now on so you both can move on with your lives.

Best of luck.

 

[Limlim]

maybe you're really good at "flinging?"

 

[Dessa]

He just wants angry sex. Haha stalk him and make it seem like you love him. I'm sure that'll prompt him to run far, far away.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

We men are hunters....
conquard...he hasnt conquard ya...
Thats why some women play hard to get. They understand this...

When trying to catch or keep a woman
A guy might say..shes a biotch blah..blah..blah to other people .
but he still has a desire to conquard her..or might be abusive to her..
to retain control. This methode
works against men..

Thats why relationship gose south...no more chasing...no more fire..no more romance...once he conquard his woman...hell simply wanna conqruad other things..such as his career...

 

[VanillaCreme]

Most men don't have the sense to back off when told to, and hence it turns into a problem, and they get butthurt, and then that's when us women get called sluts and whores and all that good stuff. And none of that would happen if they backed off when we told them to. It's almost like they want to get their feelings hurt, and then flip the script on us like we're the demons from their nightmares...

 

[Sci-Fi]

Sounds like a kinky fetish to me. Maybe you should invest in some black leather and a whip.

 

[Kenny]

You are all wrong. Just goes to show for all the female intuition and intelligence prevalent around these parts, that most of you still don't get it.

Men are possessive. It's not about you Teresa. It's about his ego.

Guys will obsess over keeping a fat nasty one-eyed one-legged toothless hairy-chested witchwoman, if it means preserving our ego and protecting our "catch".

So don't take his behavior as a compliment.

 

[Kenny]

Most men don't have the sense to back off when told to, and hence it turns into a problem, and they get butthurt, and then that's when us women get called sluts and whores and all that good stuff. And none of that would happen if they backed off when we told them to. It's almost like they want to get their feelings hurt, and then flip the script on us like we're the demons from their nightmares...

Sounds like somebody needs a hug.

 

[potato]

Cut off all communication with him. If he persists, look into getting a TPO.

Some guys just need to learn to take a hint and stop the BS.

 

[SofiasMami]

You are all wrong. Just goes to show for all the female intuition and intelligence prevalent around these parts, that most of you still don't get it.

Men are possessive. It's not about you Teresa. It's about his ego.

Guys will obsess over keeping a fat nasty one-eyed one-legged toothless hairy-chested witchwoman, if it means preserving our ego and protecting our "catch".

So don't take his behavior as a compliment.

Haha! Thanks for the ego check. Although I prefer "Mrs. Witchwoman".
It's definitely not about me here. As far as I know, he doesn't even know my last name and that's exactly how I want it, especially now.
I think I will get rid of him with a little reverse psychology and pretend I'm in love with him. Problem solved

Teresa

 

[Dessa]

You are all wrong. Just goes to show for all the female intuition and intelligence prevalent around these parts, that most of you still don't get it.

Men are possessive. It's not about you Teresa. It's about his ego.

Guys will obsess over keeping a fat nasty one-eyed one-legged toothless hairy-chested witchwoman, if it means preserving our ego and protecting our "catch".

So don't take his behavior as a compliment.

Haha! Thanks for the ego check. Although I prefer "Mrs. Witchwoman".
It's definitely not about me here. As far as I know, he doesn't even know my last name and that's exactly how I want it, especially now.
I think I will get rid of him with a little reverse psychology and pretend I'm in love with him. Problem solved

Teresa

Good luck.

 

[VanillaCreme]

Most men don't have the sense to back off when told to, and hence it turns into a problem, and they get butthurt, and then that's when us women get called sluts and whores and all that good stuff. And none of that would happen if they backed off when we told them to. It's almost like they want to get their feelings hurt, and then flip the script on us like we're the demons from their nightmares...

Sounds like somebody needs a hug.

No. I need to find a man who not only has common sense, but uses it. Slim pickings these days.

 

[carizza]

Maybe he had realize that he likes you now that's why his chasing after you. You know people will only realize how much you mean to them when you're gone.