This is so tricky !

[putter65]

I've started seeing this woman, we met thru a mutual friend. After the second date the mutual friend rang me up and told me the woman I was seeing was also seeing this other guy.

I wasn't that bothered and for 3 weeks or so I didn't see her. We kept in touch thru texts and facebook. I could also see on her facebook that she was speaking to the other guy as well.

And then in a week she got more friendly. She invited me down to her house and the mutual friend was also there. The mutual friend dropped hints left, right and centre that this woman liked me and wanted to go out with me. When the mutual friend left, me and this woman kissed for the first time.

In the last 2 weeks or so we have seen each other 3 or 4 times and we seem to be getting closer. I did notice she deleted the other guy from her facebook friends list.

Last night I went down and it was the closest we have been. I'm introducing her to my Dad and Mam this week and she told she was nervous about it. Everything seems okay.

Anyway late last night I noticed she had added the other guy back on facebook friends list. Normally it wouldn't matter but I do know (from the mutual friend) that she slept with him the first time they met; about 6 weeks ago. She has no idea I know about him and the mutual friend told me not to say anything.

So I can't say anything to her but it does bother me. I didn't sleep all night thinking about what to do. I'm not upset just annoyed and I'm not looking forward to finishing with her. (If I choose to)

I know friends on facebook means nothing but this is different. She's sent me text messages today and I said I was fed up and down but I couldn't say why, so I made up an excuse.

The mutual friend is very keen on us becoming a proper couple. I've told her I can't call her a girlfriend if she is having relationships with other men.

 

[IgnoredOne]

You don't know if she's still having carnal relations with him. Be honest and confront her?

 

[putter65]

You don't know if she's still having carnal relations with him. Be honest and confront her?

Like I said it's hard to say anything without spilling the beans that the mutual friend told me everything about this other guy.

I've had several texts from the mutual friend in the last hour telling me she isn't seeing him and is only interested in me. So it looks like they have been swapping texts with each other.

 

[Sci-Fi]

Oh you gotta love teenage drama like this. Should stop when you get older. You'll either need to confront her or just let it go. You don't have to name names, just be tactful in how you approach it. Just mention someone told you that she had a past with this other guy, you don't necessarily have to come out and say, "I heard you're dating another guy wtf", and you just want to know where she stands with him. If others are texting you telling you she's just interested in you then she might already know something is going around. Keep your eyes open, make judgements for yourself.

 

[jjam]

Oh you gotta love teenage drama like this. Should stop when you get older.

Something tells me you're in for a big surprise...

 

[Sci-Fi]

Oh you gotta love teenage drama like this. Should stop when you get older.

Something tells me you're in for a big surprise...

I was being sarcastic. I've already had that big surprise too many times to be surprised anymore.

 

[putter65]

Oh you gotta love teenage drama like this. Should stop when you get older.

Something tells me you're in for a big surprise...

I was being sarcastic. I've already had that big surprise too many times to be surprised anymore.

Not sure what happened. I think the mutual friend sent her a text saying what had happened. My friend sent 8 text messages and rang me 4 times. I was at work and my mobile was at home. She came to see me at work was half happy to see me, half mad at me. She said I have nothing to worry about, he is just a friend. I got home and sent a text saying sorry and I liked her very much and she replied saying the same. The mutual friend seems to have the hump about something not sure what. lol !

 

[kamya]

Hmm. Well at least I can say confidently that you shouldn't worry too much about how the mutual friend feels about all of this. Any guy would be thinking the same things in your shoes.

 

[putter65]

Hmm. Well at least I can say confidently that you shouldn't worry too much about how the mutual friend feels about all of this. Any guy would be thinking the same things in your shoes.

At least it's out in the open. I feel things will move on now. Feels so strange having a girlfriend. I find myself wondering why she likes me, stuff like that.

 

[TheSolitaryMan]

EDIT - Oops. I totally missed the bit where you said you got it resolved >_<

Good luck with it all, I hope it works out

 

[putter65]

EDIT - Oops. I totally missed the bit where you said you got it resolved >_<

Good luck with it all, I hope it works out

Thanks.

I think my girlfriend and the mutual friend have had a fall out by the looks of it but they will probably get back together again. It has happened before.

 

[kamya]

I see. Well, good luck dood! Hopefully things work out

 

[putter65]

I see. Well, good luck dood! Hopefully things work out

thanks !

 

[IgnoredOne]

Usually girlfriends should not include too much lack of trust/suspicion, at least if its a healthy relationship.