Very Lonely In New York City

[newyorkguy]

Hey Everyone,
I thought I would write a little something in hopes of finding some true platonic friends. Im a 43 year old man and Im gay. Im in a very long term relationship and have a teenage son. I also have a physical disability being in a wheelchair with a spinal cord injury. However, Ive never let it limit me. I drive a car, wheel myself around town and am totally independent. Im attractive and people often say I look younger. My biggest problem is loneliness. Ive never had any true platonic friends that I can just hang with and be myself. Since my teen years it has always been difficult for me to find friends. Im not sure why? Maybe its shyness? Im really not sure. But Ive reached a point in life where it would be a welcome change. My home life is good, but I often feel its just not enough. Having a social life outside of the family structure is important. So, if you would be interested in talking, that would be cool. Im not picky, but would prefer if you live in the New York City or Northern New Jersey area. Male or female, gay or straight. It really doesnt matter to me. If your a gay man, please be respectful of my relationship. Im not looking for anything at all. Above all just be kind and non-judgemental. Those are the two qualities that matter most to me. Anyway, thanks!

 

[Misanthrope23]

very lonely in new jersey

 

[Sigma]

Sorry not american, and probably around the age of your son, but I'm gonna say welcome anyway
So, uh, welcome.
Hope this aint too personal of a question but what about your partner, doesn't he have friends you can hang out with?

 

[Veruca]

Hi newyorkguy, welcome to the forum. I am sorry about your injury. Its very admirable that you live an independent life though. I hope you find some friends here and feel less lonely soon

 

[ladyforsaken]

^ What Veruca said. Welcome, NYG! Hope you find what you're looking for here.

 

[Regumika]

I, for one, am totally open to anything platonic. im not bias, or judgmental. Though I do love math physics, so there might be some 'if, then'. but nothing that would cause issues. Sometimes im called the robot.

 

[WL7.3]

Hey Everyone,
I thought I would write a little something in hopes of finding some true platonic friends. Im a 43 year old man and Im gay. Im in a very long term relationship and have a teenage son. I also have a physical disability being in a wheelchair with a spinal cord injury. However, Ive never let it limit me. I drive a car, wheel myself around town and am totally independent. Im attractive and people often say I look younger. My biggest problem is loneliness. Ive never had any true platonic friends that I can just hang with and be myself. Since my teen years it has always been difficult for me to find friends. Im not sure why? Maybe its shyness? Im really not sure. But Ive reached a point in life where it would be a welcome change. My home life is good, but I often feel its just not enough. Having a social life outside of the family structure is important. So, if you would be interested in talking, that would be cool. Im not picky, but would prefer if you live in the New York City or Northern New Jersey area. Male or female, gay or straight. It really doesnt matter to me. If your a gay man, please be respectful of my relationship. Im not looking for anything at all. Above all just be kind and non-judgemental. Those are the two qualities that matter most to me. Anyway, thanks!

Hi, I've always had difficulty making friends as well and I don't know why. I think besides being introverted and shy, maybe my life has made so many subtle turns in uncommon directions that I can't connect with people anymore, although I can get along with most of them. I live in Ca. and I know you prefer someone in your area. Just thought I'd say hey.

 

[Complex7]

Hey Everyone,
I thought I would write a little something in hopes of finding some true platonic friends. Im a 43 year old man and Im gay. Im in a very long term relationship and have a teenage son. I also have a physical disability being in a wheelchair with a spinal cord injury. However, Ive never let it limit me. I drive a car, wheel myself around town and am totally independent. Im attractive and people often say I look younger. My biggest problem is loneliness. Ive never had any true platonic friends that I can just hang with and be myself. Since my teen years it has always been difficult for me to find friends. Im not sure why? Maybe its shyness? Im really not sure. But Ive reached a point in life where it would be a welcome change. My home life is good, but I often feel its just not enough. Having a social life outside of the family structure is important. So, if you would be interested in talking, that would be cool. Im not picky, but would prefer if you live in the New York City or Northern New Jersey area. Male or female, gay or straight. It really doesnt matter to me. If your a gay man, please be respectful of my relationship. Im not looking for anything at all. Above all just be kind and non-judgemental. Those are the two qualities that matter most to me. Anyway, thanks!

Hello Newyorkguy,

Welcome to the forum, I am new here as well and it has been enjoyable so far, most are welcoming. I am in NYC as well, maybe we can PM. I admire your courage, not allowing your disability to hold you back.