Weddings and Anniversaries

[GraceBlossom]

Just wondered how the single people here feel when they go to these.

My Parents have been married for nearly 50 years soon, and they are having a small get together at home. I hadn't thought about it much until my Dad asked me to help him with it. I am thrilled for them, it is so lovely and I am always so, so happy to see and hear about couples who are happy. It just makes me sad also, now that I am divorced it hit me I am highly unlikely that I will ever have a 50th Wedding Anniversary, let alone anyone wanting to marry me.

I went to a wedding when my marriage was ending and I was heartbroken the whole day. I have another wedding to go to next year and wonder how I feel then.

 

[duff]

Just wondered how the single people here feel when they go to these.

My Parents have been married for nearly 50 years soon, and they are having a small get together at home. I hadn't thought about it much until my Dad asked me to help him with it. I am thrilled for them, it is so lovely and I am always so, so happy to see and hear about couples who are happy. It just makes me sad also, now that I am divorced it hit me I am highly unlikely that I will ever have a 50th Wedding Anniversary, let alone anyone wanting to marry me.

I went to a wedding when my marriage was ending and I was heartbroken the whole day. I have another wedding to go to next year and wonder how I feel then.

I have never been to a wedding. Probably won't go to one either. My parents are divorced. Neither will get married again. My older brother doesn't believe in it and my younger brother has less chance than me.

When I see couples in general, I have that little twinge of bitterness, jealously and knowledge that I am somehow 'not good enough' to be in a similar situation.

 

[9006]

Sorry to hear about your broken marriage. But I'd try not to associate bad feelings with weddings, otherwise you'd always reluctant and full of dread.

To be honest I see weddings as just another family get together after Birthdays and Funerals. Obviously I'd feel differently about my own, and I'm happy for the people who are getting married. But if I was to attend one about now, I'd be dreading the 'What you up to these days' questions I'd be getting from people I haven't seen for a while.

But I could get around this by explaining that I'm a bum.

PS; nice teeth.

 

[Tiina63]

I've only been to a couple of weddings and that was back in my childhood. I would find it painful to go to one now because, as Duff says, when I see loving couples, I wonder what is wrong with me that I can't find someone. It makes me feel that I'm not good enough or worth enough to be loved.

 

[Solivagant]

Weddings are a social nightmare for me. They are very difficult and depressing, and I avoid them when I can, but I've been obligated to attend many of them in the last several years. At the one where I stayed through the bouquet toss, I was the only single woman there to catch it. I took it in good humor but I felt awful inside. It is painful to have my loneliness rubbed in my face.

 

[GraceBlossom]

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I have never been to a wedding. Probably won't go to one either. My parents are divorced. Neither will get married again. My older brother doesn't believe in it and my younger brother has less chance than me.

When I see couples in general, I have that little twinge of bitterness, jealously and knowledge that I am somehow 'not good enough' to be in a similar situation.
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I feel the same way when I see couples and families, wishing I had someone to share whatever I am doing with them. When I had the bbq at the weekend the two families I invited where both in couples, so while our children were playing it was the two couples and myself, and I had a twinge then, it would have been lovely to have shared the laughs with a nice guy too.

Duff, if you are half the man I have seen here ANY woman would be lucky to have you.

That goes for all the lovely people on this site, everyone is worthy of someone, it doesn't feel that way to a lot of us, but we have so much to offer to that one special person we click with.

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Sorry to hear about your broken marriage. But I'd try not to associate bad feelings with weddings, otherwise you'd always reluctant and full of dread.

To be honest I see weddings as just another family get together after Birthdays and Funerals. Obviously I'd feel differently about my own, and I'm happy for the people who are getting married. But if I was to attend one about now, I'd be dreading the 'What you up to these days' questions I'd be getting from people I haven't seen for a while.

But I could get around this by explaining that I'm a bum.

PS; nice teeth.

Thanks about my marriage, I am over it, it ended three years ago, and it hasn't put me off getting married again. On the contrary it showed me that and I have seen in other couples how wonderful it can be.

I am sure you are not a bum lol.

p.s. thanks for the teeth comment, it is the only photo I have of myself that I like, the rest of me is terrible!

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Posted by Solivagant - Today 11:26 AM
Weddings are a social nightmare for me. They are very difficult and depressing, and I avoid them when I can, but I've been obligated to attend many of them in the last several years. At the one where I stayed through the bouquet toss, I was the only single woman there to catch it. I took it in good humor but I felt awful inside. It is painful to have my loneliness rubbed in my face.
Posted by Tiina63 - Today 10:32 AM
I've only been to a couple of weddings and that was back in my childhood. I would find it painful to go to one now because, as Duff says, when I see loving couples, I wonder what is wrong with me that I can't find someone. It makes me feel that I'm not good enough or worth enough to be loved.

I know how you both feel *big hugs* .

 

[duff]

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I have never been to a wedding. Probably won't go to one either. My parents are divorced. Neither will get married again. My older brother doesn't believe in it and my younger brother has less chance than me.

When I see couples in general, I have that little twinge of bitterness, jealously and knowledge that I am somehow 'not good enough' to be in a similar situation.

I feel the same way when I see couples and families, wishing I had someone to share whatever I am doing with them. When I had the bbq at the weekend the two families I invited where both in couples, so while our children were playing it was the two couples and myself, and I had a twinge then, it would have been lovely to have shared the laughs with a nice guy too.

Duff, if you are half the man I have seen here ANY woman would be lucky to have you.

That goes for all the lovely people on this site, everyone is worthy of someone, it doesn't feel that way to a lot of us, but we have so much to offer to that one special person we click with.

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Sorry to hear about your broken marriage. But I'd try not to associate bad feelings with weddings, otherwise you'd always reluctant and full of dread.

To be honest I see weddings as just another family get together after Birthdays and Funerals. Obviously I'd feel differently about my own, and I'm happy for the people who are getting married. But if I was to attend one about now, I'd be dreading the 'What you up to these days' questions I'd be getting from people I haven't seen for a while.

But I could get around this by explaining that I'm a bum.

PS; nice teeth.

Thanks about my marriage, I am over it, it ended three years ago, and it hasn't put me off getting married again. On the contrary it showed me that and I have seen in other couples how wonderful it can be.

I am sure you are not a bum lol.

p.s. thanks for the teeth comment, it is the only photo I have of myself that I like, the rest of me is terrible!

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Posted by Solivagant - Today 11:26 AM
Weddings are a social nightmare for me. They are very difficult and depressing, and I avoid them when I can, but I've been obligated to attend many of them in the last several years. At the one where I stayed through the bouquet toss, I was the only single woman there to catch it. I took it in good humor but I felt awful inside. It is painful to have my loneliness rubbed in my face.
Posted by Tiina63 - Today 10:32 AM
I've only been to a couple of weddings and that was back in my childhood. I would find it painful to go to one now because, as Duff says, when I see loving couples, I wonder what is wrong with me that I can't find someone. It makes me feel that I'm not good enough or worth enough to be loved.

I know how you both feel *big hugs* .
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thanks for the kind words, Grace !

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I've only been to a couple of weddings and that was back in my childhood. I would find it painful to go to one now because, as Duff says, when I see loving couples, I wonder what is wrong with me that I can't find someone. It makes me feel that I'm not good enough or worth enough to be loved.

The thing is I don't feel inferior about all things. I go to work with confidence knowing I can do a great job. I know when I step on the golf course I can play better than most !

I just feel inferior when it comes to attracting someone !
It's there and always will be ! (Unless I meet somebody of course !)

 

[VanillaCreme]

I'm not fond of weddings. Probably because I had to help put my brother's together in 6 days, with a limited amount of money. And neither my brother or his wife appreciated it... or anything else.

I've never been to an anniversary event though. I don't really see a point in holding those. It's like, okay, you've been married for 50 years... and? My parents were married for nearly 30 years, and never made a deal out of it.

 

[ladyforsaken]

Sorry you have to go through that, Grace. :\

I tend to have a lot of relative weddings since I have a large number of relatives (people back then used to have umpteen number of babies each). Since most of my older cousins have gotten married, I'm next in line, so whenever I go to a relative's wedding..... you know what happens.

I think I'm pretty much immuned to people pressuring me to get married or wanting to fix me up with someone. It's ridiculous, especially when they know how I feel about it.

 

[LoneKiller]

I hate to say it, but my sister's wedding was a drag. It's nice to see 2 people in love like that, but weddings just don't do it for me. In any way.