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BLACK MAN

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So I've been friends with a girl for a good 7 months and was planning on asking her out. I'm one of the most awkward out of place people on the planet (in my opinion) and haven't had a girlfriend in 3 years. So before I was going to ask her out, I asked some pals on Facebook on how to do it. One of them happened to be her ex-boyfriend of over a year together that she still had feelings for. I asked him what he did and he said he was straightforward with it, which is what i planned to do. So, the night before I was going to ask her out, she made a status on Facebook, which basically says she won't go out with anyone that isn't her ex, or some singer in an emo rock band or something. I knew what was coming, and it finally came. She messaged me a big long rant about how I'm an ******* for wanting to go out with her and that I'm immature and would never last in a serious relationship and that her ex was way better. We're still friends, but our relationship is strained to the point where we hardly ever talk. This all happened about 2 days ago, and I feel sad and angry at the same time. Does anyone have advice or something? I feel awful.[/size][/font]
 
BLACK MAN said:
She messaged me a big long rant about how I'm an ******* for wanting to go out with her and that I'm immature and would never last in a serious relationship and that her ex was way better. We're still friends,

WHY??
She called you names and insulted you.
 
EveWasFramed said:
BLACK MAN said:
She messaged me a big long rant about how I'm an ******* for wanting to go out with her and that I'm immature and would never last in a serious relationship and that her ex was way better. We're still friends,

WHY??
She called you names and insulted you.

Because she's one of my very few female friends and lunch would be super awkward if we didn't talk to each other.
 
BLACK MAN said:
EveWasFramed said:
BLACK MAN said:
She messaged me a big long rant about how I'm an ******* for wanting to go out with her and that I'm immature and would never last in a serious relationship and that her ex was way better. We're still friends,

WHY??
She called you names and insulted you.

Because she's one of my very few female friends and lunch would be super awkward if we didn't talk to each other.

I don't know - I don't speak to my friends the way she spoke to you. Seems a bit odd to me.
Unless you guys are teenagers, maybe?
 
EveWasFramed said:
BLACK MAN said:
EveWasFramed said:
BLACK MAN said:
She messaged me a big long rant about how I'm an ******* for wanting to go out with her and that I'm immature and would never last in a serious relationship and that her ex was way better. We're still friends,

WHY??
She called you names and insulted you.

Because she's one of my very few female friends and lunch would be super awkward if we didn't talk to each other.

I don't know - I don't speak to my friends the way she spoke to you. Seems a bit odd to me.
Unless you guys are teenagers, maybe?

Uh yeah, we are.
 
BLACK MAN said:
EveWasFramed said:
BLACK MAN said:
EveWasFramed said:
BLACK MAN said:
She messaged me a big long rant about how I'm an ******* for wanting to go out with her and that I'm immature and would never last in a serious relationship and that her ex was way better. We're still friends,

WHY??
She called you names and insulted you.

Because she's one of my very few female friends and lunch would be super awkward if we didn't talk to each other.

I don't know - I don't speak to my friends the way she spoke to you. Seems a bit odd to me.
Unless you guys are teenagers, maybe?

Uh yeah, we are.

OK...that makes more sense then. Not being insulting or anything...it's just been my experience that teens are generally more forgiving of those types of insults is all I meant.

That's a pretty awkward situation you find yourself it. Seems you can keep her as a friend but she definitely isn't interested in anything more.
 
See this is a reason why I used to (well still do but not as much) be really worried about asking girls out for fear of rejection. And for her to be that aggressive about it? I think she is the immature one obviously you have feelings for her yet she just seemed to attack you where it hurts. You should let her know who sad and angry you are from what she said to her, maybe if you show your more assertive side and let her know that what she said was out of order she might respect you more.
 
Dear-_-Tragedy said:
See this is a reason why I used to (well still do but not as much) be really worried about asking girls out for fear of rejection. And for her to be that aggressive about it? I think she is the immature one obviously you have feelings for her yet she just seemed to attack you where it hurts. You should let her know who sad and angry you are from what she said to her, maybe if you show your more assertive side and let her know that what she said was out of order she might respect you more.

I don't know, that sounds pretty bad. But hey, I did get a girls number out of her feeling bad for me so I dunno, maybe a hope spot?
 
Well. considering you are at that age still.. I wouldnt take relationships too seriously. everyone your age will soon have to make life changing decisions for the first time in their life. PLUS, no one has any real experience with relationships to make a quality decision on what to do. stay together/break up. It is a time of opportunity, freedom, responsibility. Sometimes relationship is just lost in all of the things that has to be done.

basically, just roll with the ball for now.
 

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