What do you make of this ?

[putter65]

This woman at work (I've mentioned her before - I call her flirty woman)

Well she came in today, moaning and complaining about her life, saying she was stuck in a rut and had nothing to look forward to etc

So I felt sorry for her a bit.

I went upto to her and said 'I'm off next week, shall we do something ?'

She said 'yes. that's what I need'

So I said 'well if you could give me your mobile number before I leave then I'll get in touch'

Anyway I walk away thinking 'that went well'

So we carry on working and I'm expecting her to hand me a piece of paper with her number on it but she doesn't. Hours go by and we are still chatting like normal but no number. She goes to have her lunch and actually looks at her phone while I'm close by, still no number.

So it's time to leave, so I get my things and go. I say goodbye to everybody. She didn't say goodbye, everybody else did.

I'm not hurt or upset, I more think 'her loss' and 'she's had her chance'

 

[Pheenix]

Sounds like she forgot.

 

[Sci-Fi]

Could be she was a bit nervous about giving you her number. Not saying she didn't want to. What could have been running through her head might be; omg was he serious, does he really want to do something with me after I complained about my life, should I really give him my number, would he actually call me? Or...she could have been thinking, omg is he going to want *** out of me?

How come you didn't give her your number at the end of the day instead?

 

[putter65]

I never gave my number because I don't know it offhand. Only 2 people know my number because nobody else has asked for it. I hardly use my mobile.

A month ago she asked me to goto lunch with her. (in her dinner break at work) I was busy so I couldn't go but I did say sorry and we'll have to 'go sometime' - since I've got some free time next week and she was feeling down in the dumps - I thought I was been nice.

 

[TheSolitaryMan]

Yeah, I don't get this either. I'd go with her forgetting, but at the same time, it's really weird how girls act sometimes.

Even the ones that seem most interested don't seem to be too hot on replying to invites and things. That's what I've found in my small experience thus far anyway :|

 

[Limlim]

It coulda just been one of those things where they agree to do something just for the sake of making conversation where they in turn think the request itself is BS to begin with.

For example - last week my buddy was going away for 6 months and was like "welp going away on monday, we should get in a game of squash on saturday before I go"

Me - "yeah totally, squash will be fun"

I walked away from that encounter knowing we weren't going to play squash and so was he. Sure enough neither of us called on saturday see if the other was available because somehow we both knew it was just a "we should do **** sometime" conversation.

Not really anything wrong with that, so long as both people kinda know the lingo.

 

[putter65]

Well this woman is that flirty that even I have noticed. I think she likes me and for a few months I've been so so about her. But today I thought why not ? Going for a meal isn't anything really. That's all I saw it as, going for a meal with a co worker as friends. How she responded 'yes' while almost choking on her coffee was what I expected. What happened after wasn't. Can't understand it. We did still carry on talking, there wasn't any sulking going on. And she didn't forget because she never said 'goodbye' and she always does that.

 

[LoneKiller]

You are probably not going to like what I have to say, but you seem like a decent guy with a good heart and I don't want to see you get hurt. It's my opinion that she is using you. Big time!

In my last reply I was happy that you found someone, until I read this post. I know that I'm new here and still have to meet a lot of members, but I've had my share of women who have used me.

Your are just a convenience to her.

"....So we carry on working and I'm expecting her to hand me a piece of paper with her number on it but she doesn't. Hours go by and we are still chatting like normal but no number. She goes to have her lunch and actually looks at her phone while I'm close by, still no number..."

I'm no relationship expert, but I do have experience. I don't think that she respects you. I don't want you to get heart broken and become bitter. She knows how much you like her and she is using that to her advantage. Why do you think that she isn't giving you her digits?

She might already have a boyfriend that she doesn't want you to know about. I have nothing against women in general, lots of men do the same thing to women. Just be careful and guard your heart. If you lose that you will never get it back. Again, I'm no relationship expert, and your personal life is your personal life.I just figured that since you posted it here that it was ok to comment.

Please don't take all this the wrong way. I'm just concerned about you even though we have never met in person. Let her make the next move. If you push too hard, you might regret it. It makes you look desperate.

Hope this helps man.
LoneKiller

P.S. I'm 36yo and have some experience with this kind of thing.

 

[putter65]

You are probably not going to like what I have to say, but you seem like a decent guy with a good heart and I don't want to see you get hurt. It's my opinion that she is using you. Big time!

In my last reply I was happy that you found someone, until I read this post. I know that I'm new here and still have to meet a lot of members, but I've had my share of women who have used me.

Your are just a convenience to her.

"....So we carry on working and I'm expecting her to hand me a piece of paper with her number on it but she doesn't. Hours go by and we are still chatting like normal but no number. She goes to have her lunch and actually looks at her phone while I'm close by, still no number..."

I'm no relationship expert, but I do have experience. I don't think that she respects you. I don't want you to get heart broken and become bitter. She knows how much you like her and she is using that to her advantage. Why do you think that she isn't giving you her digits?

She might already have a boyfriend that she doesn't want you to know about. I have nothing against women in general, lots of men do the same thing to women. Just be careful and guard your heart. If you lose that you will never get it back. Again, I'm no relationship expert, and your personal life is your personal life.I just figured that since you posted it here that it was ok to comment.

Please don't take all this the wrong way. I'm just concerned about you even though we have never met in person. Let her make the next move. If you push too hard, you might regret it. It makes you look desperate.

Hope this helps man.
LoneKiller

P.S. I'm 36yo and have some experience with this kind of thing.

Hello, thanks for your reply. I'm not sure if your getting mixed up with all these women I go on about.

The woman who this thread is about - I call flirty woman. I don't care about her one bit to be honest. She's ok, I chat with her at work. Not seen her outside of work. What happened yesterday didn't break my heart. Not one bit. I just think of it as 'her loss' - I've told one woman at work that's it. She didn't understand it either, couldn't understand why she didn't give me her number.

There is another woman I call 'golf woman'. I do care about her, very much. We play golf together and we went on Tuesday. I do have her mobile number and she has a boyfriend who she talks about to me openly. I don't think she has any idea how much I like her but I am content with this woman just been a friend. And if we continue playing golf then I will happy.

 

[LoneKiller]

You are probably not going to like what I have to say, but you seem like a decent guy with a good heart and I don't want to see you get hurt. It's my opinion that she is using you. Big time!

In my last reply I was happy that you found someone, until I read this post. I know that I'm new here and still have to meet a lot of members, but I've had my share of women who have used me.

Your are just a convenience to her.

"....So we carry on working and I'm expecting her to hand me a piece of paper with her number on it but she doesn't. Hours go by and we are still chatting like normal but no number. She goes to have her lunch and actually looks at her phone while I'm close by, still no number..."

I'm no relationship expert, but I do have experience. I don't think that she respects you. I don't want you to get heart broken and become bitter. She knows how much you like her and she is using that to her advantage. Why do you think that she isn't giving you her digits?

She might already have a boyfriend that she doesn't want you to know about. I have nothing against women in general, lots of men do the same thing to women. Just be careful and guard your heart. If you lose that you will never get it back. Again, I'm no relationship expert, and your personal life is your personal life.I just figured that since you posted it here that it was ok to comment.

Please don't take all this the wrong way. I'm just concerned about you even though we have never met in person. Let her make the next move. If you push too hard, you might regret it. It makes you look desperate.

Hope this helps man.
LoneKiller

P.S. I'm 36yo and have some experience with this kind of thing.

Hello, thanks for your reply. I'm not sure if your getting mixed up with all these women I go on about.

The woman who this thread is about - I call flirty woman. I don't care about her one bit to be honest. She's ok, I chat with her at work. Not seen her outside of work. What happened yesterday didn't break my heart. Not one bit. I just think of it as 'her loss' - I've told one woman at work that's it. She didn't understand it either, couldn't understand why she didn't give me her number.

There is another woman I call 'golf woman'. I do care about her, very much. We play golf together and we went on Tuesday. I do have her mobile number and she has a boyfriend who she talks about to me openly. I don't think she has any idea how much I like her but I am content with this woman just been a friend. And if we continue playing golf then I will happy.

I'm glad to hear that. Hope I wasn't disrespectful in any way.

 

[putter65]

You are probably not going to like what I have to say, but you seem like a decent guy with a good heart and I don't want to see you get hurt. It's my opinion that she is using you. Big time!

In my last reply I was happy that you found someone, until I read this post. I know that I'm new here and still have to meet a lot of members, but I've had my share of women who have used me.

Your are just a convenience to her.

"....So we carry on working and I'm expecting her to hand me a piece of paper with her number on it but she doesn't. Hours go by and we are still chatting like normal but no number. She goes to have her lunch and actually looks at her phone while I'm close by, still no number..."

I'm no relationship expert, but I do have experience. I don't think that she respects you. I don't want you to get heart broken and become bitter. She knows how much you like her and she is using that to her advantage. Why do you think that she isn't giving you her digits?

She might already have a boyfriend that she doesn't want you to know about. I have nothing against women in general, lots of men do the same thing to women. Just be careful and guard your heart. If you lose that you will never get it back. Again, I'm no relationship expert, and your personal life is your personal life.I just figured that since you posted it here that it was ok to comment.

Please don't take all this the wrong way. I'm just concerned about you even though we have never met in person. Let her make the next move. If you push too hard, you might regret it. It makes you look desperate.

Hope this helps man.
LoneKiller

P.S. I'm 36yo and have some experience with this kind of thing.

Hello, thanks for your reply. I'm not sure if your getting mixed up with all these women I go on about.

The woman who this thread is about - I call flirty woman. I don't care about her one bit to be honest. She's ok, I chat with her at work. Not seen her outside of work. What happened yesterday didn't break my heart. Not one bit. I just think of it as 'her loss' - I've told one woman at work that's it. She didn't understand it either, couldn't understand why she didn't give me her number.

There is another woman I call 'golf woman'. I do care about her, very much. We play golf together and we went on Tuesday. I do have her mobile number and she has a boyfriend who she talks about to me openly. I don't think she has any idea how much I like her but I am content with this woman just been a friend. And if we continue playing golf then I will happy.

I'm glad to hear that. Hope I wasn't disrespectful in any way.

No, of course not.

 

[jjam]

This may have been asked already, but why would you tell her to give you her number before she/or you'd leave? You should have gotten her number right then. It takes something like 10 seconds to do that, right?

 

[putter65]

This may have been asked already, but why would you tell her to give you her number before she/or you'd leave? You should have gotten her number right then. It takes something like 10 seconds to do that, right?

Good question. I think because we were both working, I didn't think we would have the time. It's a very busy shop. She was on the till when I asked her. There was maybe a customer waiting to get served.

I mean when she was having her lunch, she had her mobile in her hand when I walked by. I stopped and talked to her about something. Why didn't she give me her number then ? Answer - because she didn't want me to have it !

 

[jjam]

You all had time to say all of what was said, but not enough to finish it all off with those digits being tossed out? I don't know, man...
I mean, it's good that it's not a big deal to you. It was big enough to come here, but you said you don't really care so that's good if you mean it. But, whatever. If she really wants to hang, let her come. You've put the invitation out there. Let her follow through with what she said she'd do, or not. I love the ones who don't. It's all I need to see to know it's time to move on. I used to see it as a puzzle game of contradicting actions. Now I see it as "the end of the road..."

 

[putter65]

She is a massive flirt but I have always thought she was all talk. I won't see her again for a couple of weeks because I'm off on holiday next week. Pleased about that.

I asked her because of something my brother said. He said go out with women and you may grow to like them.

 

[LoneKiller]

This may have been asked already, but why would you tell her to give you her number before she/or you'd leave? You should have gotten her number right then. It takes something like 10 seconds to do that, right?

That's not so simple for everyone. The risk of being shot down can be very powerful for some guys. It's an awkward as hell situation.

 

[putter65]

I've never found asking women out easy. It was at work, loads of people milling around. I got the opportunity and went for it. I didn't plan anything and the 'give me your mobile number before I leave' was made up on the spot. Mainly because I didn't know my mobile number. For the first hour or so I expected her to give it to me and I did see her scribbling something onto a piece of paper. But people were near us so I was waiting for a quiet moment. When she went for lunch and started fiddeling about with her mobile in front of me and still didn't give me her number, I knew then she wouldn't. I couldn't wait to get out of there to be honest. I did say a 'goodbye' to everybody including her. She didn't say 'bye' back.

I think either she got cold feet or thought I was making fun of her or maybe she got jealous because I was talking to loads of other women.

 

[putter65]

I'm happy about my attitude over this.

Firstly, I asked a woman out and didn't spend months thinking about it. I just went and did it.

Secondly, I felt calm and composed and in control. I didn't feel nervous.

Thirdly, I didn't get upset about the outcome.

Which was a 'no' and quite a bad one. This is a woman who openly says she is 'looking for a bloke', is in a 'rut' and has 'nothing to look forward to' - despite all this she doesn't want to go for lunch with me or even give me her mobile number. Obviously she was caught off guard and blurted out a 'yes' and then thought about it for a time and changed her mind.

I can't think of any other explanation.

 

[Badjedidude]

Firstly, I asked a woman out and didn't spend months thinking about it. I just went and did it.

Secondly, I felt calm and composed and in control. I didn't feel nervous.

Thirdly, I didn't get upset about the outcome.

Just hold on to this attitude and you're good to go, my friend.

 

[putter65]

Saw her today and she acted normally. She didn't mention what happened and neither did I.

She did complain again about how dull her life and she never goes out etc. Everything I suggested, she had a negative answer. Don't like her and I won't ask her anywhere again. Her loss !