Nettle said:
I have a few questions and would like each one answered please.
1-What are things I should never say to someone with low self-esteem that will hurt them more?
2- What are things I should never DO to someone with low self esteem?
3- What are things I should say to someone with low self-esteem so that they can feel better about themselves?
Is "ignoring" them a bad thing?
Is saying things like "I'll only love/like you" if you do this one thing for me wrong to them?
Ive had low self esteem for a while and am still fighting it, so I can help you out.
1. people who have low self esteem are highly sensitive to ********, as in they know when youre just saying something, so dont throw meaningless compliments at them, it just makes them feel worse.
2. That should be obvious, dont put them in the spotlight or try to bring attention to them.
3. This depends on whether the person has some low self esteem, or downright hates themself. If someone is in this situation, theyre probably trying really hard to make people like them, so let them know that you think theyre cool. If they hate themselves and refuse to take compliments, thats a problem that they need to fix themselves.
4. yes! never, under any circumstance ignore someone with that sort of problem, it will make it much MUCH worse.
5. Why would you say/do that to anyone?
self esteem issues are caused by outside sources "dont blame others for your problem" doesnt apply here (under most circumstances) for example, my parents and teachers made me feel like a failure, always telling me I "looked stupid" or that Im going to grow up to be miserable, so I developed those problems, it wasnt until just recently, that I started to realize that Im not "just some stupid kid" and started fighting back against those thoughts.
So if you really want to help someone, just talk to them about it, help in whatever way you can because they sure as hell need it more than you think.
