Where do I begin?

[Dear-_-Tragedy]

So I like this girl I met a while ago on a night out. She is a friend of a friend so I only met her out of the blue when I went out one night and she was in our group. I was taken aback when I first saw her, she is so beautiful. Anyway we got along well and talked a fair amount on the night out. I even danced with her a bit, just a little bit. So I added her on facebook and she accepted but I didn't speak to her and she didn't speak to me for months until I sent her a message on facebook one night thinking 'what's the worse that could happen?'

So anyway the conversation was like this (not exactly)

me: Hey there
her: heyyy how are youu
me:I'm good thanks and you?
(long wait for reply)
her:I'm good thanks (something like that anyway)
me: so I haven't spoken to you in ages how's uni and stuff?

no reply.

I was a bit upset from this because she flat out left the conversation without saying why and has not replied since. Today however I updated my job on facebook and she 'liked' it just out of the blue and I was surprised! I don't know what that means I should do, should I talk to her again? If so what should I say? I have a feeling she is just clearly not into me but as people have said there is no way of knowing for sure.

Also today on the way to work there was this really attractive girl who sat opposite me. I kept looking at her now and then and she kept looking at me. I wish I had the courage to have said something to her now :/ or is a train full of people not the best place to talk to a girl?

One last thing. There are so many attractive girls in my new job it is unreal. Should I get to know them more in the hopes of developing a relationship or should I not do such a thing because they work with me?

 

[Edward W]

Get to know them as friends. If more develops great, if not you'll still have a friendly work environment.

 

[9006]

******* stupid Facebook problems; we need a sticky thread about this damn place.

It's too easy to be ignorant on places like that, the majority of people on there are shallow and only talk to the people they feel is worth their time, for males it's "fit" girls prioritised by "fittest" first then declining, and for females it's social stature and hunks with their tops off in order of celebrities, then handsome guys.

Don't take anything to heart on these places, "Likes" don't mean ****, this is simply people clicking because they're either bored (80%), they slipped (15%) or they actually meant it (5%).

Think of it this way: if you stopped her in the street and spoke, she'd find it hard to just say a few things to you then walk off when you're waiting for a response.

As for the girl on the train, you could try and talk to her and show that you're interested, but in a populated places such as this it's highly recommended that you're confident, and know what to say in most situations; unles you don't give a **** what people think and don't care about rejection (just in case, of course!).

You seem to be looking at girls from everywhere, I wouldn't be so desperate if I were you (not saying you are, but you have mentioned girls from three different places).

 

[perfanoff]

******* stupid Facebook problems; we need a sticky thread about this damn place.

It's too easy to be ignorant on places like that, the majority of people on there are shallow and only talk to the people they feel is worth their time, for males it's "fit" girls prioritised by "fittest" first then declining, and for females it's social stature and hunks with their tops off in order of celebrities, then handsome guys.

Don't take anything to heart on these places, "Likes" don't mean ****, this is simply people clicking because they're either bored (80%), they slipped (15%) or they actually meant it (5%).

Think of it this way: if you stopped her in the street and spoke, she'd find it hard to just say a few things to you then walk off when you're waiting for a response.

As for the girl on the train, you could try and talk to her and show that you're interested, but in a populated places such as this it's highly recommended that you're confident, and know what to say in most situations; unles you don't give a **** what people think and don't care about rejection (just in case, of course!).

You seem to be looking at girls from everywhere, I wouldn't be so desperate if I were you (not saying you are, but you have mentioned girls from three different places).

I tend to agree with that. I feel like Facebook is one of the worst places to find a SO.. or even a friend.

 

[VanillaCreme]

I tend to agree with that. I feel like Facebook is one of the worst places to find a SO.. or even a friend.

Facebook's intent isn't to help find a person to date, or even find friends really. It's a place - a site - that helps you keep in contact with people you already know. People you went to school with, people you work with, and family members. Never once have I ever seen them advertise themselves as a place where you'll find the love of your life.

 

[9006]

I tend to agree with that. I feel like Facebook is one of the worst places to find a SO.. or even a friend.

Facebook's intent isn't to help find a person to date, or even find friends really. It's a place - a site - that helps you keep in contact with people you already know. People you went to school with, people you work with, and family members. Never once have I ever seen them advertise themselves as a place where you'll find the love of your life.

You're right, but only a small amount probably use it for it's intended use. It's like a dating site for teenagers.

 

[Dear-_-Tragedy]

people are forgetting how facebook was born. Please watch the social network.

 

[9006]

people are forgetting how facebook was born. Please watch the social network.

Haha!

Are you referring to Facemash? I can't see how this is relevant?

 

[perfanoff]

I tend to agree with that. I feel like Facebook is one of the worst places to find a SO.. or even a friend.

Facebook's intent isn't to help find a person to date, or even find friends really. It's a place - a site - that helps you keep in contact with people you already know. People you went to school with, people you work with, and family members. Never once have I ever seen them advertise themselves as a place where you'll find the love of your life.

Facebook simply is what it is - Zuckerberg's intent when making this site is irrelevant (which is in this case, rating girls on the 1 to 10 scale lol)

It has the facility to contact people you don't know so it CAN be used for things like that.

 

[VanillaCreme]

I tend to agree with that. I feel like Facebook is one of the worst places to find a SO.. or even a friend.

Facebook's intent isn't to help find a person to date, or even find friends really. It's a place - a site - that helps you keep in contact with people you already know. People you went to school with, people you work with, and family members. Never once have I ever seen them advertise themselves as a place where you'll find the love of your life.

You're right, but only a small amount probably use it for it's intended use. It's like a dating site for teenagers.

I'm far removed from a teenager now. I have no idea what the youngins are doing now days. Poppin' and lockin' still, I would figure. Old me :rolleyes2:

 

[9006]

I tend to agree with that. I feel like Facebook is one of the worst places to find a SO.. or even a friend.

Facebook's intent isn't to help find a person to date, or even find friends really. It's a place - a site - that helps you keep in contact with people you already know. People you went to school with, people you work with, and family members. Never once have I ever seen them advertise themselves as a place where you'll find the love of your life.

You're right, but only a small amount probably use it for it's intended use. It's like a dating site for teenagers.

I'm far removed from a teenager now. I have no idea what the youngins are doing now days. Poppin' and lockin' still, I would figure. Old me :rolleyes2:

You're only young as you feel

 

[aspalas]

It's not like a dating site for teenagers... It's a way of staying connected. I wouldn't really care about what people like/don't like or say/don't say on facebook, because it doesn't mean anything at all.

 

[ladyforsaken]

Also today on the way to work there was this really attractive girl who sat opposite me. I kept looking at her now and then and she kept looking at me. I wish I had the courage to have said something to her now :/ or is a train full of people not the best place to talk to a girl?

One last thing. There are so many attractive girls in my new job it is unreal. Should I get to know them more in the hopes of developing a relationship or should I not do such a thing because they work with me?

Sorry to hear about what happened with that friend friend!

About the girl in the train, it's not easy, I mean I would need some serious brave courage to talk to a stranger in a train full of people! A bit awkward but I suppose it's okay if you're all right with it.

As for your workplace, I gotta agree with Edward. Be friends first with them first. No harm done. Anything more or special can come from the one who is outstanding and is compatible with you. You wouldn't wanna get into a mess of pretty ladies at your workplace by dating them all!

 

[duff]

Also today on the way to work there was this really attractive girl who sat opposite me. I kept looking at her now and then and she kept looking at me. I wish I had the courage to have said something to her now :/ or is a train full of people not the best place to talk to a girl?

One last thing. There are so many attractive girls in my new job it is unreal. Should I get to know them more in the hopes of developing a relationship or should I not do such a thing because they work with me?

Sorry to hear about what happened with that friend friend!

About the girl in the train, it's not easy, I mean I would need some serious brave courage to talk to a stranger in a train full of people! A bit awkward but I suppose it's okay if you're all right with it.

As for your workplace, I gotta agree with Edward. Be friends first with them first. No harm done. Anything more or special can come from the one who is outstanding and is compatible with you. You wouldn't wanna get into a mess of pretty ladies at your workplace by dating them all!

I always think if your having a chat conversation with somebody on facebook and they are taking ages to answer then they are probably chatting to someone else as well.

As for 'likes' - they could mean something. A few times a woman from work has been mad at me for some reason and during that time she hasn't 'liked' any of my posts. And then when we get back talking she likes my posts and photo's again. It's pathetic but it happens.

 

[Dear-_-Tragedy]

Well that girl I like on facebook messaged me back today saying sorry for late reply. So she was probably busy idk. I sent her another message back but she didn't reply to this one yet either. I don't know whether she is just pretending to be busy or what... I'll just be patient because hopefully she is going out with me and my friends next week! fingers crossed!