WHY BEING ALONE IS GOOD
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It's like I've said before; it is not autistic people that need to be fixed in order to fit in with society, because autistic people are not broken, it is the societies of which are broken; in that they raise people wholesale to be frustrated, ignorant, judgemental, and not accepting of any viewpoints, mentalities, or methods of cognition, and processing that fall outside the lines of the mainstream.
To the point, it's not that intelligent people prefer to be alone, but rather that we live in societies that raise people to actively shame, and reject intelligent people. So it's the mainstream negative aspects of people, that those with higher intellect avoid, not just 'people' in general.
This short video describes what I've said in a great amount of detail given the length.
That said, I honestly can't believe that the majority would prefer loneliness over human companionship. I mean, it's one thing to want to be alone now and then, or take a temporary break from people, but that's not abnormal.
As well, there's a difference between wanting some time alone, or actually being alone, and experiencing a life of loneliness. There's a reason why Tom Hanks was talkin to a fukin volleyball in Castaway, lol.. People generally can't handle being alone for extended periods of time. We're emotional creatures, and many of us run constant validation checks with those we are around; not because we need to be validated, but because we long to feel accepted, and moreover, to feel 'seen'; like there's someone that not only acknowledges our existence, but is actually somewhat stimulated by our presence, and will make a big deal if we stop talking, disappear, or pass away.
And for those that insist that they're perfectly happy to be alone (for years or more at a time), either A: you don't know what real loneliness is (IE: you still have people around you regularly, and still feel accepted), or B: You're lying to yourself as a method of coping. Basically cognitive dissonance, self-grooming/brainwashing in order to manage in an otherwise hopeless scenario.
The problem with the above coping mechanism, is that you aren't the only person that's alone. So when 'Just get used to being alone, it's not so bad' becomes the mainstream coping mechanism, then that many more people will be alone because you deny them your companionship.
At that point, the world becomes the living embodiment of these forums. Everyone sad, depressed, frustrated, and angsty with one another because of their inability to form proper bonds with those around them, but nobody willing to attempt to open themselves up and make a real/solid connection. A world of temporary friendships, and disposable relationships, one in which people become nothing more than another commodity, a nuisance, or an infestation/parasite* of sorts , and not really seen as human beings at all..
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To the point, it's not that intelligent people prefer to be alone, but rather that we live in societies that raise people to actively shame, and reject intelligent people. So it's the mainstream negative aspects of people, that those with higher intellect avoid, not just 'people' in general.
This short video describes what I've said in a great amount of detail given the length.
That said, I honestly can't believe that the majority would prefer loneliness over human companionship. I mean, it's one thing to want to be alone now and then, or take a temporary break from people, but that's not abnormal.
As well, there's a difference between wanting some time alone, or actually being alone, and experiencing a life of loneliness. There's a reason why Tom Hanks was talkin to a fukin volleyball in Castaway, lol.. People generally can't handle being alone for extended periods of time. We're emotional creatures, and many of us run constant validation checks with those we are around; not because we need to be validated, but because we long to feel accepted, and moreover, to feel 'seen'; like there's someone that not only acknowledges our existence, but is actually somewhat stimulated by our presence, and will make a big deal if we stop talking, disappear, or pass away.
And for those that insist that they're perfectly happy to be alone (for years or more at a time), either A: you don't know what real loneliness is (IE: you still have people around you regularly, and still feel accepted), or B: You're lying to yourself as a method of coping. Basically cognitive dissonance, self-grooming/brainwashing in order to manage in an otherwise hopeless scenario.
The problem with the above coping mechanism, is that you aren't the only person that's alone. So when 'Just get used to being alone, it's not so bad' becomes the mainstream coping mechanism, then that many more people will be alone because you deny them your companionship.
At that point, the world becomes the living embodiment of these forums. Everyone sad, depressed, frustrated, and angsty with one another because of their inability to form proper bonds with those around them, but nobody willing to attempt to open themselves up and make a real/solid connection. A world of temporary friendships, and disposable relationships, one in which people become nothing more than another commodity, a nuisance, or an infestation/parasite* of sorts , and not really seen as human beings at all..
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