Why do you date?

[Okiedokes]

Do you date to be with someone, or do you date to find someone you'd want to marry? Ever stay with someone you couldn't see yourself marrying sometime?

 

[annik]

Er I don't, never have. I've always gone from single to "this is a relationship". I don't have the confidence or self belief to date. I think I am looking for someone to settle down with though, possibly marry.

 

[Arsenic Queen]

I've tried the "dating scene" and have been rather disappointed by it. I prefer to tie a decent trust bond with someone special and share a "duet" type of dynamics with them. Talk. Share experiences. Let them know "my things" and get to know theirs.

I've had relationships with people I wasn't sure of marrying. I believe marriage is a serious decision that you don't take lightly. Then again I believe in honesty. If you truly have no intention of marrying a particular person, I wouldn't string them along if your true idea is to ditch them as soon as you find "better".

 

[Okiedokes]

Yeah.. I never actually felt like I dated anyone because it seems like it's cheating if you see more than 1 person at a time. I'm a one person at a time kinda person even if it's something as simple as going to a movie or park. I could not go with someone on a "date" knowing they are dating another potential partner.....

 

[Nolife Princess]

I 'dated' because I wanted to go out with someone for a nice time, if love came of it, OK- if friendship came of it, OK- and if marriage came of it-OK.

I dated to enjoy the male persuasion ... I LOVE to have fun (Who doesn't ?) I love to feel loved, wanted, and desired.

I mean I guess some folks can single a person out and say, HEY! I am going to marry that person... ?? who knows.. for me, I dated for a nice time.. and it was fun ( --->> the way it SHOULD be.

 

[VanillaCreme]

I don't date. I grabbed me up a man and claimed him as my territory.

 

[Tiina63]

I date to try to find someone to settle down with. I wouldn't put myself throught the whole awkward process of struggling to find things to talk about on dates etc if I didn't have the wish to marry.

 

[passage]

Cause its fun and enjoyable (usually!)

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Dated to just past or go through the motion.
Dated looking for partner.
Got married because it was the right thing plus
There was love...so i thought.
Got in relationship to sattle down..thought
I was doing the right thing. Raised children..etc.
Throught she loved me. 15 years is a life time
For some people...
Then started dating again. Being ever 40 was
A bit odd..Yeah, what fucken cliche.
40 year old guy having sex with women
half his age. Some kind of crisis...

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Lived with someone that loved me, but i wasn't capiable of giving
Her the love she needs and severed. Yeah, i guess i was
on a major rebound. Met her
In oneday...i havnt even unpacked my baggages...literally.
I was still hung up with RENAE.
Of course..i mistakenly called her
Renae. It ripped her to pieces..
I was mentally and emotionally
torn up...it really ****** up Jenn.
Yes it did..
I was really really hurt when i met Jenn. Jenn was a major
Distraction from all the pains
I was feeling. Yes, If was self fish for hurting her.
Of course she asked ne to be ber BF..
She's ****** up in head too.

Then Juliet came into my life.
O
As always...shes all ****** up in the head.
I texting and calling Renae while im havung lunch
With her. She took me hone with her of course..
Im standing on the balcony of her million dollar home
Slapping nyself silly...
Then it hitted me...Juliet looked into my
Eyes...

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Juliet told me not to answer the
Cell because she knew jt was Renae.
Juliet looks almost like Renae and
Is abiut as **** in the head as Renae is..
Im fucjed up....I answer the cell and tokd
RENAE I LOVE HER..
Juliet was homicidal and sueicidal
At that moment.

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Of course Juliet try to convince me
Not to leave...3 days later.
After all of what I did.
I was leaving to be with Renae
Come hell or high water

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And of course im really really **** up
In the head...cuz RENAE IS REALLY
****** UP IN THE HEAD....

MY BAD....JT WAS ALL MY BAD.
I RIPPED RENAES HEART TO PRICES
21 YEARS AGO. I LEFT HER YOUNG
SCARED AND PREGNANT.
I LOVE HER VERY MUCH.
HERE I GO AGAIN TRYING TO
DO THE RIGHT THING...
I WANNA MARRY HER...BUT LIVING
WITH HER IS A LOT OF DRAMMA AND TRUAMMA.

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I ****** HER UP... J REALLY REALLY DID.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Most people would runaway from Renae in a heart beat in her current condition.
I stay cuz i love her of course.
I dont want to say i cant live
Without her but its how i feel
At this moment. Its where i am
At in ny life.
Renae loves me very much.

But were both damaged people.

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No matter what happens between Renae and i,
Im always going to love her.

If we do go our saperate ways, it won't be the first
Or fifth time.

Im pretty sure my head and
Heart will clash or be in conflict of what love is...
As it is now.
RENAE ripped my heart apart just the
Sane 25 years ago.
From that noment on it was about trying
To replace her...
To cover up the pains..
Wheather i date for kicks or seek
marriage.

SHE DID GO TO THE COURT HOUSE
TO GET NUMBERS OR INFORMATIONS
ON MARRIAGE LICENCE TODAY...
SHE DOSE S TUFF LIKE THAT
AT THE SAMETIME SHE DOSE OTHER
STUFF THAT I FEEL IS NOT COOL WITH

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Thats basically my love life...
Trying to replace that one girl
Becuase she drove me outta my fucken
Mind.
Now that she found me...
Shes driving crazy.

And of course if Jenn knows....
She would say,

Reap it mother ******!!!!!

 

[Okiedokes]

I guess that is true... dating because its fun to meet new people. I never really got into that world and I'll probably never know. But, I'm ok with that.

Lonesome- so one could say that the first love never really goes away huh? I could totally see that. I have only loved one person though, and I know I always would as well..

 

[Arsenic Queen]

I dated to enjoy the male persuasion ...

True women deserve courtship. I like to let things happen "in the steps" to enjoy feeling spoiled. I like to let things simmer. I like to feel like I'm special and precious to the other party.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

No...actally shes not my first GF.
Actually she also looks alot like
my first GF and act alot like her.

I never got to the stage of experiening
The bad side of my first GF.

I was still young and naieve.

As it so happened. Renae and
I didnt argued or fought when
we first went out. Life and
Aduilts saperated us...
But yes, Renae is my first love

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Yeah..just for fun and not be alone..
The way my mind works if
Im left alone for too long
its like the devils work shop....it takes me
Places i dont wannaI go.

I dont always have sex with every woman i date.
When im looking for a mate it actually works
Againts me.lmao
Strange as it may be...
Ive only been in relationships with women
the asked me out. After
Ive given on the idea of love and women.lol

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Im serious....
I was dating prior to Renae
Contacting me....

The dating and relationship bit
Seemed so dull and pointless
To me...like i was just going
Through the motion.
The purpose had no zest.
Probably one of the reason
Tracy and i fought and argue..
Just for kicks because we were
bored...Tracy never made me
Feel alive as Renae do.
Tracy and I were going nowhere.

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Yeah...pursaunions.
It was a game tracy n i was playing. It swings both ways
with me....I get women to
Chase me just the same.
Nothing like another woman
to step into the picture to
Stir up a woman.

Dosnt work too well while
Your in a relationship....
but ive done that too
While in a relationship.
It a fine line.

I also know Renae love attention
From men.
I cant really judge her i dated
15 different women in less than
a year prior to her contacting me.

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I enjoy dating and hated it at the sametime.

 

[fox]

I never planned to be with my partner like this, but it ended that way without expectation..

 

[blackdot]

I think I date just so I can keep myself extra depressed.