Why does this keep happening!!!

[Imagine]

Hey guys, just a little rant really so I can relate to people who know exactly how I feel and don't flip the conversation straight to themselves like everyone else I seem to confide in... apart from this one girl...

I met her at work about 2 years ago and we hit it off so well, we're very like minded in a lot of ways and get on so well. We dated for about 3 months or so and it ended because I was bugging her with jealousy and trying to make it work when all I needed to do was hang back and just ride it.

I stopped contact for about 8 months or so and then we started chatting again when she was just splitting with her then boyfriend and I gave her a friendly shoulder and we got to know eachother more... Now when we were texting and chatting she'd say stuff like 'love you' and call me by pet names which I know she was only being nice but it just made me fall for her again, when I told her how I felt I got rejected (story of my life aha) and we stopped chatting AGAIN for 6 months...

Started again recently and she's all depressed about being single and doing the pet names thing... I know her inside out and I know even if she did like me back she wouldn't let herself because she's an 'ice queen' and doesn't wanna hurt me...

I hate this stupid 'oneitis' and It's happened with so many girls and drives me nuts, drives me deeper into clinical depression and I have got so close to taking my life I literally had to be stopped I have friends but they're all interested in themselves and their other halves (for which I always get ditched) and I feel so alone in the world it's sad, I know I can be good to someone but they never want it or accept it

Sorry to rant pointlessly but you understand it helps to just get feelings out even if it helps for just a few minutes...

Thanks guys

 

[Badjedidude]

drives me deeper into clinical depression

Clinical depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain that causes depression. You can't just be "driven" into clinical depression by emotional turmoil.

Hey guys, just a little rant really so I can relate to people who know exactly how I feel and don't flip the conversation straight to themselves like everyone else I seem to confide in... apart from this one girl...

I met her at work about 2 years ago and we hit it off so well, we're very like minded in a lot of ways and get on so well. We dated for about 3 months or so and it ended because I was bugging her with jealousy and trying to make it work when all I needed to do was hang back and just ride it.

I stopped contact for about 8 months or so and then we started chatting again when she was just splitting with her then boyfriend and I gave her a friendly shoulder and we got to know eachother more... Now when we were texting and chatting she'd say stuff like 'love you' and call me by pet names which I know she was only being nice but it just made me fall for her again, when I told her how I felt I got rejected (story of my life aha) and we stopped chatting AGAIN for 6 months...

Started again recently and she's all depressed about being single and doing the pet names thing... I know her inside out and I know even if she did like me back she wouldn't let herself because she's an 'ice queen' and doesn't wanna hurt me...

Honestly, I'm not trying to insult you, but...

Grow some balls. Sure, I can understand it if the girl is "nice" to you once and then cools off, and then comes back... but once it starts happening as a regular thing, then you need to stomp your foot and tell her to make a decision to be with you or not. Because right now she's just using you as support for when she's not with someone else. You are her emotional rebound boy, and you're never going to be anything else because she's already shown that she doesn't consider you to be dating material.

Those pet names and "love yous" are how she keeps you on the line.

So balls up and give her an ultimatum, man. Either she decides to be with you or she knocks out the lovey dovey manipulation ****. In fact, it might be best to just get away from her, since you've already shown that you're a sucker for her.

Don't let people take advantage of you like that.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Chicks are crazy dude...don't try to figure them out.
It sucks to be an emotional tamon...dosn't it?

U can try the I'll show U ***** methode.
Or **** this ****....I deserve better.
Or just **** the living **** out of her...show her what's she been missing.
Let her drive your nutz for a change.

 

[sadface]

i think shes probably using you for attention when she hits rock bottom - she may not have any intention to advance her relationship with you, but she just likes feeling ....liked.

i had this happen to me once. it sucked.

 

[Sean]

I don't think it would ever be a good idea to rekindle a relationship with ANY ex of sorts.

You KNOW what she's like, you KNOW that she's probably just using you for comfort from one of her previous failed relationship.
Don't let her do this to you.

Tell her that you don't like how your relationship continues to go . . .
I think it would be best for you to just stop speaking with her.

That's just my oppinion.

Good luck .