Wind of Change

[Rosebolt]

No dramatic goodbye this time, i'm merely noticing something again. It's just my view of things, so disagree all you like, it's fun to say no.

Communities might change constantly, but i seem to tend to notice when the forum changes quite a bit in a short period of time. This is on of those times. Or rather, was.

With the departure of WildernissWildChild an Perfanoff, i believe the forum lost its backbone, its share honesty and "harsh" reality. No, i'm not saying that it's completely gone.

What i'm seeing is member being clustered together and all over the place. That is, more clique-like behavior than i'm used to, but the content seems to be all over the place. Quite a bit of depressive posts here, quite a bit of goofing around there. Sounds incredibly normal for any form of community when you say it like that. But it just seems to be nothing more than sprays in all directions, no real aim. That sounds weird doesn't it? A whole forum with a single aim? Yes it sounds weird, but it's simply what i feel is happening.

Is it good or bad? Oh subjectivity, how i love you. I'm personally eager to see how the coming time will go, it could be very interesting and informative. Just to make it clear, i am not whining about a change, i don't want any replies stating that. Read again. I'm merely seeing something and thought i'd make a thread out of it, and see what you guys have to say.

Happy changing!

 

[LoneKiller]

Hi Rosebolt. What's happening?

Are you saying that this forum and all of it's posts should always be related to loneliness and related issues without straying onto other topics that aren't related to loneliness and such?

You feel that it is fragmented with issues that have nothing to do with the theme?

 

[Rosebolt]

I understand your conclusion. I thought that using the word "lost its goal" were not the right ones. See, "straying" off topic is good, there are loads of catagories that dont go anywhere near the topic of loneliness. As most know, i'm an avid visitor of the games section. Nothing about these catagories has changed since these two gentlemen left.

Theme is not the problem. I think what i am feeling is that we're more all over the place, in smaller and tighter cliques, instead of more of one big family. Just saying it again, that is just what i feel. There is no truth supporting that claim.

 

[LoneKiller]

Sadly, I have yet to see a forum that doesn't have "Cliques". I've been on a few forums in my time which were devoted to one specific theme, like boxing and gaming. They all have these "Cliques" and stray away from the main theme. I think it's just the way it goes on any forum. Can't fix that man. It's one of those things that is the way it is.

The "One Big Family" thing is a wonderful thought, but quite often it's just not true. I used to think that way on a gaming forum years ago, and one of the members just gave it to me straight and said that the forum is not one big family. It never will be. This wasn't easy to accept, but I learned in time that he was right.

It's hard to establish the forum's members as one big family when new members are always joining and seasoned members are leaving.

 

[Rosebolt]

You are indeed right. However i do not say that the cliques are a bad thing per se. Though they can be for new members, however, some cliques on here are very easy to get into. That is good. Like i said before, i don't have anything against this happening. Not at all. So no, i won't try to "fix that."

I don't agree with your last part though, or maybe i do. Yes, it's hard to establish something like that, but it's far from impossible.

 

[LoneKiller]

Impossible? No. Extremely unlikely? Yes.

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Don't get me wrong Rosebolt. I like pretty much everyone here, but there are those like anybody else, who would rather see me gone. It's tough be considered a big family when you know that some of the members don't like you. Why did WWC leave by the way?

 

[Felix]

That's just the way things are when a forum is as active as this one. The only problem I have here is when someone personally attacks you for your opinion or turns into passive-aggressive mode to avoid a warning from the mods. That really brings down the level of discussion here. Still there's not much to do about it.

 

[EveWasFramed]

Can't fix that man.

It's not "broken." It's about personalities.
It's the same way in real life - people tend to gravitate toward people they mesh well with. That's not broken - it's completely normal IMO.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

You know, when I joined, they weren't members. I like them, but members come and go.

I see what you mean, though, although there are still good people here. But if you feel you need to go, no need to apologize.

 

[SophiaGrace]

Rosebolt...life is change. People come, people go.

Please, stick it out and ride the waves.

 

[*Sammy*]

Aww i hope your not leaving Rose!

I've only been here 2 weeks and found most people very inviting. Sometimes the problems with forums is there are some who are very active and some who are not so it might seem like they miss out. Problem is if you don't post you cant get involved. That's just how i see it anyway. Personally i am dyslexic so i find it hard to read so many threads and post on all of them equally which i would love to do but my brain wont let me so i post where and when i can. This forum does seem to have a 'family' you just gotta push yourself into it like i'm trying

 

[Rosebolt]

But if you feel you need to go, no need to apologize.

Rosebolt...life is change. People come, people go.

Please, stick it out and ride the waves.

Aww i hope your not leaving Rose!

I'm not leaving and have no plans whatsoever to do so. I tried making it clear that i was simply making this thread upon noticing something. I am not annoyed or frustrated by it. I'm merely stating an observation.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

Glad to hear you aren't leaving.

You know, I went through a rough patch lately, but I an finding this forum therapeutic of late.

 

[ladyforsaken]

I'm not leaving and have no plans whatsoever to do so. I tried making it clear that i was simply making this thread upon noticing something. I am not annoyed or frustrated by it. I'm merely stating an observation.

Yeah. He's not leaving. If he tries, he's gonna have to get past me first!
(Just kidding.. but you know I mean well.)

Communities might change constantly, but i seem to tend to notice when the forum changes quite a bit in a short period of time. This is on of those times. Or rather, was.

With the departure of WildernissWildChild an Perfanoff, i believe the forum lost its backbone, its share honesty and "harsh" reality. No, i'm not saying that it's completely gone.

What i'm seeing is member being clustered together and all over the place. That is, more clique-like behavior than i'm used to, but the content seems to be all over the place. Quite a bit of depressive posts here, quite a bit of goofing around there. Sounds incredibly normal for any form of community when you say it like that. But it just seems to be nothing more than sprays in all directions, no real aim. That sounds weird doesn't it? A whole forum with a single aim? Yes it sounds weird, but it's simply what i feel is happening.

Is it good or bad? Oh subjectivity, how i love you. I'm personally eager to see how the coming time will go, it could be very interesting and informative. Just to make it clear, i am not whining about a change, i don't want any replies stating that. Read again. I'm merely seeing something and thought i'd make a thread out of it, and see what you guys have to say.

I do have to say that after the departure of perfanoff and WWC, the forum has gotten a little quieter and it's not really been the same to be honest. There are some people who stand out in the forum but it's basically just their strong personalities that just stand out from the others, or that they are pretty much very involved in the forum.

Here's my opinion.

ALL is a forum that's just like another "world" to me. Sort of another place with a community.. cliques here and there, people feeling very much loved, people feeling left out.. people migrating in and out. I won't state anything else more obvious, but I'll say that I think the forum does have an aim - an avenue for the lonely, or not, to relate, discuss and debate about anything that they can't do with people around them in their own real world; to help these people in one way or another. I know it has helped me just by being here and interacting with the others.

 

[Edward W]

Okay, these are my thoughts.

Yes, things will change, people come, and some people go, some people get very involved, others less so.

For myself, well yes, I play the games quite a bit, (although I think they have real value and often give me a smile and improve my day), and I probably do quite a few 'fun' posts, (yes, they are supposed to be funny), but from time to time I do try and make a serious post, or offer support.

I get what you say about cliques, I suppose I am guilty of that. In my time I have gotten to know some people better with others, connected better with some people, and I do sometimes make a post I know only certain people will get, a little private joke, although partly to let them know I pay attention and think of them. Some people I like, but just don't seem to connect with for whatever reason, but that's natural IMO, we wont bond with everyone.

Also I don't comment on some topics because I don't feel I have the insight to offer a valid opinion. We're all different and all have our reasons for being here, and I just haven't experienced what some people have, but I know others have, so I leave the topic to them. But I generally read most topics regardless and if I think I have something valid to say, I will post it.

Overall I think we are still a family, there may be little groups gathered in the kitchen, some in the dining room, but overall I still get the sense we are all there for each other.

 

[ladyforsaken]

Overall I think we are still a family, there may be little groups gathered in the kitchen, some in the dining room, but overall I still get the sense we are all there for each other.

This is well said and I fully agree.

 

[EveWasFramed]

Can't fix that man.

It's not "broken." It's about personalities.
It's the same way in real life - people tend to gravitate toward people they mesh well with. That's not broken - it's completely normal IMO.

^^ again.

 

[Edward W]

Can't fix that man.

It's not "broken." It's about personalities.
It's the same way in real life - people tend to gravitate toward people they mesh well with. That's not broken - it's completely normal IMO.

^^ again.

Yes, what I was trying to say as well.

 

[mintymint]

I'm starting a clique; who wants to join? There's free cake

 

[EveWasFramed]

I'm starting a clique; who wants to join? There's free cake

Oh SNAP!!!! Im in. Now where's the CAKE?! :club: