Would an incurable STD be a deal breaker for you?

[Naleena]

Or what about other transmittable diseases such as Hep C? When would you want to know if a person you're dating has one?

 

[Edward W]

If the person I'm with knows and doesn't say about something like that then I'm not sure I'd want to be with them regardless, if we were sexually active that is.

 

[kamya]

I would want to know before we do anything physical. Don't know yet if it would be a deal breaker or not for me. I guess it depends on what it is, how they got it, and how much I like the person.

 

[Limlim]

Uh would probably depend on the severity of the disease. On one hand, being with someone you like is a good thing, on the other dying isn't really on my list of things to do.

Of course the herp won't kill you, and I hear you can help prevent the spread of it with some new sexy crazy drugs they've got out there. And there's always rubbers for most other things... hmm..

Overall though, it probably would be a deal breaker for me since I'd rather not catch said disease.

 

[Cavey]

I've never been confronted with it, so I'm not sure how I'd react. I guess that if they tell me about it prior to the relationship becoming physical, then I'd do my best to accept it and then be extra careful. If they didn't tell me prior to the relationship becoming physical, then it would be a deal breaker; they're obviously not worth my time.

 

[WildernessWildChild]

I've never been confronted with it, so I'm not sure how I'd react. I guess that if they tell me about it prior to the relationship becoming physical, then I'd do my best to accept it and then be extra careful. If they didn't tell me prior to the relationship becoming physical, then it would be a deal breaker; they're obviously not worth my time.

Same here. Gosh, haven't even thought of this- I've been STD free for 46 years, would like to stay that way.

 

[Sigma]

No.

 

[EveWasFramed]

Never had one, don't want one, don't know unless I found myself in that position.

 

[Peaches]

Not to sound nasty, but I am not a hypocrite: as the already (not so proud) owner of an illness, non transmissible, I am not keen on collecting more. I guess in a Hollywood movie-like romance all these things won't count if that is the right guy, but, well, if I had to say it here and now probably it would be a deal breaker.

 

[Bones]

No, it would not be a deal breaker for me because I focus on the inner person.

If all of the other metrics were met for a loving, loyal, faithful, respectful, trusting, and engaging relationship, I could live without sexual intercourse for the rest of my life.

A Twin Flame > sexual intercourse and this coming from someone who has never had an STD.

 

[Felix]

It would be a deal breaker for me and yes, that's the kind of thing you ought to tell someone.

 

[Bones]

I forgot to answer one part of the scenario ... yes, it should be told upfront.

No, it would not be a deal breaker for me because I focus on the inner person.

If all of the other metrics were met for a loving, loyal, faithful, respectful, trusting, and engaging relationship, I could live without sexual intercourse for the rest of my life.

A Twin Flame > sexual intercourse and this coming from someone who has never had an STD.

 

[9006]

Well I suppose even innocent people could catch something like this, but I'd have to be sure.

 

[Evil_Genius]

Yes. if incurable

 

[SomeoneSomewhere]

Well I suppose even innocent people could catch something like this, but I'd have to be sure.

I tried my best not to answer this but here I am, answering.

I'm one of those people who you least expect to catch something like what I have. Never had an intercourse in my entire life. I never even had a friend of the opposite sex. But here I am.

Let me just try to put things in perspective by saying that I'm one of those who never even cared to read the poster completely about such diseases because, well, it could never happen to me.

But here it is, happening.

Yes, an incurable STD is a deal breaker for me just because I don't expect someone to truly understand why I got it, to trust me with why I got it and most importantly, I don't have anything to offer than a "clean" person can not. So I'm not willing to give someone the chance to understand me. End of story.

 

[Naleena]

Someone Somewhere it took great courage for you to post and I honour that about you. So much so that I am going to tell something very personal. I meet someone and was engaged for four years to him. He had an incurable STD. We were very cautious and I never got it. It was so hard for him to tell me. We had dated for three months before getting physical and he told me. After educating myself, I decided I loved him and while we had to be carefull, loving that man was worth it. He was a good man and the best relationship I ever had. We are still friends and he has had several relationships since we broke up. I'm sure people's mouths will be falling open at my confession...lol Unfortunately, I'm not on to give a ****.




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Well I suppose even innocent people could catch something like this, but I'd have to be sure.

I tried my best not to answer this but here I am, answering.

I'm one of those people who you least expect to catch something like what I have. Never had an intercourse in my entire life. I never even had a friend of the opposite sex. But here I am.

Let me just try to put things in perspective by saying that I'm one of those who never even cared to read the poster completely about such diseases because, well, it could never happen to me.

But here it is, happening.

Yes, an incurable STD is a deal breaker for me just because I don't expect someone to truly understand why I got it, to trust me with why I got it and most importantly, I don't have anything to offer than a "clean" person can not. So I'm not willing to give someone the chance to understand me. End of story.
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[ladyforsaken]

SomeoneSomewhere, Naleena - pat on the back to the both of you. Courageous, much respect. And Nal, I know my mouth didn't fall open when I read that confession of yours, not going to judge you, I just thought you had such a big heart to accept him for who and how he was and took the risk even.

 

[LoneKiller]

Right away. You owe it to the person to divulge something of that nature from the get go.

 

[nerdygirl]

Some people don't consider it an STD, but I have cold sores. This is transmitted through saliva or body secretions. While not everybody who carries this form of Herpes gets cold sores, the virus is incurable once you get it. Would I have stayed with X had he told me he was giving me this? I don't know. I'll never know. I only know that every time my kid gets a pimple by her mouth, I get really scared that I've passed this on to her. I don't care how much of the population has it. I don't care if it doesn't cause serious problems. I care that I might give my kid an incurable disease. I care that I could pass it on to somebody else I care for. So for me... NOT having this particular incurable STD is a deal breaker.

 

[PrinceOfPeace]

nah wldnt be a deal breaker for me