Papabear
Well-known member
A lot of posts on here from people complaining over the while that I've frequented this site have shown me one major thing that a lot of people can take advice from.
If you are out of shape, unfashionable, socially inept, "independent" (non-conformist).... then society is not going to care about you. Society cares about being in shape, being fashionable, they like to talk, and they typically like popular things.
If you dont make the effort to date, then people aren't going to notice you. You can't just sit around being a nobody, dressing what isn't considered attractive, being fat, and mumbling to yourself and expect anyone to be interested in you.
There seems to be a lot of blaming going on in these forums, I know a lot of people come here for help. But it gets old to see the same thousand posts with someone who is "independent" and doesnt like "the game" when it's apparent that its some out of shape anti-social person who at 27 still wears their video game t-shirts can't figure out why people aren't interested in them. Sure, there are people out there that want that, a VERY VERY VERY small portion of people.
You all know this before you post your topics, you just want someone to tell you that it isnt YOUR fault, it's societies. Hell, how many of these posts actively attack society in them?
Don't blame other people for not wanting you when YOU arent willing to make yourself into whatever people want. It's apparent from I would say somewhere in middle school how we have to act and be to be a viable member of the social entity that is humanity.
You aren't special, unique, or anything else that lets you be exempt from these rules. If you were, you wouldn't be on these forums needing help because you then would be exempt from the rules and not have problems.
So instead of sitting here whining, put down the doughnuts, go run some, pick of a copy of "mens health, womens health, GQ, whatever," go to a NICE place to get a haircut (guys you too), and realize that you aren't a tool for fitting in, you are simply someone that fits in. Your confidence will go up as you look better, people will talk to you more, like you more, and you will feel better.
I know, I know, who am I to say this? I'm the guy who spent x number of years as that independent person, then I grew the hell up. Now I'm in shape, I dress nice, I wear what is fashionable, i look DAMN good, I'm confident, comfortable, and women THROW themselves at me.
Sorry if you don't like a bit of tough love, but it gets old seeing people blame other crap when they KNOW what the problem is.
PS: No, I didnt follow the book when I wrote this HOWEVER, I seriously recommend picking up "How to win friends and influence others" I know it sounds like a cheesy self help book but its been around for a long time and is actually a GREAT read, good for more than just friendships or relationships too, will help out with business or whatever.
If you are out of shape, unfashionable, socially inept, "independent" (non-conformist).... then society is not going to care about you. Society cares about being in shape, being fashionable, they like to talk, and they typically like popular things.
If you dont make the effort to date, then people aren't going to notice you. You can't just sit around being a nobody, dressing what isn't considered attractive, being fat, and mumbling to yourself and expect anyone to be interested in you.
There seems to be a lot of blaming going on in these forums, I know a lot of people come here for help. But it gets old to see the same thousand posts with someone who is "independent" and doesnt like "the game" when it's apparent that its some out of shape anti-social person who at 27 still wears their video game t-shirts can't figure out why people aren't interested in them. Sure, there are people out there that want that, a VERY VERY VERY small portion of people.
You all know this before you post your topics, you just want someone to tell you that it isnt YOUR fault, it's societies. Hell, how many of these posts actively attack society in them?
Don't blame other people for not wanting you when YOU arent willing to make yourself into whatever people want. It's apparent from I would say somewhere in middle school how we have to act and be to be a viable member of the social entity that is humanity.
You aren't special, unique, or anything else that lets you be exempt from these rules. If you were, you wouldn't be on these forums needing help because you then would be exempt from the rules and not have problems.
So instead of sitting here whining, put down the doughnuts, go run some, pick of a copy of "mens health, womens health, GQ, whatever," go to a NICE place to get a haircut (guys you too), and realize that you aren't a tool for fitting in, you are simply someone that fits in. Your confidence will go up as you look better, people will talk to you more, like you more, and you will feel better.
I know, I know, who am I to say this? I'm the guy who spent x number of years as that independent person, then I grew the hell up. Now I'm in shape, I dress nice, I wear what is fashionable, i look DAMN good, I'm confident, comfortable, and women THROW themselves at me.
Sorry if you don't like a bit of tough love, but it gets old seeing people blame other crap when they KNOW what the problem is.
PS: No, I didnt follow the book when I wrote this HOWEVER, I seriously recommend picking up "How to win friends and influence others" I know it sounds like a cheesy self help book but its been around for a long time and is actually a GREAT read, good for more than just friendships or relationships too, will help out with business or whatever.
