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IceCastles
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I would like some advice please (this might be repetitive from my old posts but I'm so annoyed..I'm normally not such an angry person but I've hit my limit):
My FB mainly has my family and I'm a part of a ton of ladies and moms groups in my city. My main purpose of using it is to share the occasional picture of my family and to try to make friends.
I am a new mom and I have tried to make friends through joining mom groups and contacting other moms. The problem is, although we end up meeting in real life and they say "Let's meet up again!", they do not initiate any interaction with me afterwards. I end up initiating continually or they stop responding because they're too "busy". They will still Like, Share, Comment on my posts - but this is not the type of friendship that I desire. I am using the internet as a medium to build OFFLINE friendships. I do not have time to play Facebook day and night! It is not for me.
It further pisses me off when I see that they are posting pictures of themselves out with their friends, yet not putting in any effort with me. Obviously, their "busy" translates to "too busy for YOU, IceCastles".
I myself am incredibly, insanely busy...it is amazing that I can even squeeze in any time for a social life - but it is humanly possible to make time for someone. I see them doing it; just not for me.
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SIDE COMENT: I guess I should give up on waiting to hear back from my "friend" who said she'll make time to visit me...like 8+ months ago? It's a non-win right?
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Also, I have some colleagues that have found me from my old company. When I worked there, I was not friends with any of them and some of them would behave in a strange manner to exclude me.
To their credit, there WERE some nice people that I liked and enjoyed working with. Everything was laughs and a good time on a working-level, but on a personal level; none of them seem interested in my friendship, many of them had their own circles and I was left out.
A few of them have Friended and then Unfriended me and I honestly feel that some of them only added me to find out about my personal life without really wanting to know me. The company I'm working with is somewhat connected to my old company; and management changes around; they may end up working for my company; people talk and it goes around etc. so I feel hesitant in offending them by just deleting them. As an unpopular person; I make an easy target vs a crowd of people badmouthing me which may affect my career.
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What do you think?
I feel it's a great way to connect with my moms/ baby groups so I'm not completely isolated but dealing with people is really frustrating. I don't want to pretend to be friends with someone knowing that they are actually not my friend.
I do have 3 more ladies to meetup and maybe I should wait til after meeting them to delete my FB?
My FB mainly has my family and I'm a part of a ton of ladies and moms groups in my city. My main purpose of using it is to share the occasional picture of my family and to try to make friends.
I am a new mom and I have tried to make friends through joining mom groups and contacting other moms. The problem is, although we end up meeting in real life and they say "Let's meet up again!", they do not initiate any interaction with me afterwards. I end up initiating continually or they stop responding because they're too "busy". They will still Like, Share, Comment on my posts - but this is not the type of friendship that I desire. I am using the internet as a medium to build OFFLINE friendships. I do not have time to play Facebook day and night! It is not for me.
It further pisses me off when I see that they are posting pictures of themselves out with their friends, yet not putting in any effort with me. Obviously, their "busy" translates to "too busy for YOU, IceCastles".
I myself am incredibly, insanely busy...it is amazing that I can even squeeze in any time for a social life - but it is humanly possible to make time for someone. I see them doing it; just not for me.
***
SIDE COMENT: I guess I should give up on waiting to hear back from my "friend" who said she'll make time to visit me...like 8+ months ago? It's a non-win right?
***
Also, I have some colleagues that have found me from my old company. When I worked there, I was not friends with any of them and some of them would behave in a strange manner to exclude me.
To their credit, there WERE some nice people that I liked and enjoyed working with. Everything was laughs and a good time on a working-level, but on a personal level; none of them seem interested in my friendship, many of them had their own circles and I was left out.
A few of them have Friended and then Unfriended me and I honestly feel that some of them only added me to find out about my personal life without really wanting to know me. The company I'm working with is somewhat connected to my old company; and management changes around; they may end up working for my company; people talk and it goes around etc. so I feel hesitant in offending them by just deleting them. As an unpopular person; I make an easy target vs a crowd of people badmouthing me which may affect my career.
...
What do you think?
I feel it's a great way to connect with my moms/ baby groups so I'm not completely isolated but dealing with people is really frustrating. I don't want to pretend to be friends with someone knowing that they are actually not my friend.
I do have 3 more ladies to meetup and maybe I should wait til after meeting them to delete my FB?