Not that i would know the first thing about dating or going from a relationship to being single, but i'm quite sure that, which Elaeagnus pointed out (with the people You talk to getting frustrated and uncomfortable since they don't really believe they can help You in any way), these people, like everyone else these days, simply have own problems big enough to not sit down and go through a plan to get You a girlfriend. I'm sure as hell not trying to say they simply don't give a **** about You, nor offend neither You nor them in any way, but maybe they simply believe it's best for everyone (and especially You) to talk to a professional about things like these when You, in their eyes, might seem so very down about it they have no idea how to help You.
I'm saying they either don't care enough to help You or they don't
know enough to help You, and i think it's the second one. They obviously already tried to help You without any visible result from their point of view. What You expect from these people probably wouldn't seem like something "too much" at all in neither Your nor any other person in Your situation's ways, but what can words do about it?
I know You could use some simple cheering up and that words can do miracle work for that but somehow i think they've missed out that You actually
want to talk about it, rather than trying to ignore it (and trying not to get You even more down and maybe pissed off) and talking about something else instead. Sometimes we get so caught up with what we just
have to do that we don't notice how obcessed we become with it and thereby don't see it as such a big deal to simply bring up in a conversation sometimes. I believe people around You think of You and Your problem much more than You think they do, making them even more worried about this subject when You finally meet them even though You're not around.
What You wrote about how people don't like to be part of sad stories is true; for a close friends for example, to keep up a smile and still saying the same, positive stuff about something which ain't right for years, it takes a mental superman. Who the heck could take that?
I want You to understand that i am a 20 year old guy who've only been in
one relationship, had
one love and never been on neither a date nor "dumped" so be gentle with me if You find something of what i wrote outrageously wrong or cold-hearted.
And.. since i've only had this single relationship and never been on a date all my real advice for finding love is to do it how i did it; register on some dating website online, find someone that fits perfect, send a few e-mails and don't meet until You both know "this is it" and enjoy it while it lasts. You probably already knew this and might not think of it as anything special but "dating" online is the best way to do it (and the only way if You're shy
) since You get to know the person much more personally than in any other situation.
I lived in hell for five years before i even noticed there
were dating websites (i'm way too shy to try and go to a pub or a disco something, so i've actually never done it), but when i found my first and current love we both couldn't believe it.
I truly wonder if all this seem like some fairy tale for You normal people (compared to me and my spouse, at least); waiting for true love and live in a depressive hell, finding it and blabla... Me and Madeleine went straight from being kids up to marriage and children and all that (we've already planned it all) so i guess You could call us old-fashioned.
I hope i did some good with all this cause i planned to grab something to eat now.
By the way, You got another thread in this board which haven't got any replies yet. I read through it all and were just about to reply to it myself when i noticed You posted another one. Uh... should i keep that stuff in here too or would You prefer i'd write it in that thread?