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Ok so this has been going on for a long time
I'm 13 and both my parents live together all normal and stuff. Me and my mom have a good relationship.
Ok here lets put it like this, just to summarize my problem:
My mom says something and I answer with my normal voice and stuff.
My dad says the same thing and I just get so irritated, and I answer with a voice like I'm being tortured to talk or something.
For some reason I don't like my dad. Here are some possible reasons to why:
1- My dad acts like I can't defend myself and that I need some special care because apparently I have this reputation for being a cry baby when I was small and he thinks I still am. Like if my sister insults me (as a joke) he is always the first one to be like "don't say that about your sister, you know she is a hard working person she is not dumb, in fact she works more harder than you". It sounds so fake or like hes pushing it. But not like all supportive, like I'm some kid and he's trying to push back a bully or something. It may sound mean but I am not good at putting this in words. He also speaks for me. Like when my sister says something like "You don't even know how to answer that lol" And he is like "Yes she does, she knows what she is doing" before I can even say anything. This happens to my mom too, sometimes she tells him "I can speak for myself" when he does it, he acts like he knows all of us more than ourselves.
2- He asks the most useless questions ever which irritates me so much. Like we have a bunny at our house, and we normally leave out carpets so our bunny doesn't slide on the wood, and he says stuff like "Is the bunny out" when he is standing right on the carpets or when he is in the same room as the cage (meaning he can just check). Or when I'm eating, and he is the same room a she says "Are you finished" when he can clearly just look over and see if my plate is finished. I don't have more examples but it happens too often. My mom had a talk with me the other day and was like "he just wants to start a conversation with you because he is confused with you" But it still irritated me I don't know what to do about it.
3- He has anger problems. So when I open my closet the door for the closets is in touch with my entry door to my room. SO if you open my door when my closet is open, it clashes and makes a bang noise. Once my mom opened my door when my closet is open, and the I was like "moom knock!" and the next my dad opened the door and then I just got angry and I was like "Knock!!" and he screamed so loud. I have more but I can't think of any.
4- Ok so we watch this show called "Modern Family" together sometimes. And the most annoying thing is when they relate things that happened in the tv show to our lives, and mostly is bad stuff for me. (Backstory, my sister is way smarter than me and it pressures me). So in the show this girl says she got pressured my her more successful sister and my dad was like "Haha *laughs* because you say you get pressure" And I'm like in my head HOW IS THIS FUNNY. And it happens so much and it makes me feel so bad, and then I finally told him "please can you not relate this stuff into our lives" and he just got angry and started screaming.
5- He doesn't respect my mom. And this is one reason I started hating him as a kid, he treats my mom like sh*t. He compliments other women's figure and how my moms friend reduced some weight. And I feel like it makes my mom feel bad and then it makes me feel bad. And when my mom is sleeping he just wakes her up or put the TV so loud so he can watch when she is in the same room.
Well yeah, I need help. Whatever he says I get irritated. Sometimes I wish he isn't back from work or sometimes I don't want to go home to avoid him. My mom said my dad is confused to why I answer him those ways but I can't tell her why, and part of me doesn't know why. As a kid and now sometimes, I am a super paranoid person and I worry about certain things, and when I was small I would think my dad cheated on my mom because he didn't respect her. (Small not my parents are arranged marriage) and I thought that was the problem to why my dad can be mean to my mom but.
I get mad at him for no reason and I don't know why.
I'm 13 and both my parents live together all normal and stuff. Me and my mom have a good relationship.
Ok here lets put it like this, just to summarize my problem:
My mom says something and I answer with my normal voice and stuff.
My dad says the same thing and I just get so irritated, and I answer with a voice like I'm being tortured to talk or something.
For some reason I don't like my dad. Here are some possible reasons to why:
1- My dad acts like I can't defend myself and that I need some special care because apparently I have this reputation for being a cry baby when I was small and he thinks I still am. Like if my sister insults me (as a joke) he is always the first one to be like "don't say that about your sister, you know she is a hard working person she is not dumb, in fact she works more harder than you". It sounds so fake or like hes pushing it. But not like all supportive, like I'm some kid and he's trying to push back a bully or something. It may sound mean but I am not good at putting this in words. He also speaks for me. Like when my sister says something like "You don't even know how to answer that lol" And he is like "Yes she does, she knows what she is doing" before I can even say anything. This happens to my mom too, sometimes she tells him "I can speak for myself" when he does it, he acts like he knows all of us more than ourselves.
2- He asks the most useless questions ever which irritates me so much. Like we have a bunny at our house, and we normally leave out carpets so our bunny doesn't slide on the wood, and he says stuff like "Is the bunny out" when he is standing right on the carpets or when he is in the same room as the cage (meaning he can just check). Or when I'm eating, and he is the same room a she says "Are you finished" when he can clearly just look over and see if my plate is finished. I don't have more examples but it happens too often. My mom had a talk with me the other day and was like "he just wants to start a conversation with you because he is confused with you" But it still irritated me I don't know what to do about it.
3- He has anger problems. So when I open my closet the door for the closets is in touch with my entry door to my room. SO if you open my door when my closet is open, it clashes and makes a bang noise. Once my mom opened my door when my closet is open, and the I was like "moom knock!" and the next my dad opened the door and then I just got angry and I was like "Knock!!" and he screamed so loud. I have more but I can't think of any.
4- Ok so we watch this show called "Modern Family" together sometimes. And the most annoying thing is when they relate things that happened in the tv show to our lives, and mostly is bad stuff for me. (Backstory, my sister is way smarter than me and it pressures me). So in the show this girl says she got pressured my her more successful sister and my dad was like "Haha *laughs* because you say you get pressure" And I'm like in my head HOW IS THIS FUNNY. And it happens so much and it makes me feel so bad, and then I finally told him "please can you not relate this stuff into our lives" and he just got angry and started screaming.
5- He doesn't respect my mom. And this is one reason I started hating him as a kid, he treats my mom like sh*t. He compliments other women's figure and how my moms friend reduced some weight. And I feel like it makes my mom feel bad and then it makes me feel bad. And when my mom is sleeping he just wakes her up or put the TV so loud so he can watch when she is in the same room.
Well yeah, I need help. Whatever he says I get irritated. Sometimes I wish he isn't back from work or sometimes I don't want to go home to avoid him. My mom said my dad is confused to why I answer him those ways but I can't tell her why, and part of me doesn't know why. As a kid and now sometimes, I am a super paranoid person and I worry about certain things, and when I was small I would think my dad cheated on my mom because he didn't respect her. (Small not my parents are arranged marriage) and I thought that was the problem to why my dad can be mean to my mom but.
I get mad at him for no reason and I don't know why.