Francis
Master Typologist
I've spent a few days here and it's become obvious to me why many people are lonely just like on most other forums even though this one should expressly be looking for SOLUTIONS to loneliness since the purpose of the forum is to put loneliness at the forefront. Of course, finding solutions to life's problems is the modus operandi of just three personality types (of which I've noticed/typed about 7 active people here) while that half of the other personality types live lifes of problems and enjoy being there. Solutions aren't comfortable or easy so why go through the effort?
- Nothing to offer. People may be looking for support or someone to be interested in them, but show no active interest in others at an individual level or dont offer anything so its all about taking, taking, taking--something which is totally average and can be seen across most forums, especially relationship forums. So if you stick to average ways of doing things you'll get average results; that means mediocre results. Since friendship is idealistic there is no such thing as a mediocre friendship, those are called acquaintances, and they don't offer fellowship, which is what most lonely people should be aiming for if they want positive relationships. It should come as no suprise that people like people who have something to offer to their life and that reciprocation is good. If you take no interest in other people or any real step in helping them, all you'll have is acquaintances
- No personality/bland. If you like hiding yourself and your personality and anything about you which may actually form a connection with someone else, then you won't pair bond (and talking about pains and traumas have their place but barely count, they bring down the conversation instead of up, is in the past and not the future which is what we OUGHT to be looking forward to.) That's why the personality type that contains hidenness and concealment also contains helplessness and quitting<--- which is what many have done, even have consciously and directly said it. So they crave contact but are too comfortable and 'hands off' to do any effort to get it. The big problem here is that your life is gonna be circular, always going back to the same starting point without ever getting anywhere, you never get to the root of things, so you don't have the power to change circumstances.
There are more reasons which I won't get into now. What I propose is that we take a good look at ourselves and our lives and not conform to the lonely half-lives society forced upon us. We should be the change we want to see in the world. This is much deeper than simply finding someone to talk to, but concerns the future of humanity. What do we have to give to others and the world which proves useful? If the answer is nothing, we have a big societal problem, not only will people be unable to form families (in which I include friends) but won't advance much in their work, and won't have a support in place to also help them advance in their work. We've globally stagnated and as a result we are seeing widespread loneliness and a total lack of innovation, even when it's the case that we have the potential to do the total opposite. So yeah, we have harder years to come; will we rise to the challenge of bettering ourselves or our lives or self servingly think we are the best we can be already and give up?
- Nothing to offer. People may be looking for support or someone to be interested in them, but show no active interest in others at an individual level or dont offer anything so its all about taking, taking, taking--something which is totally average and can be seen across most forums, especially relationship forums. So if you stick to average ways of doing things you'll get average results; that means mediocre results. Since friendship is idealistic there is no such thing as a mediocre friendship, those are called acquaintances, and they don't offer fellowship, which is what most lonely people should be aiming for if they want positive relationships. It should come as no suprise that people like people who have something to offer to their life and that reciprocation is good. If you take no interest in other people or any real step in helping them, all you'll have is acquaintances
- No personality/bland. If you like hiding yourself and your personality and anything about you which may actually form a connection with someone else, then you won't pair bond (and talking about pains and traumas have their place but barely count, they bring down the conversation instead of up, is in the past and not the future which is what we OUGHT to be looking forward to.) That's why the personality type that contains hidenness and concealment also contains helplessness and quitting<--- which is what many have done, even have consciously and directly said it. So they crave contact but are too comfortable and 'hands off' to do any effort to get it. The big problem here is that your life is gonna be circular, always going back to the same starting point without ever getting anywhere, you never get to the root of things, so you don't have the power to change circumstances.
There are more reasons which I won't get into now. What I propose is that we take a good look at ourselves and our lives and not conform to the lonely half-lives society forced upon us. We should be the change we want to see in the world. This is much deeper than simply finding someone to talk to, but concerns the future of humanity. What do we have to give to others and the world which proves useful? If the answer is nothing, we have a big societal problem, not only will people be unable to form families (in which I include friends) but won't advance much in their work, and won't have a support in place to also help them advance in their work. We've globally stagnated and as a result we are seeing widespread loneliness and a total lack of innovation, even when it's the case that we have the potential to do the total opposite. So yeah, we have harder years to come; will we rise to the challenge of bettering ourselves or our lives or self servingly think we are the best we can be already and give up?