I remember when "snowflake" meant someone made a concentrated effort to "unique" or stand out.
How are we defining snowflakes? More often than not, I've seen it used to describe people who speak out against bigotry or just ask for more empathy. Either one is not bad...
A lot of posts get responses from varied people. That's not a one-on-one conversation to me. I don't see what's so desperate about it. Maybe OP tried Discord servers and didn't like what he saw?