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insecure

insecure

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I recently turned 55.
I feel like if a woman is into me, I will probably not find her attractive.
At the same time I feel lonely.
I think I would feel better, even if I had a purely sexual relationship with a woman, as long as I know she's not there for ulterior motives (money, visa, etc.).
At this point I'm in a situation where I don't have that much spare time, so it would be nice to meet someone with whom there is a mutual attraction.
But I'm not the type of guy who will go around seducing women, never have been, and at my age, it doesn't feel like women are really interested.
On dating sites, I get either women who I don't find attractive, or all kinds of scams (crypto, NFT, will travel need money, wants to marry for visum, etc.) or women with ulterior motives (looking for sugardaddy, want money for "babysit" in order to date, etc.).
I already went to a live dating session twice, and the results was that I received 0 likes.
So I guess I'm not desirable enough.
 
insecure said:
I recently turned 55.
I feel like if a woman is into me, I will probably not find her attractive.
At the same time I feel lonely.
I think I would feel better, even if I had a purely sexual relationship with a woman, as long as I know she's not there for ulterior motives (money, visa, etc.).
At this point I'm in a situation where I don't have that much spare time, so it would be nice to meet someone with whom there is a mutual attraction.
But I'm not the type of guy who will go around seducing women, never have been, and at my age, it doesn't feel like women are really interested.
On dating sites, I get either women who I don't find attractive, or all kinds of scams (crypto, NFT, will travel need money, wants to marry for visum, etc.) or women with ulterior motives (looking for sugardaddy, want money for "babysit" in order to date, etc.).
I already went to a live dating session twice, and the results was that I received 0 likes.
So I guess I'm not desirable enough.
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I'm married and don't feel desirable enough. 54
 
Me too... 56 male, single never married. Dont know what to do to find companionship.
 
I'm in the same club (mid 50's and chronically single) only I'm a little harder on myself, I've named the club "the rejects" lol. I often compare myself to those poor male animals in nature shows where the narrator explains how the females will pass on them, they have no use for the weaker, smaller, odd looking males when seeking a mate and naturally go for the bigger, stronger, more appealing specimens (that whole natural selection thing). We're like them - the rejects. That said, I keep hanging around and holding on with the hopes that maybe I'll find my female reject that happens to like me (hey, you never know).
 
Running Alone said:
I'm in the same club (mid 50's and chronically single) only I'm a little harder on myself, I've named the club "the rejects" lol. I often compare myself to those poor male animals in nature shows where the narrator explains how the females will pass on them, they have no use for the weaker, smaller, odd looking males when seeking a mate and naturally go for the bigger, stronger, more appealing specimens (that whole natural selection thing). We're like them - the rejects. That said, I keep hanging around and holding on with the hopes that maybe I'll find my female reject that happens to like me (hey, you never know).
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Not 50 yet but sadly I feel the same way. I've always felt like that. I thought one day it would get better on its own, or get better once I got through college, or when people grew up, but that doesn't seem to have happened.

For me it's less that I'm not big and strong (though that's part of it) and more that I think I'm not successful and interesting enough, that my brain/mind just can't "catch" things.

I'm holding on with hopes too, but it's very hard and draining to say the least.
 
When I think about the relations I have had, few of them, the women were sincere.
For me sincere means that they are into me, either for lust or for love (or both).
For me it doesn't have to be true love to be sincere, as long as they want me, and not something I own or that they can get through me (like a permanent residence).
The women who said age was not important or "age is just a number" wanted something from me, and it wasn't my body nor my love.
If you're willing to be a sugar daddy then at 55, yes, you can find a (very) young attractive woman, but then for me that is a form of prostitution.
She doesn't really want you, she's just there for the money.
 

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