My enemy is myself

Good Lord. You-know-who is going to kill me but you know something? One has a right to speak freely in his own thread.

BeyondShy said:

Well she was nasty to me and I don't care for her but I did say i hoped her surgery went well. Or did you miss that? Probably.

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No, I didn't miss that.

BeyondShy said:

You see you were one of them that fawned all over her. And I could care less. You have your own friends in here.

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"Fawned"? LOL, mate I don't fawn over any one here and attempt to be considerate to all.

BeyondShy said:

I've heard that phrase from people in here a lot and it means nothing to me. In real life like I said, not one time. It is a phrase people use on the internet to insult others and at the same time deny that they did.

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Well I wasn't using it to insult you. I was just pointing out the tone of your comment.

okidoke said:

No, I didn't miss that.

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Hooray.

okidoke said:

"Fawned"? LOL, mate I don't fawn over any one here and attempt to be considerate to all.

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Yeah, you keep on telling yourself that.

okidoke said:

Well I wasn't using it to insult you. I was just pointing out the tone of your comment.

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I don't care! Can you guess my tone now?

Holy Cow dude. Is it really your goal to come on here once a year for a couple weeks and create as much chaos as possible? Throwing around anger emojis because you get called out on your controversial comments? Why dude, why? How about coming back in and being pleasant for two weeks, or is this just the place you have to let loose for a bit of respite from the real world? Far out. You're like a friggin' tornado.

BeyondShy said:

Good Lord. You-know-who is going to kill me but you know something? One has a right to speak freely in his own thread.

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She's very old now. I imagine that has affected her swing.

Abstamyous said:

She's very old now. I imagine that has affected her swing.

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One thing that I have learned is to never underestimate that wonderful woman.

BeyondShy said:

Keep your friends close but your enemies closer.


Yes, I know this is a quote from a movie but to really survive in here you really need to do this.

There is such a good group of people here and over the years I have been fortunate enough to talk with these individuals. Sorry to say a lot of them are gone now and my regret is that I did not get to say goodbye to them and to let them know how they meant to me.

Then there are the others who, to be very honest with you all, I don’t mind if they are not here anymore since there is no love lost or respect either.

Take last year’s user in here who won the coveted Thorn in my Side award that I give out annually on my last day here. I’ve never publicly spoke of this but since I do not plan on going scorched earth on her it should and will be fine. From the first day until my last day in 2023 Cenotaphgirl was the clear cut winner of this award. I have been here nine years although for the past few of them just two weeks a year but I have never seen such a self-absorbed person.

The problem is she was enabled in here by just about everyone. No matter what she said it was met with enthusiasm and complete agreement. There was one other person in here that I saw that was treated with that much reverence and that was Ladyforsaken. But these two people were complete opposites. Cenotaphgirl had to have a lot of attention every day to justify who she was. Ladyforsaken, if you liked her or not, always had a ton of class and that is what Cenotaphgirl never had.

I do know that Cenotaphgirl was going for surgery right around the time I left last year and I don’t know if she has been back or not. I hope her surgery went well and I also hope she comes back here because I know she does have friends here.

I also realize that I could have been the Thorn in my Side winner if other people gave that award out. I focus too much on what has gone on in here in the past even though these events may have taken place six or seven years ago. So this year I will try to utilize my great memory on what is going on in 2024.

Enjoy your weekend!

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This is not the way forward, man. Not the way to getting better.
It's the way back down.
Very rarely does a person make things better by being a hater. It just doesn't work.
And the kind of person who actually DOES become successful by being a hater, is usually not the kind of person you want to be.

Sometimes I would agree there are things worth fighting about here, but I would say the vast majority of the time, it isn't worth it.


I know I've said something to this effect before, but no one has it out for you here.
You just seem to think they do, which puts you on the defensive.

It makes you take the approach of,
"hit them before they hit me, because I KNOW they want to, and I KNOW that they're going to anyway".

And that makes it a self-fulfilling prophecy, when there didn't need to be, and likely wasn't going to be, a situation in the first place.
People don't like getting accused of or faulted for things that they didn't do, so if you're doing that right out of the gate, out of assuming the worst and anticipating an attack, that's going to sour them on you and start you off on the wrong foot.
But had you not done that, they wouldn't have been hostile to you necessarily.
They might have even been friendly.

I'd say the majority of people here are friendly.
Ever so often, you'll get someone who really isn't, you'll get someone who really does mean to do bad.
But those people are few and far between.
Odds are, most people here are nice, and therefore are not out to antagonize you - unless of course you create the situation by antagonizing them first out of accusing them of wronging you.
But if you hadn't done that, it wouldn't have been that way.


I'd encourage you to take a step back and consider deleting this post.
Just say it was a mistake, a bad habit, and move forward more consciously.
I will edit my post here and get rid of my quote of your post in mine, if you wanted to get rid of yours.

Keep in mind you only have 24 hours from the time of your post, to do this.

Just write it off, say you got off to a rough start. Take a mulligan, and try again.

It's like the title of this very thread "My Enemy is Myself".
That's what you're doing here, and you seem to be aware of it to a degree, but you have to make it stick.
Try not to be an enemy to yourself this year. Be a friend to yourself, instead.

I agree with everything Oki and Ska said. I wouldn't say Ceno and I were friends, but while she did get carried away sometimes, she did bring life back to this forum. She never did anything to you other than to annoy you. There are no rules against annoying something as long as it doesn't become harassment, which it did not. KINDNESS will get you a lot more in life than petty judgments that you are often wrong about.

Ceno isn't even here anymore, so what's the point of this? What happens if she was here? What happens is she was on the edge? What happens if she used this forum as a way to distract herself from her own problems and she came on here to see that she got attacked. How do you think that would make her feel? How do you think you would feel if someone did that to you? Hell, how would you feel if someone wrote something like that about me? Would it still be perfectly okay because that's their opinion and they are entitled to speak it and anyone who disagrees also deserves to be attacked?

Abstamyous said:

She's very old now. I imagine that has affected her swing.

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The only thing that hurts my swing is when I have multiple people to swing at