HellsLittleAngel
Well-known member
To each their own.
Do You Do Any of These Behaviors?
- Thread starter HellsLittleAngel
- Start date
Help Support Loneliness, Depression & Relationship Forum:
i'm sorry to say this, but that sounds a little condescending. if i had a choice then I'd select to be involved with friends that were as thoughtful as I am, but I don't and I already struggle through too many lonely days so i take the best relationship i can get.
HellsLittleAngel
Well-known member
Which means desperation. I'm very honest and a lot of people can't handle my bluntness.
Yes it does mean desperation. If you're going to excel in the field of mental health, maybe learn to be a little more understanding and tactful because you DO NOT yet understand enough of that field to be making acerbic statements like that.
HellsLittleAngel
Well-known member
I absolutely do. You have no idea the life I've been through and what I've seen. I know mental health like the back of my hand, which is why it's so easy for me to speak on it from different views. You just can't handle my type of assertive and direct personality. A lot of people can't. I deal with so many people with mental health issues. I've helped quite a few, little do you know.
In five minutes you think you understand me? Seriously? And why do you assume nobody else has any experience? Your arrogance is astounding.
Abstamyous
Well-known member
If I speak or reach out to someone, it's because I genuinely want to connect with them.
I wouldn't be online as much if I didn't feel frazzled and disorganized though. Sorry guys.
I wouldn't be online as much if I didn't feel frazzled and disorganized though. Sorry guys.
HellsLittleAngel
Well-known member
I never said I understood you in any way. I also never assumed anyone else hasn't had my issues. I said I know from my own personal experience and others. Some have had the same, similar, or different experiences. But, you don't know anything about me or what I've been through. Yet, you got awfully offended when I said something you assumed wasn't the case, rolled with it (like most do), and got upset. I've noticed that you get easily upset or offended by people and things that you don't agree with. It seems you've twisted my words into what you wanted them to mean to you, so you can call me arrogant. Although, I can be arrogant, I wasn't being that way on this post. You just didn't like my answers and assertive behavior. I'm 100% authentic and as real as they come. The minute something sounds good, I get a kudos, but the minute you don't agree with me, I'm arrogant? Lucky for me, your responses don't effect or bother me. I'm not easily offended by much of anything.
Last edited:
TheSkaFish
Jedi Guardian
This is me, exactly. Wanting connection, but "frazzled and disorganized".
Totally get where you're coming from, and it is the reason for my bad message delays.
I'm not sure why it matters why you message some one, given you aren't only maintaining the relationship just to gain from it. I've been in situations like that, took me way too long to realize every time, and left me with even bigger trust issues.
But, so what if I'm bored one day and think... hey, I haven't heard from so and so in a while. I hope they're doing alright, so I message to see. It doesn't mean that I care any less. Life can get busy, and people can be just too exhausted to handle a social encounter, but it doesn't mean that the intention isn't pure or that we don't genuinely care about the other person.
And so what if it's desperation that drives some of us. Who cares how you make your connections, so long as they're real?
But, so what if I'm bored one day and think... hey, I haven't heard from so and so in a while. I hope they're doing alright, so I message to see. It doesn't mean that I care any less. Life can get busy, and people can be just too exhausted to handle a social encounter, but it doesn't mean that the intention isn't pure or that we don't genuinely care about the other person.
And so what if it's desperation that drives some of us. Who cares how you make your connections, so long as they're real?
You can like and dislike different aspects of a person. I don't care for some of the... wording that you use. I feel like you might be coming from a good place with it, but it gets lost in "translation" so to speak. That being said, I'd be surprised if you weren't very different in person. This kind of feels like an outlet for you, as it is for everyone else here as well.
At first, I thought you might be antagonistic on purpose... or playing the role of some one who just doesn't give a ****, because maybe you care so much that it hurts in your everyday life? But I don't know you, not really.
I don't say any of this to be mean or offensive. You can only get into so much conflict until you start to wonder if you might be encouraging it in some way. I've been there too. Probably a lot of people on here have.
From your other posts, you seem to have a lot of good qualities, including a nice sense of humor and a compassionate side. I hope others get the chance to see that as well.
HellsLittleAngel
Well-known member
Thank you. I do have another side. I can be empathetic as well as apathetic. It depends on the situation. I'm just a very blunt person. I don't see the point of sugarcoating or lying to make someone else feel better. I don't water myself down for others. I'm respectful yet assertive. I use the term snowflake with people that truly get offensive over the smallest things, especially those who want the brutal truth from me about how I feel about something, but when I am, they get hurt or are offended by how I say it. Again, I just don't lie about how I am or what I feel. I'm too much for some and not enough for others. I know the term sounds derogatory to some and others not so much. The type of people I know are the same, if not worse than me, but have good hearts for the most part, as well as I. I'm actually a pretty genuine person but I'm also very honest.
HellsLittleAngel
Well-known member
I agree, but I also know some people that do it because they're simply bored, which is terrible because I am a person of genuine friendships. If I'm going to check on someone or talk to them, it's because I genuinely want to.
