Search results

Pros: I am healthy, very physically fit and financially independent. Cons: Ditto for what Unsigned wrote-being alone & perpetually single sucks big time.

Very sorry to hear this and I can relate even though I am outside 3+ hours a day walking with my dog. As a man, it can be a huge shock to realize that you are not physically attractive enough to find a partner and the fact that self improvement is not a solution for many of us is a bitter pill...

Thank you for the suggestions-It is refreshing to read thoughtful, well written idea's in what often seems to be the land of platitudes, personal attacks and fallacious accusations. As an older man I have had a wide range of experiences so pretty much know what I like and don't like...

Preps?

Of course they do-it's a well know fact that a man's confidence is based on his height & his personality is the result of his facial quality. That is why so many good looking men can be jerks and still be looked at as good people while so many ugly men are considered as creepy stalkers...

I think coping and accepting fate can often be synonymous. I did not consider what you said as in any way complaining and it is good that you were able to find outlets for your frustration. I think my own circumstance would likely be better if I were extraverted and had more mainstream...

I agree again and that has been my own experience as well. My lack of success with women lead me to study such things as stoicism and buddhism but I have found no relief in anything to date. It is certainly difficult if not impossible to find contentment when your fundamental needs are not...

My views are based on my own experiences along with speaking to other men, many other men in fact, in similar circumstances. The claims of average at best men scoring with women well above their looks level are as old as the internet itself. I don't doubt that it is possible in ideal...

I agree but can someone actually choose what they feel uplifted by? What some people may consider as successful copes, other consider as empty & counterproductive. The issue seems to be when one is unable to experience conditions in which their needs are met and are also unable find adequate...

Really? I don't consider drinking and having to pay for sex as being uplifting-they are certinly not useful copes for everyone,

It goes without saying that in the western world dating is virtually unavailable to sub 5 men. I will make the concession that average men are the only group which self improvement may slightly help their chances with women though. Attractive men don't need to self improve to attract women and...

Guess it depends on which god(s) you are referring to as there are literally thousands of proposed supreme deities to choose from and there is the exact same amount of evidence for all of them.

The dating scene has radically changed in the past 5-10 years and the truth is that average men just lack sufficient heightfidence and/or faceinality. As the saying goes, in regards to men average is the new ugly.

I was married in the early 90's and things were light years different from how they are now. Afyer we our divorce around 6 years ago I was in shock at how much dating had changed for the worse for men who are not in the top 20% or so. If things were close to the way they were then, you be...

That's not how studies or stats work Richard-it's called sample size.

"We used a sample of 5782 speed-daters making 128 104 choices to link preferences for partner height to actual choice and the formation of a match (the mutual expression of interest to meet again). We show that sexual conflict at the level of preferences is translated into choice: women were...

According to a massive 2013 study done in North America titled "The height of choosiness: Mutual mate choice for stature results insuboptimal pair formation for both sexes" (which I became aware of from an older post on this site), 75% of women will reject a 5'6 man based only on his height...

I think it's important to understand that what one thinks of how they may look to others is irrelevant. What matters is what others think of your looks, specifically the people whom you are attracted to. If a person has low self esteem about their appearance and believe that they are ugly but...

The same with Psalm 137:9