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It is a false analogy because a person has complete control over their own cleanliness but has zero control over who finds them unattractive. A better analogy would be a person who does everything they can to stay clean but is always constantly filthy despite their best efforts to prevent it...

Not excuses at all, merely facts about how our society functions from the life experiences of a sub5 man. Your presupposition that if a man is not having success with women, it's due only to his attitude and mindset is a major cognative error. There are indeed men who lack the inherent physical...

These sort of one off examples are the exception though and not the rule. Nothing even remotely imilar has certainly never happened to be in my over half century of life. The fact that it may be possible for a very tiny select few does not mean that every unattractive man has a chance. It...

You are confusing mindset as the key to success when it really just comes down to pure chance and is not going to happen that way for every, of even many men. When a man has been beaten down by the rejections over the years it is only natural for him to become resigned to his fate that the...

True confidence is that which aligns with reality so being confident about something but never having positive results is being delusional. Perhaps the difference in our perspectives is due to where we live-I have never been to your part of the world so cannot speak to how things work down...

When women claim they love a man in a suit & tie what they really mean is that they love a tall, good looking man who dresses well. Wearing expensive clothes is most certainly not going to make an unattractive man suddenly attractive in their eyes. The error in thinking there is that becoming...

True confidence only comes from having success though. Self improvement is important in many areas of life but unless a man meets a womens looks threshold, no amount of confidence or personality is going to cause her to be attracted to him. On the other hand, a man can be boring and vain but...

I am over 50 and the past year or so I have finally become resigned to my fate of being alone forever. This is the one area in life in which we have zero control over and which self improvement has very little if any impact on. If the women you are attracted to are not interested in you, there...

Oneitis is certainly a very difficult situation and one with which I am very familiar with personally. The thing to remember is that you cannot negotiate attraction-either it is there or it is not and there is nothing you can do or say to change that. She may like you as a person but is not...

The idea of meaningless sex is repulsive to me and paying for it even more so-besides which it is illegal in most of the US. A year ago I adopted a very loving pitbull and she does help take the edge of the loneliness but is not a replacement for an intimate relationship with human female partner.

I actually think that the question of sex and love is quite relevent to the discussion of meaning on which this thread is focused because for some of us the physical act of sex is meaningless without an emotional connection. Paying for sex (if it is legal where you live) may be a solution for...

Sex does not in any way equal love-in fact only very rarely are the two connected. Also, many men are unable to experience either of them and it is this complete lack of intimate connection which is a source of great despair and angst in the lives of so many.

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The reality of physical laws for which there has never been even a single bit of emperical evidence for anything "supernatural" let alone an all powerful deity. As also a life long athiest myself too, while I agree that many things are subjective the rules of our physical reality are not among...

I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that the subset of men you prefer are the top 1% who can afford to require near perfection from the women they choose to date. Btw, I find it very curious that you stated you are engaged but still seem to be pining for attention from 6'5 white men...

I think the fact that the physically disabled are being compared to short men proves how must distain women have for men under the average height. As far as being engaged to a christian, many strong christians of both sexes have affairs so their proclaimed faith often has nothing to do with...

That could be-it could also be an indication that women in their 20's choose to have fun with the men they are actually attracted to and then choose less attractive, higher earning providers when they are ready to settle down. The fact that 50% of marriages end in divorce and that around 70% of...

Being tall alone is not a guarantee because facial attractiveness is also a huge factor. All things considered though, being 6'1 is vastly superior to being 5'5 on every level.

What I am saying is that of course anyone is free to believe anything they wish to but unless their beliefs correspond to reality they are merely deluding themselves in order to create meaning. It's like a lonely child who creates an invisible friend to try and feel better. The difference is...

Unless the proofs they accept are able to distinguish reality from imagination they are for the most part meaningless though.