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"Love shyness" is a term used to describe men with a kind of chronic shyness which makes it extremely difficult for them to be assertive in informal situations involving potential romantic partners. Having said this, I must tell you that these men are perfectly normal. They have perfectly functional sexuality, they are healthy, they are heterosexual and they might well make great lovers.

The only issue is the preconceived notions that they have about themselves which makes them feel inferior to others especially in social situations. In addition these notions also tell them that they cannot keep their partners happy and hence will eventually be rejected. The extreme fear of rejection is what makes them turn down any potential approaches made by woman towards them. But deep down within, they are desperately longing to develop intimate relationship with the member of the opposite sex.

1.) A love shy male is generally a virgin even at a very high age like 25 and above and will not have had any intimate relationship with members of the opposite sex.

2.) Such men rarely go out with women socially, they avoid social gatherings and are generally introverts.

3.) They do not develop friendships easily and talk only to those with whom they feel comfortable and those with whom they do not feel the fear of rejection.

4.) He is strictly heterosexual and longs desperately to have intimate relationship with a member of the opposite sex, but stays back cause of fear of getting rejected

5.) He is a man who has suffered and is continuously suffering emotionally cause of lack of meaningful female companionship

Well that sum's me up perfectly... **** this affliction! :(

I thought I would share this as there are probably other's on this forum who suffer from this. When I say "suffer", it is because it is either a cause of anxiety in some or because of the anxiety in the first place... but ofcourse there are usually many factor's involved. As the term is specifically relationship based I thought I would post it on the relationship's subforum.

Any comment's on this issue?
 
Why does this term "love shy" relate to men only? I am a woman who has been divorced for 28 years, I've lived alone for all that time, and I am very much Love Shy. I want to be in a loving relationship, but the thought of extending myself to someone scares me. I'm a very warm and passionate person. But I am afraid to even go on a date. What would you call this, but "love shy"?
 
RavenQuill said:
Why does this term "love shy" relate to men only? I am a woman who has been divorced for 28 years, I've lived alone for all that time, and I am very much Love Shy. I want to be in a loving relationship, but the thought of extending myself to someone scares me. I'm a very warm and passionate person. But I am afraid to even go on a date. What would you call this, but "love shy"?

Ah yeah just to clarify this was taken on a board about a woman talking about love shy men but ofcourse, yes, both gender's can suffer from this.
 
i am pretty sure that i am love shy. i have almost crippling shyness when it comes to women. after some time i can talk to them regularly, but when it comes to letting them know how i feel or showing them how i feel, forget it. i have done it ONCE and that was through online messaging. on top of that for some reason it is insanely hard for me to accept that a woman might be interested in me. i always convince myself that there is NO possible way that she could be.
 
ShybutHi said:
Ah yeah just to clarify this was taken on a board about a woman talking about love shy men but ofcourse, yes, both gender's can suffer from this.

Thanks for clearing that up for me, ShybutHi.
 

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