Craving deep connections - online friends (men and women)

[AlexandraOcean]

Hi @AlexandraOcean and welcome.


I overeat often too.
It's usually when I overdrink.
I'm trying to break those unhealthy habits as well.
I try replacing it with exercise, and sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.
Hope you have better luck!

thanks for sharing, kudos to us for taking positive steps! It's so nice to know that I'm not alone and that there are others that understand the challenges of being a sensitive human being in this world.

 

[FunTimes]

Well hello and welcome

Hi AlexandraOcean

Hi there,

As the title states, I'm here because I'm struggling to fulfill my need for deep connection and it leaves me feeling lonely even when I'm around people, even when im with the people I love most in the world.

I've been struggling with PMDD for a few years now meaning I have bouts where I am bed bound and unable to get out and connect with the world.

I'm struggling with a few different things

- ageing - as a woman in my late forties I'm noticing my youthful beauty fading, I know that there is so much more to me than just my looks but the more I feel 'unseen' for who I am on the inside the more I find myself relying on my external to capture attention and appreciation and the greater my fear is of losing my looks

- no strings attached yet deep connection - I go in and out of wanting / needing deep connection. I struggle with friendships because I can't always be there for my friends and they can't always be there for me when I need them so I love the idea of having online connections that I can call upon and visa versa but that don't carry the weight of expectation or attachment.

- meeting like minded men and women - I thrive and thoroughly enjoy deep and honest conversations, my hubby is the polar opposite and it has me feel really sad. He is happiest talking about topics that are not about him, or me or us and it leaves me feeling disconnected. Whrn he talks about himself its usually about the past. I really hope in time we can learn to enjoy speaking each other's languages. Whilst this is my main priority to deepen my connection with him, I think that connecting deeply with others will feed this need taking the pressure of my relationship (if that makes sense).

- overeating I've been turning to food to deal with my loneliness and I want to break out of this unhealthy habit by replacing it with satisfying connections

Looking forward to hearing from you soon and tackling our loneliness together one deep juicy connected conversation at a time

Thanks for reading and thanks to the founders for creating this forum!

Hi

I feel that getting older doesn't mean less beautiful nor less attractive. I feel that there is a different beauty and attractiveness that comes with age. And it is whats inside thsy counts more. I get the feeling you are still very attractive.

Having deep and intellectual conversations are the best.

As far as overeating goes, I feel it would pass. Since you decide to replace it with conversations

 

[AlexandraOcean]

Hi AlexandraOcean

Hi

I feel that getting older doesn't mean less beautiful nor less attractive. I feel that there is a different beauty and attractiveness that comes with age. And it is whats inside thsy counts more. I get the feeling you are still very attractive.

Having deep and intellectual conversations are the best.

As far as overeating goes, I feel it would pass. Since you decide to replace it with conversations

Thank you, so far it's been really lovely getting to know people on here. It really has been lifting me up and feeding that need for connection. I hope I'm paying it forward to others as well

 

[DGM]

Hi there,

As the title states, I'm here because I'm struggling to fulfill my need for deep connection and it leaves me feeling lonely even when I'm around people, even when im with the people I love most in the world.

I've been struggling with PMDD for a few years now meaning I have bouts where I am bed bound and unable to get out and connect with the world.

I'm struggling with a few different things

- ageing - as a woman in my late forties I'm noticing my youthful beauty fading, I know that there is so much more to me than just my looks but the more I feel 'unseen' for who I am on the inside the more I find myself relying on my external to capture attention and appreciation and the greater my fear is of losing my looks

- no strings attached yet deep connection - I go in and out of wanting / needing deep connection. I struggle with friendships because I can't always be there for my friends and they can't always be there for me when I need them so I love the idea of having online connections that I can call upon and visa versa but that don't carry the weight of expectation or attachment.

- meeting like minded men and women - I thrive and thoroughly enjoy deep and honest conversations, my hubby is the polar opposite and it has me feel really sad. He is happiest talking about topics that are not about him, or me or us and it leaves me feeling disconnected. Whrn he talks about himself its usually about the past. I really hope in time we can learn to enjoy speaking each other's languages. Whilst this is my main priority to deepen my connection with him, I think that connecting deeply with others will feed this need taking the pressure of my relationship (if that makes sense).

- overeating I've been turning to food to deal with my loneliness and I want to break out of this unhealthy habit by replacing it with satisfying connections

Looking forward to hearing from you soon and tackling our loneliness together one deep juicy connected conversation at a time

Thanks for reading and thanks to the founders for creating this forum!

I have always been a person to only have a select few as close friends. After my wife of 24 passing I found out the select few was not what I would even call a friend. Once a friend I'm all in Ill be there through anything, But unfortunately there isn't many folks out there the same even people you choose to Marry. But with that being said at 55 yr old I so long for some lady to share conversations and experiences with.

 

[okidoke]

….. at 55 yr old I so long for some lady to share conversations and experiences with.

So are you looking for just a friend or an intimate companion?

 

[Unafraid_8]

So after reading this thread, I joined the site. I thought sure why not share my experiences about loneliness. However, first I wanted to read about others experiences first. So thank you for your posts on this site and topic, after reading them I indulged in a bit of a search, what one does when looking for missing family and/or missing friends (I came across a book called Three Sisters). Well just wanted to introduce myself somewhere - I appreciate this forum and thread, thank you,.

 

[rememberme]

Hi there,

As the title states, I'm here because I'm struggling to fulfill my need for deep connection and it leaves me feeling lonely even when I'm around people, even when im with the people I love most in the world.

I've been struggling with PMDD for a few years now meaning I have bouts where I am bed bound and unable to get out and connect with the world.

I'm struggling with a few different things

- ageing - as a woman in my late forties I'm noticing my youthful beauty fading, I know that there is so much more to me than just my looks but the more I feel 'unseen' for who I am on the inside the more I find myself relying on my external to capture attention and appreciation and the greater my fear is of losing my looks

- no strings attached yet deep connection - I go in and out of wanting / needing deep connection. I struggle with friendships because I can't always be there for my friends and they can't always be there for me when I need them so I love the idea of having online connections that I can call upon and visa versa but that don't carry the weight of expectation or attachment.

- meeting like minded men and women - I thrive and thoroughly enjoy deep and honest conversations, my hubby is the polar opposite and it has me feel really sad. He is happiest talking about topics that are not about him, or me or us and it leaves me feeling disconnected. Whrn he talks about himself its usually about the past. I really hope in time we can learn to enjoy speaking each other's languages. Whilst this is my main priority to deepen my connection with him, I think that connecting deeply with others will feed this need taking the pressure of my relationship (if that makes sense).

- overeating I've been turning to food to deal with my loneliness and I want to break out of this unhealthy habit by replacing it with satisfying connections

Looking forward to hearing from you soon and tackling our loneliness together one deep juicy connected conversation at a time

Thanks for reading and thanks to the founders for creating this forum!

This is almost like reading my inner thoughts! Any Breakthrough on breaking the bad habits? x

 

[bodycode]

Hi there,

As the title states, I'm here because I'm struggling to fulfill my need for deep connection and it leaves me feeling lonely even when I'm around people, even when im with the people I love most in the world.

I've been struggling with PMDD for a few years now meaning I have bouts where I am bed bound and unable to get out and connect with the world.

I'm struggling with a few different things

- ageing - as a woman in my late forties I'm noticing my youthful beauty fading, I know that there is so much more to me than just my looks but the more I feel 'unseen' for who I am on the inside the more I find myself relying on my external to capture attention and appreciation and the greater my fear is of losing my looks

- no strings attached yet deep connection - I go in and out of wanting / needing deep connection. I struggle with friendships because I can't always be there for my friends and they can't always be there for me when I need them so I love the idea of having online connections that I can call upon and visa versa but that don't carry the weight of expectation or attachment.

- meeting like minded men and women - I thrive and thoroughly enjoy deep and honest conversations, my hubby is the polar opposite and it has me feel really sad. He is happiest talking about topics that are not about him, or me or us and it leaves me feeling disconnected. Whrn he talks about himself its usually about the past. I really hope in time we can learn to enjoy speaking each other's languages. Whilst this is my main priority to deepen my connection with him, I think that connecting deeply with others will feed this need taking the pressure of my relationship (if that makes sense).

- overeating I've been turning to food to deal with my loneliness and I want to break out of this unhealthy habit by replacing it with satisfying connections
Looking forward to hearing from you soon and tackling our loneliness together one deep juicy connected conversation at a time

Thanks for reading and thanks to the founders for creating this forum!

I also struggle for deep connection. I can relate to the 'mdd' portion of the pmdd, since that stands for major depressive disorder' even though the mdd in that acronym is 'dysphoric disorder'. Deep connection takes a long time to develop with people I'm sure. I've had 2 best friends commit suicide and other friends die or move away. Even when they were alive I felt lonely. Now, @ 63 years old, and married for 25 years, like what you said 'my husband is the exact opposite'... me too, and no kids here. Maybe we can continue to talk and get to know one another. There's so much more#!

 

[Cruzan]

Hi there,

As the title states, I'm here because I'm struggling to fulfill my need for deep connection and it leaves me feeling lonely even when I'm around people, even when im with the people I love most in the world.

I've been struggling with PMDD for a few years now meaning I have bouts where I am bed bound and unable to get out and connect with the world.

I'm struggling with a few different things

- ageing - as a woman in my late forties I'm noticing my youthful beauty fading, I know that there is so much more to me than just my looks but the more I feel 'unseen' for who I am on the inside the more I find myself relying on my external to capture attention and appreciation and the greater my fear is of losing my looks

- no strings attached yet deep connection - I go in and out of wanting / needing deep connection. I struggle with friendships because I can't always be there for my friends and they can't always be there for me when I need them so I love the idea of having online connections that I can call upon and visa versa but that don't carry the weight of expectation or attachment.

- meeting like minded men and women - I thrive and thoroughly enjoy deep and honest conversations, my hubby is the polar opposite and it has me feel really sad. He is happiest talking about topics that are not about him, or me or us and it leaves me feeling disconnected. Whrn he talks about himself its usually about the past. I really hope in time we can learn to enjoy speaking each other's languages. Whilst this is my main priority to deepen my connection with him, I think that connecting deeply with others will feed this need taking the pressure of my relationship (if that makes sense).

- overeating I've been turning to food to deal with my loneliness and I want to break out of this unhealthy habit by replacing it with satisfying connections

Looking forward to hearing from you soon and tackling our loneliness together one deep juicy connected conversation at a time

Thanks for reading and thanks to the founders for creating this forum!

Hi. I am new to this site. i suspect we are all here becuse we need to reach out and connect on an emotional level. It is difficult to have love bottled up inside, and have no one to give it to. I have loved and have lost love. I woud like to meet an older woman, preferably married, who is not receiving the emotional connection with her husband that she needs to have. We need our feelings to be met and received and returned!

 

[littlefish555]

Hi @AlexandraOcean. Just saying hi, appreciate your intro, I did mine long ago, maybe twice, but I'm sure it's very similar. 44 year old female. I do a lot of lurking and reading and sometimes muster up the courage to share. Also have had PMDD, which I think I've finally got it under control with mat pilates, although I've abandoned that the last 3 months with too much travel and woe. Happy to share experiences at some point. Also, I'm sure you're just as beautiful as you've always been, likely even more so. The youth/ internet culture is hilariously unhelpful, but don't second guess your ability to shine. I overcompensate with clothes and fashion sometimes when I feel a little extra need to pop out visually. I personally don't miss being younger/ hotter as I found it pretty anxiety inducing, but completely understand what you mean. Welcome

 

[Cruzan]

Hi @AlexandraOcean. Just saying hi, appreciate your intro, I did mine long ago, maybe twice, but I'm sure it's very similar. 44 year old female. I do a lot of lurking and reading and sometimes muster up the courage to share. Also have had PMDD, which I think I've finally got it under control with mat pilates, although I've abandoned that the last 3 months with too much travel and woe. Happy to share experiences at some point. Also, I'm sure you're just as beautiful as you've always been, likely even more so. The youth/ internet culture is hilariously unhelpful, but don't second guess your ability to shine. I overcompensate with clothes and fashion sometimes when I feel a little extra need to pop out visually. I personally don't miss being younger/ hotter as I found it pretty anxiety inducing, but completely understand what you mean. Welcome

Hi @AlexandraOcean. Just saying hi, appreciate your intro, I did mine long ago, maybe twice, but I'm sure it's very similar. 44 year old female. I do a lot of lurking and reading and sometimes muster up the courage to share. Also have had PMDD, which I think I've finally got it under control with mat pilates, although I've abandoned that the last 3 months with too much travel and woe. Happy to share experiences at some point. Also, I'm sure you're just as beautiful as you've always been, likely even more so. The youth/ internet culture is hilariously unhelpful, but don't second guess your ability to shine. I overcompensate with clothes and fashion sometimes when I feel a little extra need to pop out visually. I personally don't miss being younger/ hotter as I found it pretty anxiety inducing, but completely understand what you mean. Welcome

One of the unexpected aspects of getting older, is that I find women closer to my age much more attractive than the younger women I see. This is a good thing! Of course as we age our bodies change, but that does not mean we are no longer attractive to thers. I have seen profiles of older women on dating sites, and some will include pictures of themselves when they weere in HS or college. I find them much more beuatiful as they appear now. I don't know if it is a blessing or a curse, but to me a women is the most beautiful thing ever created. What makes some more appealing than other? It is difficult to say. Some are magic, some are not. There is an indefinable essence to the women I find attractive. W are what can be seen and greaterr essence, what cannot be seen. Let's continue.