2 join or not 2 join?

[Guest]

that is the question. I am a a lonely and sad person. so when I first stumbled on this site. I was extremely excited. I thought to myself, maybe here I can find people who understand what I'm going through. and can relate to the pain and indifference that I feel on a day to day biases. and who knows, maybe I'll even find a friend? but my excitement was short lived. while still considering joining and becoming a registered member. I decided to take a look a round. and see what kind of group I would be joining. my first impression was good. I posted a message. and a friendly person responded to my post. but then I stumbled upon a post by a regular member who seemed to be a person of influence on this site. they found themselves presented with a dilemma. whither or not to continue being a member of this site. and it wasn't till I read the situation that prompted said question in the post. that I found myself wandering if I want to be a member of this site after all. supposedly this person is a long time member who is said to have helped many a person. but I question how caring of a person this is. because her argument with some one on this site was in regards to a dispute of personal beliefs between the two of them. so question to anyone on this site is, is this a common occurrence on this site? are people only helped if there personal beliefs are a like those of popular culture? because if so.... then I do not want to be a member. its my personal belief that all people deserve help. no matter what country they come from. or the color of there skin, or what they believe in. cause if you look down to the core. the whole point of this forum is to give people a place to voice their loneliness and sadness. and for any caring person out there who wants to help some one over come there heartache to do so. but if you can't separate your personal beliefs from your need to help some one. then why bother? all you do is give some one like a negetive view of what this site represents. and to be honest. many others may have been scared off from joining who could have really used help. for the same reasons that I have mention. so what do you say people of this forum? are my views correct? should I not join?

 

[Robin]

You know what? Register here so that You can send me a PM and i'll take You to a website with rules. You deserve a hell lot better place to get well at than this, with respect to Bjarne's way too busy life to keep a big community like this managed 24/7.

 

[diamond-dancer]

There are a lot of different people here with a lot of conflicting beliefs and that's why I like it here, - because everyone is so different. It's true that some members are more opinionated than others, but this has never influenced me personally. It's also true that every so often some people clash.

If you joined, maybe you could find someone with whom you can relate as many of us have... a friend. But if you don't join, you'll never know.

 

[Bluey]

The thing is this sight is like the world out there in that you well get ppl that you don't like but well hopefully fined ppl that you do like.

I would say Join but then I would coz I have already joined

I would say the nice ppl moor then out way the not so nice ppl. All tho I have found every one hear to be nice.

It is true that some ppl hear are troubled and they will be arguing. When that happens just stay out the way and post some where else same as I do.

Hope you Join.


robin mate,,,, why not just post the link to your sight any way. Its not breaking any rules by doing that.
If Bjarne has a problem with that I will take the blame lol But I would.

 

[Whoaisme]

Since Robin and Lonelygirl are the two you are referring to, then I'd say their opinions about the forum are biased.

My opinion is not biased in any way. I've been on here for a couple of weeks and I use this forum to post about random things and read the problems of others which are, more often than not, nearly the same as my own.

It gives me great comfort to know that I'm not the only person in the world who feels the way I do.

 

[Robin]

Hey, Bluey. I don't want the name or address of my community to go public here because i don't want the people from my long list of disturbing figures from this place to come there. A peaceful community sure as heck could live without quite a few of the members here.

Whoaisme, this guest obviously have seen enough already to be cautious with joining. Just because Your personal experience with the people of this website has been alright, it doesn't mean that he/she won't see more content of that sort. This website's management is sub-standard, in my view, and the lack of action taken towards the horrible content in this forum has at least once shocked most members in it. This website give lonely people SOMETHING, and that something has proven to be quite nasty at many occasions.

 

[Blue Sky]

that is the question. I am a a lonely and sad person. so when I first stumbled on this site. I was extremely excited. I thought to myself, maybe here I can find people who understand what I'm going through. and can relate to the pain and indifference that I feel on a day to day biases. and who knows, maybe I'll even find a friend? but my excitement was short lived. while still considering joining and becoming a registered member. I decided to take a look a round. and see what kind of group I would be joining. my first impression was good. I posted a message. and a friendly person responded to my post. but then I stumbled upon a post by a regular member who seemed to be a person of influence on this site. they found themselves presented with a dilemma. whither or not to continue being a member of this site. and it wasn't till I read the situation that prompted said question in the post. that I found myself wandering if I want to be a member of this site after all. supposedly this person is a long time member who is said to have helped many a person. but I question how caring of a person this is. because her argument with some one on this site was in regards to a dispute of personal beliefs between the two of them. so question to anyone on this site is, is this a common occurrence on this site? are people only helped if there personal beliefs are a like those of popular culture? because if so.... then I do not want to be a member. its my personal belief that all people deserve help. no matter what country they come from. or the color of there skin, or what they believe in. cause if you look down to the core. the whole point of this forum is to give people a place to voice their loneliness and sadness. and for any caring person out there who wants to help some one over come there heartache to do so. but if you can't separate your personal beliefs from your need to help some one. then why bother? all you do is give some one like a negetive view of what this site represents. and to be honest. many others may have been scared off from joining who could have really used help. for the same reasons that I have mention. so what do you say people of this forum? are my views correct? should I not join?

Hi Guest

Well you make some very good points in your post about the forum. Lately a couple of members on this forum have had the courage to come out and ask for a board of rules to be set, so that the forum runs more smoothly, but it's been debated about, specially by the members who abuse this forum and nothing has been done. I know that you can't really do much about trolls coming onto the forum and posting nasty stuff except just delete their posts. But you CAN do something about the members flaming each other, using abusive language etc... Sure some posts have been deleted and some threads have been locked out, but I myself think that stronger action should have been taken. Also I'm sure that some other members on the forum don't like the flaming and language that goes on, but they are scared to come out and say it, because of getting attacked and flamed themselves.
You are also very right about the negative view that the forum can create, it's there for the whole wide world to read in public.
As for my relgious and political views, I was taught by my parents at a young age, not to vent these views in public, because there very strong topics and can create, very heavy debates, disputes, fights and even wars.
Also, lately a few members whom I was friends with have left this forum, and I myself am growing quite tired of it, and it won't be long before I do the same unless things change around here.

Blue Sky

 

[Bluey]

Hey, Bluey. I don't want the name or address of my community to go public here because i don't want the people from my long list of disturbing figures from this place to come there. A peaceful community sure as heck could live without quite a few of the members here.

fear a nuff. I would like to know of somewhere ells thats a good and fun place to talk to ppl tho if any one knows of any where

 

[jales]

Blue Sky you can't leave! :_(
really..i would miss you