38 male virgin - Pros and Cons of paying for sex

[TheSkaFish]

I have always had money, always have been in shape (not a bodybuilder, but a decent physique) worked with Wall St firms for nearly 40 years, and I still
have somewhat of an inferiority complex. I also sometimes have a superiority complex. I think everyone kind of does. We're all messed up.
But I have never thought that seeing escorts makes me inferior, or even reaffirms it.

Anyways, I gave my pros and cons on the first page.
And my recommendations to the OP.
Just figured I would pipe up to address the above points.
Have a good week everyone.

I know.
And I just wanted to say, that a lot of these things that I say are "rules", really only apply to me, about myself.
I'm not saying that everyone has to think or feel like I do about certain things.

Seeing an escort, and lots of other things, would make me feel bad, but that's just me, about myself.
The things that bother me intensely, don't bother others at all.

I'm not trying to insult or convert you or anyone else to feeling like I do.
If it doesn't make you feel that way, that's one thing.
I'm just saying how that situation would make me feel about myself.

(OK, I guess I tried to convince the Lonely virgin guy, and OP.
They're either against it or on the fence.
But I wouldn't try to convince someone who has already said that they are OK with it.)

The only thing I find objectionable to both myself AND for others, is when some people push the escort "solution" on others, when they're clearly distressed about not having a relationship - as if to tell the person, paying for it is all they're good for.
That they're not good enough for a relationship. Not good enough for a normal quality of life.
The people who say this, do so with an air of smug superiority, in a bullying way.
But you and anyone still active here hasn't done this.

As for curing my inferiority complex, I really think if I had those things, it would be gone.
I would prove that I have at least normal biological quality, and be able to dispel the feelings of inferiority.
And, I'd feel more sure I have something to show for myself.
If I had those things, I'd feel like no one could say anything to me, and I'd be in a better place for sure.

 

[HellsLittleAngel]

I know.
And I just wanted to say, that a lot of these things that I say are "rules", really only apply to me, about myself.
I'm not saying that everyone has to think or feel like I do about certain things.

Seeing an escort, and lots of other things, would make me feel bad, but that's just me, about myself.
The things that bother me intensely, don't bother others at all.

I'm not trying to insult or convert you or anyone else to feeling like I do.
If it doesn't make you feel that way, that's one thing.
I'm just saying how that situation would make me feel about myself.

The only thing I find objectionable to both myself AND for others, is when some people push the escort "solution" on others, when they're clearly distressed about not having a relationship - as if to tell the person, paying for it is all they're good for.
The people who say this, do so with an air of smug superiority, in a bullying way.
But you and anyone still active here hasn't done this.

As for curing my inferiority complex, I really think if I had those things, it would be gone.
I would prove that I have at least normal biological quality, and be able to dispel the feelings of inferiority.
And, I'd feel more sure I have something to show for myself.
If I had those things, I'd feel like no one could say anything to me, and I'd be in a better place for sure.

I'm sure you have traits that you like about yourself.

 

[TheSkaFish]

I'm sure you have traits that you like about yourself.

A few, I guess.
But they aren't as powerful, as NOT having the things I lack.

 

[HellsLittleAngel]

A few, I guess.
But they aren't as powerful, as NOT having the things I lack.

Everyone has to begin somewhere. Nobody's perfect. Even I don't have everything together, but over time, I've built myself up to where I'm at now, and still going. But, I also don't seek external validation. I'm self-validated and happy in life!