57 year old divorced male-extremely lonely!!

[jr70895]

57 year old divorced white male, have been divorced for 22 years. Have not dated anyone for 10 years and wish I could but not sure I ever will. I Just go to work and home with no social life and have no desire for one. I never ever go anywhere not even out to eat. I only eat at home, have totally isolated myself from family and any previous friends. I have accepted the fact that at my age all women are looking for is financial security and I just do not have that to offer any longer. I live in Louisiana and do travel out of town for work. I really wish I could find someone interested in me for who I am and not just for financial reasons but as stated at my age that is not possible. I just do not see any change in the future. I will just live out my life in isolation and die a very lonely man. Thanks for at least reading this. JR

 

[lonelygirl]

Hey JR,

I hear you, man. I know how hard romantic life can be these days!

First of all, please don't think that just because you are older or are not wealthy that you have to be alone. Second, I do know PERSONALLY three couples who met and married from this site www.eharmony.com

I don't know if it's any good for you, it costs like 35 bucks a month I think, but if you would like to meet someone who has the similar worldview and values as you, it's worth a shot, no?

Hugs,

LG.

 

[jr70895]

Thanks for the info, I went to eharmony as suggested and went thru the profile stuff and they replied that they were not able to work for me. So, that is just how things have been going for me for the last 15 years or so.

 

[lonelygirl]

WHOAH!

Just for kicks and giggles, I had filled out a profile and they said they can't work for me.

Hmm do they think I have an anger problem, maybe? Or am I just 'TOO ORIGINAL' for them to put into a neat little box?

Oh well! I can help you think of MANY different strategies! Are you looking for a romantic relationship or marriage, new friendships, or both? I will do my best to put our heads together....two heads are better than one!

Hugs,

LG.

 

[That Guy]

"Old Man take a look at my life. I'm a lot like you." -Neil Young

I feel so bad, JR. I already feel like I'm in your situation. I'm only 23 but I feel like an old man myself. I'll be 24 next week.

"24 and there's so much more."

I am a recent college grad (liberal arts, don't ask) and I feel so out of place. I know you must laugh at my suggestion considering I'm less than half your age but I feel I've already hit a wall. I feel like I'm out of my prime. I don't have many friends and I'm finding it extraordinarily difficult to find a decent woman. I haven't even been close to one in 3 years now. All the girls around my age seem either too young (high school/college girls) or too old (grad school/PhD/professional girls). I'm in this weird gray zone where I can't seem to find my place. I've been trying the online thing for a while and I haven't had any luck. I still suggest you try it in your position though. I think Yahoo! Personnels would work well for you:

http://personals.yahoo.com

eHarmony didn't work for me either so don't feel bad.

But yeah, life is one long drag for me every day. I can see myself being your age and alone. I get so terribly depressed when I think about it. I've met many people in their 40s and 50s who are alone and I don't know how they do it. I just crawl through every day of the week.

Work, Sleep, **** Around, Sleep, Work,.....

And I don't have any money either which makes things all the worse. Occasionally I'll hit a bar or something but there are rarely girls my age worth looking at in those kinds of places so I doubt you'd find luck there. I don't know where the decent upstanding girls go. I think meeting people online is your best bet.

Good luck, Old Man. And keep us posted.

 

[NewBirth]

Nooooooooo dont do the online junk. Women on these sites play way too many games & the atmosphere is so yuck. Its horrible trust me on this keep it to real life.
If you think all women your age want is financial security then try dating younger for goodness sakes. There are some of us who could give a flying lizards tongue if a guy has money or not u know. Dont give up but u gotta get out there to be able to meet ppl sweetie.

 

[Seosa]

Sorry to hear JR, fingers crossed it works out for you my friend.

 

[monkeysox]

I never gave a flying hoot if a guy has money, were not all gold diggers JR.

The nicest people have little and are not spoilt by materialism.

Don't give up hope no matter what.