A hope for happiness.

[ShybutHi]

I wonder what it is like to have a partner... Someone to share the wonders of the world with. I think most people do not really respect that someone likes them and are selfish in a relationship. Surely in a relationship you should mutually want to do things to make your partner happy considering this person wants to be with you, they like you for you. Someone being attracted to you and wanting to be with you and share things, especially if it is an intimate relationship, is a wonderful thing. For some, like me, finding someone who is attracted is an incredibly rare opportunity and I find it pathetic how some people just have no respect for the whole fact someone likes them for who they are.

I sort of find it silly that so many people jump from relationship to relationship and I think this is because they have no respect for relationships and attraction, among other things, they do not know what they truly want in a person, maybe they are not a good judge of character and probably do not even know themselves very well. Some stay in a failed relationship just for convenience which I think is a sad situation.

I think some people use others as entertainment aswell... That may sound harsh but I really think alot of people out there expect their partner to entertain them. This is probably because they do not have many, if any, interests of their own that they wish to follow. Alot of people like this are the type to jump from relationship to relationship because they get bored but you should not expect someone to entertain you in my opinion.

Though very doubtful as I am not attractive, I just hope one day I will find a nice woman with whom I have mutual attraction. A true companion who wants to share what they love in life, adventure and respects relationships as much as me.

 

[floffyschneeman]

I hope you will be able to find someone who will love you for who you are and that in turn you will love for who she is as well I know it's weird to see people jump from one relationship to the other, but sometimes it's also the situation. Sometimes we are not mature enough to control our emotions, to see things in a bigger scene or that sometimes things just don't go as we hope they would. Still every experience brings new learning about life, about the world, and specially about ourselves. This is what most people know of, but very little people know the learning a person can gain by being still or observing people as they go by their lives. Most people always think that people who haven't been in a relationship don't know better. Sometimes people who are ''inexperienced'' are considered immature but I think there's beauty in waiting as well. Like beauty in melancholy, you learn to listen to your inner most desires and whispers of your heart. I guess what I am saying is that you are lucky to be in a situation where you can know which things to value and which things people take for granted usually. when the time comes for you to have someone to love, you know how to value them. Good luck

 

[Tiina63]

I think some people use others as entertainment aswell... That may sound harsh but I really think alot of people out there expect their partner to entertain them. This is probably because they do not have many, if any, interests of their own that they wish to follow. Alot of people like this are the type to jump from relationship to relationship because they get bored but you should not expect someone to entertain you in my opinion.


I have met a lot of people like this. As I am an introvert, I feel so pressurised by anyone who expects me to be very chatty and to keep them interested all the time. My mum had these expectations of me as well, which is why I am so quick to feel I ought to take them on when I am with somone with the same expectations. Is it really ok for me NOT to be an entertainer? Please someone reassure me!!

 

[Lonely in BC]

I think some people use others as entertainment aswell... That may sound harsh but I really think alot of people out there expect their partner to entertain them. This is probably because they do not have many, if any, interests of their own that they wish to follow. Alot of people like this are the type to jump from relationship to relationship because they get bored but you should not expect someone to entertain you in my opinion.


I have met a lot of people like this. As I am an introvert, I feel so pressurised by anyone who expects me to be very chatty and to keep them interested all the time. My mum had these expectations of me as well, which is why I am so quick to feel I ought to take them on when I am with somone with the same expectations. Is it really ok for me NOT to be an entertainer? Please someone reassure me!!

It's ok Tiina, you shouldn't have that expectation put on you. Relationships, whether romantic, friends, or family should have some give and take in them. If a relationship of any type is to have any hope of growing it takes all parties concerned putting forth the effort to make it interesting.

I personally tire of having to be the forward momentum of any relationship when the other (or others) don't seem to put in much effort. The worst person to be around is the one who doesn't share an opinion, thought, hope, or desire.

The people who latch on and expect you to entertain them are soul-suckers Tiina, shake them off as quick as you can before they drain you.

 

[VanillaCreme]

Tiina, that's okay if you feel like you don't want to entertain. I honestly don't think a real loving relationship should be about one entertaining the other. I think it should be about two people being comfortable around each other. If it happens that you both entertain each other naturally, that's even better. But it should not be forced or expected of you.

 

[In a lonely place]

ShyButHi I feel the same as you do.
Sometimes I wonder how it can be that so many people are able to find a partner, yet treat them so badly. I just hope like you that one day it will all be worth it.

 

[Gutted]

It's a spiral. Some sort of trend starts, people notice it and want to be part of it and then before you know it, it's like a massive storm. Many people do many things just because others do. I might be going down to a Pub tomorrow. I never go to Pubs with friends. But as they want to do it and many others here seem to do it, I'm giving it a shot. I've been hit by the storm

I know many people, even ex's, who appear to just want a relationship for the sake of being in one. They will go out with people they've known for a week. They'll jump from one relationship to another casually, like the previous relationship meant nothing. I don't like it but oh well Just avoid the storm!

 

[ShybutHi]

I dont need to avoid the storm because the storm avoids me.

 

[Okiedokes]

Most people always think that people who haven't been in a relationship don't know better. Sometimes people who are ''inexperienced'' are considered immature but I think there's beauty in waiting as well. Like beauty in melancholy, you learn to listen to your inner most desires and whispers of your heart. I guess what I am saying is that you are lucky to be in a situation where you can know which things to value and which things people take for granted usually. when the time comes for you to have someone to love, you know how to value them. Good luck

Yes... I totally agree to this. Brilliant post.

You know what you want, and expect in a relationship...and what it should be like before you've even been in one. You can weed them out a lot easier to get to your potential person. I think it's easy to not "think" when getting in a relationship because your feelings are all over the place and it makes you vulnerable. You have to remember to use your mind to protect yourself before it gets too serious.

 

[ShybutHi]

In some ways having a predefined concept of how a moral relationship should work and what you want in a relationship is a good thing. Atleast it means there would be less chance of forming a relationship with someone who is not compatible. Some people would say just take a chance with anyone who may take your fancy and is single... But being single for my life has just made me personally want to find someone who I actually click with, someone who shares a mutual attraction.

 

[perfanoff]

Don't compromise your values Shy.
There is this certain class of people that expect to TAKE from a relationship and not give. They want to be pampered, entertained and so on. I have been burned (just a bit emotionally) like that before. How to fix it? Love yourself as much as you are able to love another person, so you don't need to destroy yourself about it

It's also true that the older everyone gets, they become more mature and start caring less about emotions and crushes and more about stability and true connection. By the time you're 30 you should be seeing a lot of women looking for guys like you.. but don't compromise with unequal relationships. You need to give as much as you receive.

 

[ShybutHi]

Don't compromise your values Shy.
There is this certain class of people that expect to TAKE from a relationship and not give. They want to be pampered, entertained and so on. I have been burned (just a bit emotionally) like that before. How to fix it? Love yourself as much as you are able to love another person, so you don't need to destroy yourself about it

It's also true that the older everyone gets, they become more mature and start caring less about emotions and crushes and more about stability and true connection. By the time you're 30 you should be seeing a lot of women looking for guys like you.. but don't compromise with unequal relationships. You need to give as much as you receive.

Well I hope there are women with similar values out there. I just come from such a moral background and on top of that I am a very rational and logical person. I do not like people who create drama at all so I am looking for someone who is mature with good values. In a way it seems I am in a minority when it comes to this...

 

[perfanoff]

Yes you are a relative minority, but you're getting the long stick here, I truly believe so

 

[ShybutHi]

Yes you are a relative minority, but you're getting the long stick here, I truly believe so

What do you mean by getting the long stick? Not familiar with that saying, atleast in this context.

 

[perfanoff]

Hehe, sorry I'm not a native speaker! Well you didn't draw the short stick in life, you are lucky to not be the type of man who goes in the drama business. It's risky.

 

[ShybutHi]

Ah I see, yeah, people that create drama all the time are incredibly annoying to me. lol I find it so immature...

I think I will save all my emotion for that special woman if you see what I mean.

 

[Tiina63]

Thank you Vanilla Cream and LOnely in BC. This is an issue which worries me a lot and i appreciate your understanding.

 

[ksushil970]

I wonder what it is like to have a partner... Someone to share the wonders of the world with. I think most people do not really respect that someone likes them and are selfish in a relationship. Surely in a relationship you should mutually want to do things to make your partner happy considering this person wants to be with you, they like you for you. Someone being attracted to you and wanting to be with you and share things, especially if it is an intimate relationship, is a wonderful thing. For some, like me, finding someone who is attracted is an incredibly rare opportunity and I find it pathetic how some people just have no respect for the whole fact someone likes them for who they are.

I sort of find it silly that so many people jump from relationship to relationship and I think this is because they have no respect for relationships and attraction, among other things, they do not know what they truly want in a person, maybe they are not a good judge of character and probably do not even know themselves very well. Some stay in a failed relationship just for convenience which I think is a sad situation.

I think some people use others as entertainment aswell... That may sound harsh but I really think alot of people out there expect their partner to entertain them. This is probably because they do not have many, if any, interests of their own that they wish to follow. Alot of people like this are the type to jump from relationship to relationship because they get bored but you should not expect someone to entertain you in my opinion.

Though very doubtful as I am not attractive, I just hope one day I will find a nice woman with whom I have mutual attraction. A true companion who wants to share what they love in life, adventure and respects relationships as much as me.

This is where an astrologer helps a lot. The match making is a means of getting good life partner and working on it that makes your life happy going and peaceful.
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[perfanoff]

I wonder what it is like to have a partner... Someone to share the wonders of the world with. I think most people do not really respect that someone likes them and are selfish in a relationship. Surely in a relationship you should mutually want to do things to make your partner happy considering this person wants to be with you, they like you for you. Someone being attracted to you and wanting to be with you and share things, especially if it is an intimate relationship, is a wonderful thing. For some, like me, finding someone who is attracted is an incredibly rare opportunity and I find it pathetic how some people just have no respect for the whole fact someone likes them for who they are.

I sort of find it silly that so many people jump from relationship to relationship and I think this is because they have no respect for relationships and attraction, among other things, they do not know what they truly want in a person, maybe they are not a good judge of character and probably do not even know themselves very well. Some stay in a failed relationship just for convenience which I think is a sad situation.

I think some people use others as entertainment aswell... That may sound harsh but I really think alot of people out there expect their partner to entertain them. This is probably because they do not have many, if any, interests of their own that they wish to follow. Alot of people like this are the type to jump from relationship to relationship because they get bored but you should not expect someone to entertain you in my opinion.

Though very doubtful as I am not attractive, I just hope one day I will find a nice woman with whom I have mutual attraction. A true companion who wants to share what they love in life, adventure and respects relationships as much as me.

This is where an astrologer helps a lot. The match making is a means of getting good life partner and working on it that makes your life happy going and peaceful.
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[ShybutHi]

Astrology in my opinion can not give an accurate representation of a person's personality or accurately predict a specific outcome. Hence why most astrology reports cover multiple angles so the chance of something happening in your life or meeting someone who is a certain way, for example, is quite high. That does not mean the astrologer can predict the future or that astrology is a proven science, it means he/she can generalize incredibly well.

Match making in astrology is basically just relationship psychology with added fiction and astronomy elements to make the astrologers method more interesting.