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What was a not so good decision that you made in your life?that you thought was a good idea at the time.
A not so good decision
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Getting married - the two years of marriage was brutal - at least I learned my lesson the first time around in the 90s - I don't ever see myself getting married ever again and don't see the benefits in it unless the person was rich -, lol.
Claudia1794
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Ditto. Getting married was the worst and he had money which was one of the problems. He thought his money could control and change me.
Doing the mail order bride thing. I talked to my dad, grandparents, friends, co-workers, just about everybody I could about trying the mail order bride route. Every one of them thought it was a good idea. They all wanted to see me get married and didn't see any opportunity for me. I honestly didn't know how it couldn't work out. I figured I'm a nice guy and would treat her well. Surely she would be happy to be married to me right? That's what she wanted right?
Wrong. She did everything she could to cause problems including legal ones for me with the help of her sister, already here, and her brother in-law. She lied about everything even meaningless stuff. She even emailed all my passwords to her sister and they tried to access my bank accounts. Then she actually started dating someone else and told everybody that she was single. She left after about a year and completely ignored anything having to do with me including the divorce.
She just wanted to come to the US and get her citizenship and needed a sucker to get her here. Later I found out that her sister and brother in law planned out the entire thing. They wanted to bring her to the US to marry their friend. However, he didn't have the finances to do it. She flew out to live with the two of them. But, she refused to have anything to do with their friend. I was glad when she left. All she did was cause me grief.
I actually typed out everything that happened with proof and sent it into immigration services. I said I would pay for all the expenses to send her back to her country. I called and spoke with them several times. They basically told me to F..k off and stop calling them. Apparently once someone is here they get to stay unless they kill people. Even then they can come back again later.
Wrong. She did everything she could to cause problems including legal ones for me with the help of her sister, already here, and her brother in-law. She lied about everything even meaningless stuff. She even emailed all my passwords to her sister and they tried to access my bank accounts. Then she actually started dating someone else and told everybody that she was single. She left after about a year and completely ignored anything having to do with me including the divorce.
She just wanted to come to the US and get her citizenship and needed a sucker to get her here. Later I found out that her sister and brother in law planned out the entire thing. They wanted to bring her to the US to marry their friend. However, he didn't have the finances to do it. She flew out to live with the two of them. But, she refused to have anything to do with their friend. I was glad when she left. All she did was cause me grief.
I actually typed out everything that happened with proof and sent it into immigration services. I said I would pay for all the expenses to send her back to her country. I called and spoke with them several times. They basically told me to F..k off and stop calling them. Apparently once someone is here they get to stay unless they kill people. Even then they can come back again later.
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Claudia1794
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Holy ****! That is wild. Unfortunately, its usually the decent people that suffer. You could have just locked her in the basement until she realized she had messed with the wrong one. I'm not serious, mostly. My situation didnt have that wow factor. I just didn't want to pretend to be a christian, dress-up in too expensive clothes and smile as stepford wives prattle on about boring **** while boasting about their bratty *** kids. You can't very well make a mold if the material isn't pliable.
Pretending is so stressful. I don't know how other people are able to do it long term.
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