A woman said she liked me and I said nothing

[Triple Bogey]

It was yesterday at work right at the end of my shift. I wasn't in the best of moods, working single time on Boxing day annoys me. I also missed my football team play our biggest game of the season. I have this stinking head cold as well.

Anyway this woman comes in wearing this Christmas jumper. She asks for cigs and then starts chatting to this other woman with her. She goes to walk out and then stops. She turns around and says

'I think your really nice, your always so jovial. I have had a crap Christmas and just seeing you has made it better.'

She then told me where she worked and that she comes in the shop in the mornings. She went on

'I think your lovely, a lovely man !'

I stood there and didn't say a word. I was surprized and most of all thought she was taking the piss, making fun out of me. I went home annoyed my last customer was a bad one and then forgot about it.

On the night time I realized who she was. She was dressed differently and I hadn't recognized her. She does come in in most mornings, she says 'hi' to me (first as well), smiles and sometimes she chats. I chat back but she's not really on my radar for some reason. I serve loads of customers and some I remember and some I don't.

So it's obvious she wasn't making fun out of me. I am so mad I never said anything back to her. I hope she comes in soon so I can be nice to her. I am wondering what she meant. Was she a bit tipsy after a xmas drink ? Or was it some speech she had wanted to make for some time ? - She is a nice woman, about my age, seems really nice and I haven't noticed her.

How do I rescue this situation ?

 

[Tiina63]

I think you should just be your normal self with her and behave as you normally do. She obviously likes you the way you are. Just be friendly and cheerful and see if anything more happens.

 

[ringwood]

I think you should just be your normal self with her and behave as you normally do. She obviously likes you the way you are. Just be friendly and cheerful and see if anything more happens.

Exactly. Be yourself. Maybe mention you had a horrible head cold the last time she was in and wasn't feeling great...just chat her up, ask her about hobbies, talk about yours and your photography - that might be a good way to go for a casual walk along the beach with her, taking pictures...

 

[Gutted]

Sounds like me, lol. If someone compliments me I tend to think they're messing around. Beats thinking they mean it if they don't. All is not lost though. If you see her around, take some chances!

 

[Triple Bogey]

thanks everybody. She didn't come in today. I was looking out for her.

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She does come in and talk to me. I wish I had paid more attention. It shows I can't pick up on any of the so called signs. I do talk but in an off hand way. That's why I didn't recognize her in that xmas jumper. I speak to dozens of customers every day and most are women. And of course I have my favourites and she wasn't one of them. I have no idea why because she is nice looking and looks a nice person.

 

[Triple Bogey]

I am trying not to think about my next meeting with her. I always day dream about something good happening. It rarely happens. Bad stuff always does. Maybe that speech she made was just some festive spirit. Maybe she was a little tipsy ? One sherry too many ?

 

[ringwood]

Maybe you just need to relax and let things play out as they may. Maybe the festive speech she made was genuine, and she needed to be a little tipsy to say it - alcohol has a way of making people brave!

 

[Triple Bogey]

Maybe you just need to relax and let things play out as they may. Maybe the festive speech she made was genuine, and she needed to be a little tipsy to say it - alcohol has a way of making people brave!

it's just me. I worry and over think. It's years and years of hopes and dreams that haven't happened. My brain is programmed for failure regarding women. I do get the occasional compliment from an elderly woman but she looks my age. I was shocked into silence, couldn't believe it.

 

[ShybutHi]

That must be so nice to have someone say that to you!
Perhaps she really is interested in you in that way. I guess the best thing to do is to try and create a bit more active conversation the next time you see her. If you are a bit interested in her and she reciprocates with the conversation, ask her if she would like to go out together some time for a drink perhaps. You might make a good friend or maybe even something more.

I wish I could get a compliment like that from a woman.

 

[Sci-Fi]

You have some decent advice already here. I just want to do this. :club:

 

[EveWasFramed]

I agree with the suggestion of making a point to speak to her and explain that you weren't feeling well.

 

[Case]

it's just me. I worry and over think. It's years and years of hopes and dreams that haven't happened. My brain is programmed for failure regarding women. I do get the occasional compliment from an elderly woman but she looks my age. I was shocked into silence, couldn't believe it.

I relate to the over-thinking. We who over-think things can't seem to help it because we've maybe been hurt too many times, but this is one moment where you should see it for what it was; a gesture of kindness. So often, we hear cynicism and callousness from others around us that it is wonderful to hear someone make a sincere compliment.

Since she told you where she worked, would it be possible to visit her and return the compliment? Would you want to do this?

 

[Batman55]

Since she told you where she worked, would it be possible to visit her and return the compliment? Would you want to do this?

That would be nice, but after rereading Triple's posts here, I see no mention of it.

 

[Triple Bogey]

Since she told you where she worked, would it be possible to visit her and return the compliment? Would you want to do this?

That would be nice, but after rereading Triple's posts here, I see no mention of it.

she said she worked at Boots. There are a few different ones, don't now which one.

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it's just me. I worry and over think. It's years and years of hopes and dreams that haven't happened. My brain is programmed for failure regarding women. I do get the occasional compliment from an elderly woman but she looks my age. I was shocked into silence, couldn't believe it.

I relate to the over-thinking. We who over-think things can't seem to help it because we've maybe been hurt too many times, but this is one moment where you should see it for what it was; a gesture of kindness. So often, we hear cynicism and callousness from others around us that it is wonderful to hear someone make a sincere compliment.

Since she told you where she worked, would it be possible to visit her and return the compliment? Would you want to do this?

it was a lovely thing to say. That's why I am annoyed I just stood there like a lemon and said nothing

 

[Case]

she said she worked at Boots. There are a few different ones, don't now which one.

Are there many Boots locations in your area? I know they seem to be everywhere, but maybe you could swing by a few that are closest to your work to see if you bump into her while she's working.

I think it's best to stay positive about it. Also, don't beat yourself up about not saying anything to her. It's normal. She took you by surprise. And who knows? Maybe soon you can both have a laugh about it.

 

[Triple Bogey]

she said she worked at Boots. There are a few different ones, don't now which one.

Are there many Boots locations in your area? I know they seem to be everywhere, but maybe you could swing by a few that are closest to your work to see if you bump into her while she's working.

I think it's best to stay positive about it. Also, don't beat yourself up about not saying anything to her. It's normal. She took you by surprise. And who knows? Maybe soon you can both have a laugh about it.

not many Boots, I will look into it

 

[jayme89]

lol anytime and i mean ANYTIME in my life an attractive guy gives me even the hint of a compliment i freeze or turn into a dumb blonde. its ridiculous and i always think i lost my chance. but i do think that if anything the other person should be flattered you clammed up and if they like you enough they won't give up the first time either. at least thats what i tell myself to feel better hehe

 

[Triple Bogey]

lol anytime and i mean ANYTIME in my life an attractive guy gives me even the hint of a compliment i freeze or turn into a dumb blonde. its ridiculous and i always think i lost my chance. but i do think that if anything the other person should be flattered you clammed up and if they like you enough they won't give up the first time either. at least thats what i tell myself to feel better hehe

the circumstances made me clam up. I wasn't feeling well and I was annoyed the till person had ****** off somewhere. I wasn't supposed to be on the till at that time. So I was surprized when she made her speech and I thought 'piss take'

If I had been my normal self, chatty, friendly and funny I wouldn't have been so surprized and I would have said something back to her.

She didn't come in today, I think she normally comes in on Wednesday and Thursday.

 

[ladyforsaken]

I just want to do this. :club:

Lol.. but TB, I think you should just respond to her nicely. I don't think she was making fun of you or anything. I hope you get to see her again soon so you can talk to her and make a new friend. Good luck!

 

[Triple Bogey]

I just want to do this. :club:

Lol.. but TB, I think you should just respond to her nicely. I don't think she was making fun of you or anything. I hope you get to see her again soon so you can talk to her and make a new friend. Good luck!

thanks. I know she wasn't making fun of me. She is too friendly and nice for that. It is a positive situation. I hope she comes in next week and I can talk to her.