Add me to the list of lonely ppl... :(

[rinda]

I just wanted to introduce myself and say hi to everyone. I was suprised to find a board like this one. I thought I was the only one feeling alone.

I was reading through some of the posts and there are quite a few I can totally relate too. But I did notice it seems like most that are on this forum are younger then I am? Am I the only person here in their 50's? (51 to be exact.) I keep seeing people from 16 to late 20's...maybe I shouldn't be here?

I had a great life when I was younger then I met my now husband of 30 years and it seems my life went down the toilet after getting together with him. I was younger then he was and I can see now that he wanted to control me and just wanted someone else to raise HIS kids for him. He ended up chasing all my friends away and kept me dependent on him. Talk about stupid. I thought I was so smart and on top of things before he came into my life. I always had friends, jobs, money, and very independent. He slowly changed all that without me even realizing what he was doing. All my friends warned me about him when I first got with him but I didn't listen.

Anyway so here I sit MORE alone then I ever thought I could possible be. What has made this so bad is my best friend in the ENTIRE world which was my Mother passed away a bit over a year ago from advanced lung cancer. That took a major toll on me. Now I seriously have NOONE. That was the ONE person my husband could NEVER keep me away from. My mother and I went places, talked, laughed and shared everything. I am just so lost without her. I literally have NOONE to talk to anymore. (No close family or friends of any kind.) Even my husband said not long after my Mother died....now you don't have anyone but me. (Gee thanks.)

I never thought I would ever be without even one friend. I feel like a freak. My husband literally chased every friend I ever had away. Every place I go its alone...I have no one to invite or even call on the phone. Sometimes I just don't know how this happened. I am so sorry to see how many others are here that feel as alone as I do. I've been trying to find ways to meet people but so far that hasn't worked out very well. I'm not real outgoing when I first meet people so I'm sure that doesn't help in making friends when I'm out. My husband did a great job making me feel so insecure. I could go on for days but I won't...I don't want to bore anyone.

But seriously...is this board open to ALL ages? I sure hope so because it doesn't matter how old one is...feeling and being alone is all the same regardless of how old you are.

Thanks for listening.

Rinda

 

[Sanal]

Hey Rinda welcome to the forum ..and yeh a board for all ages and yes there are people of your age group here but seriously i dont think age matters in friendship..

 

[Minus]

But seriously...is this board open to ALL ages? I sure hope so because it doesn't matter how old one is...feeling and being alone is all the same regardless of how old you are.

It sure is and yes there are people your age and older here. I am glad you decided to join. Welcome

 

[packyourbags]

Hey Rinda,

i'm Shade.
loneliness IS the same, no matter your age, race, financial status, interests.... and well - you'd be surprised just how many of boards like this one are out there.

the amount of lonely people everywhere is staggering, and i'm sure you'll find out that alot of folks will be able to understand exactly what you are going through.

As Grundel70, (one of the folks here) put it - "we are unanswered prayers to each other".
if we were there for each other - life could be so much more pleasant, so far less lonely.

so - i hope you will find people to talk to, in fact i'm sure you will. there are people from all ages here, and i'm pretty sure you are by far not the oldest here.

you are always welcome to talk to me, for what it's worth, even though i'm just 25.

(hug)

i hope you will find the strength you'll need to set your life back on it's right path.
i am a firm believer in us being in charge of our lives, even if we do need support from time to time, and i believe that you can find a way to find new friends, and rebuild your life.

good luck, and welcome.
(hug)

shade.

 

[VanillaCreme]

Rinda, sweetie, of course you're welcome here, and you stumbled across this place, then you should be here. Destiny has a strange way of creating fate. And your husband can't chase us away!

Welcome. <3

 

[Punisher]

Hi Rinda
Everyone is welcome here, except maybe me and a few others

 

[samba101]

Hi Rinda,

Yes most of the members here are quite young just seems to be the place where they all come to, but I'm in my 30's and there are members here I know of who are in there or close to their 40's here. Welcome I know what you mean by being insecure due to your husband chasing your friends away, my relationship wasn't quite the same but then my partner would somehow try and keep me with him when I choose to see what little friends I had, he had an issue with loneliness. He was sometimes down right nasty about the friends I chose and would run his mouth off but when they were around I'd be amazed by his niceness, bloody backstabber anyhow I've gone off topic. I hope you stay as I noticed that older people tend to disappear after a while.

 

[Sola]

Hi Rinda.
I'm 39 myself, know what its like to be in a controlling relationship, and I also know what its like to watch your mom battle cancer. My mother was diagnosed with it in 2006 and she's still fighting.

I'd like to welcome you here and anytime you'd like to chat, please feel free to drop me a private message if you'd like.

 

[Steel]

Hey, and welcome.

 

[Bluey]

Hi rinda and welcome here We do have older ppl here. Some of the older ones don't post as much. I am 34 BTW. Not as old as you but still not a teeny bobper lol

Glad you found us

 

[Van Hooligan X]

hey rinda, welcome to the forums :3