Alone in a group.

[M_also_lonely]

Few months ago I became a part of this group of friends whom my friend introduced me with. As I was new, it seemed that I was not like them. They didn't share their secrets with me, and didnt invite me to some occasions. But now it has been a long time, now even she (the one who made me join them) has a boyfriend, and everyone is in a relationship. So they go to restaurants together and do not even tell me. And now she doesnt have time for me to listen to my problems. They go to places where couples usually go, and I am left alone. Last week we had a birthday party at a beach. A guy among us took more than 100 photos at the dance. And when he posted, he didnt post only those ones in which I was present? Why are they doing this to me. Why am I always left alone everywhere by everyone. Why? Why? Whats my fault if I dont deserve a girlfriend?And dont have one?

 

[TheRealCallie]

A few months isn't that long, I wouldn't be telling you my secrets if I'd only known you that long.
If they have significant others and go places as like a double date type of thing, of course they aren't going to invite you, there's nothing wrong with that.
As for the not having time to listen to your problems, it's always like that when a relationship first starts, the relationship takes precedence because it is new. Not saying it SHOULD happen, but it does, very often.
Were you taking part in the party or were you off to the side being by yourself? If you were off to the side, it's possible there were no pics of you. Sometimes you have to take the initiative and include YOURSELF instead of waiting for them to include you.

 

[Triple Bogey]

Few months ago I became a part of this group of friends whom my friend introduced me with. As I was new, it seemed that I was not like them. They didn't share their secrets with me, and didnt invite me to some occasions. But now it has been a long time, now even she (the one who made me join them) has a boyfriend, and everyone is in a relationship. So they go to restaurants together and do not even tell me. And now she doesnt have time for me to listen to my problems. They go to places where couples usually go, and I am left alone. Last week we had a birthday party at a beach. A guy among us took more than 100 photos at the dance. And when he posted, he didnt post only those ones in which I was present? Why are they doing this to me. Why am I always left alone everywhere by everyone. Why? Why? Whats my fault if I dont deserve a girlfriend?And dont have one?

These people don't sound like your friends. If they can't be bothered to involve you in their conversation or invite you along when they go out. I wouldn't waste your time on them. Cut all contact and try and meet new friends who appreciate you better.

 

[VanillaCreme]

That doesn't sound like a group of friends to me. That just sounds like some people you've met through an acquaintance. I certainly wouldn't consider people that never ask me around, that I've known for just a little bit of time, close buddy-buddy friends. They don't ask you around for a reason, and not to be rude, but it's probably because they don't consider you a good enough friend to invite out. There's nothing wrong with you or with them. They don't have to invite someone out if they feel as though they don't know the person well enough. Sure, getting to know you enough would be nice, but that's their choice. I wouldn't expect much of any friendly attitudes from any of them.

 

[BeyondShy]

That doesn't sound like a group of friends to me. That just sounds like some people you've met through an acquaintance. I certainly wouldn't consider people that never ask me around, that I've known for just a little bit of time, close buddy-buddy friends. They don't ask you around for a reason, and not to be rude, but it's probably because they don't consider you a good enough friend to invite out. There's nothing wrong with you or with them. They don't have to invite someone out if they feel as though they don't know the person well enough. Sure, getting to know you enough would be nice, but that's their choice. I wouldn't expect much of any friendly attitudes from any of them.

You're right. And I am sure that each of us here know a group of people like this.

 

[VanillaCreme]

You're right. And I am sure that each of us here know a group of people like this.

I actually don't. If I do, I don't give them any thought.

 

[M_also_lonely]

Few months ago I became a part of this group of friends whom my friend introduced me with. As I was new, it seemed that I was not like them. They didn't share their secrets with me, and didnt invite me to some occasions. But now it has been a long time, now even she (the one who made me join them) has a boyfriend, and everyone is in a relationship. So they go to restaurants together and do not even tell me. And now she doesnt have time for me to listen to my problems. They go to places where couples usually go, and I am left alone. Last week we had a birthday party at a beach. A guy among us took more than 100 photos at the dance. And when he posted, he didnt post only those ones in which I was present? Why are they doing this to me. Why am I always left alone everywhere by everyone. Why? Why? Whats my fault if I dont deserve a girlfriend?And dont have one?

I wouldn't waste your time on them.

Other people around me are worse. This is the best and only I have.

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Few months ago I became a part of this group of friends whom my friend introduced me with. As I was new, it seemed that I was not like them. They didn't share their secrets with me, and didnt invite me to some occasions. But now it has been a long time, now even she (the one who made me join them) has a boyfriend, and everyone is in a relationship. So they go to restaurants together and do not even tell me. And now she doesnt have time for me to listen to my problems. They go to places where couples usually go, and I am left alone. Last week we had a birthday party at a beach. A guy among us took more than 100 photos at the dance. And when he posted, he didnt post only those ones in which I was present? Why are they doing this to me. Why am I always left alone everywhere by everyone. Why? Why? Whats my fault if I dont deserve a girlfriend?And dont have one?

I wouldn't waste your time on them.

Other people around me are worse. This is the best and only I have.

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Few months ago I became a part of this group of friends whom my friend introduced me with. As I was new, it seemed that I was not like them. They didn't share their secrets with me, and didnt invite me to some occasions. But now it has been a long time, now even she (the one who made me join them) has a boyfriend, and everyone is in a relationship. So they go to restaurants together and do not even tell me. And now she doesnt have time for me to listen to my problems. They go to places where couples usually go, and I am left alone. Last week we had a birthday party at a beach. A guy among us took more than 100 photos at the dance. And when he posted, he didnt post only those ones in which I was present? Why are they doing this to me. Why am I always left alone everywhere by everyone. Why? Why? Whats my fault if I dont deserve a girlfriend?And dont have one?

I wouldn't waste your time on them.

Other people around me are worse. This is the best and only I have.

 

[Triple Bogey]

Few months ago I became a part of this group of friends whom my friend introduced me with. As I was new, it seemed that I was not like them. They didn't share their secrets with me, and didnt invite me to some occasions. But now it has been a long time, now even she (the one who made me join them) has a boyfriend, and everyone is in a relationship. So they go to restaurants together and do not even tell me. And now she doesnt have time for me to listen to my problems. They go to places where couples usually go, and I am left alone. Last week we had a birthday party at a beach. A guy among us took more than 100 photos at the dance. And when he posted, he didnt post only those ones in which I was present? Why are they doing this to me. Why am I always left alone everywhere by everyone. Why? Why? Whats my fault if I dont deserve a girlfriend?And dont have one?

I wouldn't waste your time on them.

Other people around me are worse. This is the best and only I have.

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Few months ago I became a part of this group of friends whom my friend introduced me with. As I was new, it seemed that I was not like them. They didn't share their secrets with me, and didnt invite me to some occasions. But now it has been a long time, now even she (the one who made me join them) has a boyfriend, and everyone is in a relationship. So they go to restaurants together and do not even tell me. And now she doesnt have time for me to listen to my problems. They go to places where couples usually go, and I am left alone. Last week we had a birthday party at a beach. A guy among us took more than 100 photos at the dance. And when he posted, he didnt post only those ones in which I was present? Why are they doing this to me. Why am I always left alone everywhere by everyone. Why? Why? Whats my fault if I dont deserve a girlfriend?And dont have one?

I wouldn't waste your time on them.

Other people around me are worse. This is the best and only I have.

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Few months ago I became a part of this group of friends whom my friend introduced me with. As I was new, it seemed that I was not like them. They didn't share their secrets with me, and didnt invite me to some occasions. But now it has been a long time, now even she (the one who made me join them) has a boyfriend, and everyone is in a relationship. So they go to restaurants together and do not even tell me. And now she doesnt have time for me to listen to my problems. They go to places where couples usually go, and I am left alone. Last week we had a birthday party at a beach. A guy among us took more than 100 photos at the dance. And when he posted, he didnt post only those ones in which I was present? Why are they doing this to me. Why am I always left alone everywhere by everyone. Why? Why? Whats my fault if I dont deserve a girlfriend?And dont have one?

I wouldn't waste your time on them.

Other people around me are worse. This is the best and only I have.

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Yes okay you don't have to repeat yourself.

Why do you come on here to ask for advice and then not listen to it ?
Just asking.

 

[Solivagant]

Why do you come on here to ask for advice and then not listen to it ?
Just asking.

Not that I don't agree, but in all fairness that's what pretty much everyone does.

 

[M_also_lonely]

Few months ago I became a part of this group of friends whom my friend introduced me with. As I was new, it seemed that I was not like them. They didn't share their secrets with me, and didnt invite me to some occasions. But now it has been a long time, now even she (the one who made me join them) has a boyfriend, and everyone is in a relationship. So they go to restaurants together and do not even tell me. And now she doesnt have time for me to listen to my problems. They go to places where couples usually go, and I am left alone. Last week we had a birthday party at a beach. A guy among us took more than 100 photos at the dance. And when he posted, he didnt post only those ones in which I was present? Why are they doing this to me. Why am I always left alone everywhere by everyone. Why? Why? Whats my fault if I dont deserve a girlfriend?And dont have one?

I wouldn't waste your time on them.

Other people around me are worse. This is the best and only I have.

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Few months ago I became a part of this group of friends whom my friend introduced me with. As I was new, it seemed that I was not like them. They didn't share their secrets with me, and didnt invite me to some occasions. But now it has been a long time, now even she (the one who made me join them) has a boyfriend, and everyone is in a relationship. So they go to restaurants together and do not even tell me. And now she doesnt have time for me to listen to my problems. They go to places where couples usually go, and I am left alone. Last week we had a birthday party at a beach. A guy among us took more than 100 photos at the dance. And when he posted, he didnt post only those ones in which I was present? Why are they doing this to me. Why am I always left alone everywhere by everyone. Why? Why? Whats my fault if I dont deserve a girlfriend?And dont have one?

I wouldn't waste your time on them.

Other people around me are worse. This is the best and only I have.

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Few months ago I became a part of this group of friends whom my friend introduced me with. As I was new, it seemed that I was not like them. They didn't share their secrets with me, and didnt invite me to some occasions. But now it has been a long time, now even she (the one who made me join them) has a boyfriend, and everyone is in a relationship. So they go to restaurants together and do not even tell me. And now she doesnt have time for me to listen to my problems. They go to places where couples usually go, and I am left alone. Last week we had a birthday party at a beach. A guy among us took more than 100 photos at the dance. And when he posted, he didnt post only those ones in which I was present? Why are they doing this to me. Why am I always left alone everywhere by everyone. Why? Why? Whats my fault if I dont deserve a girlfriend?And dont have one?

I wouldn't waste your time on them.

Other people around me are worse. This is the best and only I have.

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Yes okay you don't have to repeat yourself.

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Hey I dont know why it was posted three times. I didnt do that.

And advices, well, I do listen, but looking at my situations, most of the times I cant figure out how to follow those advices. And I do not reply sometimes because it makes a lot difficult for me to think of what to reply. Same in my daily life, I cant figure out how and what to talk.

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Why do you come on here to ask for advice and then not listen to it ?
Just asking.

Not that I don't agree, but in all fairness that's what pretty much everyone does.

I dont think so. For many people these kind of places are the only places where they can be listened to.

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Why do you come on here to ask for advice and then not listen to it ?
Just asking.

Not that I don't agree, but in all fairness that's what pretty much everyone does.

I dont think so. For many people these kind of places are the only places where they can be listened to.

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Why do you come on here to ask for advice and then not listen to it ?
Just asking.

Not that I don't agree, but in all fairness that's what pretty much everyone does.

I dont think so. For many people these kind of places are the only places where they can be listened to.

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Heyy, why does it get posted multiple times!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Triple Bogey]

Few months ago I became a part of this group of friends whom my friend introduced me with. As I was new, it seemed that I was not like them. They didn't share their secrets with me, and didnt invite me to some occasions. But now it has been a long time, now even she (the one who made me join them) has a boyfriend, and everyone is in a relationship. So they go to restaurants together and do not even tell me. And now she doesnt have time for me to listen to my problems. They go to places where couples usually go, and I am left alone. Last week we had a birthday party at a beach. A guy among us took more than 100 photos at the dance. And when he posted, he didnt post only those ones in which I was present? Why are they doing this to me. Why am I always left alone everywhere by everyone. Why? Why? Whats my fault if I dont deserve a girlfriend?And dont have one?

I wouldn't waste your time on them.

Other people around me are worse. This is the best and only I have.

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Few months ago I became a part of this group of friends whom my friend introduced me with. As I was new, it seemed that I was not like them. They didn't share their secrets with me, and didnt invite me to some occasions. But now it has been a long time, now even she (the one who made me join them) has a boyfriend, and everyone is in a relationship. So they go to restaurants together and do not even tell me. And now she doesnt have time for me to listen to my problems. They go to places where couples usually go, and I am left alone. Last week we had a birthday party at a beach. A guy among us took more than 100 photos at the dance. And when he posted, he didnt post only those ones in which I was present? Why are they doing this to me. Why am I always left alone everywhere by everyone. Why? Why? Whats my fault if I dont deserve a girlfriend?And dont have one?

I wouldn't waste your time on them.

Other people around me are worse. This is the best and only I have.

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Few months ago I became a part of this group of friends whom my friend introduced me with. As I was new, it seemed that I was not like them. They didn't share their secrets with me, and didnt invite me to some occasions. But now it has been a long time, now even she (the one who made me join them) has a boyfriend, and everyone is in a relationship. So they go to restaurants together and do not even tell me. And now she doesnt have time for me to listen to my problems. They go to places where couples usually go, and I am left alone. Last week we had a birthday party at a beach. A guy among us took more than 100 photos at the dance. And when he posted, he didnt post only those ones in which I was present? Why are they doing this to me. Why am I always left alone everywhere by everyone. Why? Why? Whats my fault if I dont deserve a girlfriend?And dont have one?

I wouldn't waste your time on them.

Other people around me are worse. This is the best and only I have.

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Yes okay you don't have to repeat yourself.

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Hey I dont know why it was posted three times. I didnt do that.

And advices, well, I do listen, but looking at my situations, most of the times I cant figure out how to follow those advices. And I do not reply sometimes because it makes a lot difficult for me to think of what to reply. Same in my daily life, I cant figure out how and what to talk.

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Why do you come on here to ask for advice and then not listen to it ?
Just asking.

Not that I don't agree, but in all fairness that's what pretty much everyone does.

I dont think so. For many people these kind of places are the only places where they can be listened to.

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Why do you come on here to ask for advice and then not listen to it ?
Just asking.

Not that I don't agree, but in all fairness that's what pretty much everyone does.

I dont think so. For many people these kind of places are the only places where they can be listened to.

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Why do you come on here to ask for advice and then not listen to it ?
Just asking.

Not that I don't agree, but in all fairness that's what pretty much everyone does.

I dont think so. For many people these kind of places are the only places where they can be listened to.

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Heyy, why does it get posted multiple times!!!!!!!!!!

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Something is wrong, you keep doing multiple posts.

But yeah people on here generally try to help even though, because we don't know you or your situation, most of it is useless.

But these people don't really seem that friendly. Surely you can find some better friends ?

 

[M_also_lonely]

I wouldn't waste your time on them.

Other people around me are worse. This is the best and only I have.

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I wouldn't waste your time on them.

Other people around me are worse. This is the best and only I have.

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I wouldn't waste your time on them.

Other people around me are worse. This is the best and only I have.

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Yes okay you don't have to repeat yourself.

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Hey I dont know why it was posted three times. I didnt do that.

And advices, well, I do listen, but looking at my situations, most of the times I cant figure out how to follow those advices. And I do not reply sometimes because it makes a lot difficult for me to think of what to reply. Same in my daily life, I cant figure out how and what to talk.

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Why do you come on here to ask for advice and then not listen to it ?
Just asking.

Not that I don't agree, but in all fairness that's what pretty much everyone does.

I dont think so. For many people these kind of places are the only places where they can be listened to.

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Why do you come on here to ask for advice and then not listen to it ?
Just asking.

Not that I don't agree, but in all fairness that's what pretty much everyone does.

I dont think so. For many people these kind of places are the only places where they can be listened to.

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Why do you come on here to ask for advice and then not listen to it ?
Just asking.

Not that I don't agree, but in all fairness that's what pretty much everyone does.

I dont think so. For many people these kind of places are the only places where they can be listened to.

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Heyy, why does it get posted multiple times!!!!!!!!!!

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Something is wrong, you keep doing multiple posts.

But yeah people on here generally try to help even though, because we don't know you or your situation, most of it is useless.

But these people don't really seem that friendly. Surely you can find some better friends ?

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You know, I find no reason to be alive now.Who cares if I am in the world or not. It makes no difference. I am not important to anybody. Why am I alive?

 

[M_also_lonely]

That doesn't sound like a group of friends to me. That just sounds like some people you've met through an acquaintance. I certainly wouldn't consider people that never ask me around, that I've known for just a little bit of time, close buddy-buddy friends. They don't ask you around for a reason, and not to be rude, but it's probably because they don't consider you a good enough friend to invite out. There's nothing wrong with you or with them. They don't have to invite someone out if they feel as though they don't know the person well enough. Sure, getting to know you enough would be nice, but that's their choice. I wouldn't expect much of any friendly attitudes from any of them.

Oh please, you were the one who said no girl should meet me and a girl would dodge a bullet if se doesnt meet me.

I havent read your post, nor will I do it ever. Please help me by not replying. Thank you.

And if this sounds rude, what you said that time was also rude. You were not the only one who got insulted.
Why didnt anyone take any action when she said that The girl is lucky that she didnt meet me. You mean to say I am meant to live alone. Why didnt anyone say that this was rude too??

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And oh sorry for the thanks. If you dont want to take it then dont . Please dont say 'I dont need anyone's thanks" or any other sad boring lectures like that as you did previously when I thanked you or probably your friend.

 

[there is no hope]

To OP:
It sounds to me exactly like you think it sounds. If you're being explicitly excluded from the group, it means more than just not being their friend, it means they really don't want you around.
You can try to ask explicitly if that is the case. IMO you don't have anything to lose by laying it out and asking if they don't want you around. If they (by some chance) say that you should meet them still, don't bother.
I've been on the outside of groups before when I tried to socialize, and I had people blow me off sometimes, but to be explicitly excluded from the group and have people walk away from you when you talk is indicative of more than just not fitting in.

Maybe it is something different, and you mentioned that you like in a culture that is foreign to me (India if I recall correctly - social customs would be way different than it is in America, and I have enough trouble understanding the people around me...)

In any event, best to write those people off. I'm positive.

 

[M_also_lonely]

To OP:
It sounds to me exactly like you think it sounds. If you're being explicitly excluded from the group, it means more than just not being their friend, it means they really don't want you around.
You can try to ask explicitly if that is the case. IMO you don't have anything to lose by laying it out and asking if they don't want you around. If they (by some chance) say that you should meet them still, don't bother.
I've been on the outside of groups before when I tried to socialize, and I had people blow me off sometimes, but to be explicitly excluded from the group and have people walk away from you when you talk is indicative of more than just not fitting in.

Maybe it is something different, and you mentioned that you like in a culture that is foreign to me (India if I recall correctly - social customs would be way different than it is in America, and I have enough trouble understanding the people around me...)

In any event, best to write those people off. I'm positive.

Yes I think I should talk to them. I will try.

 

[Despicable Me]

You know, I find no reason to be alive now.Who cares if I am in the world or not. It makes no difference. I am not important to anybody. Why am I alive?

You're important to many people. You're just not allowing yourself to be important to yourself. People care, they often just have bad ways of showing it. Humans are strange like that.
I know I personally come here sometimes hoping to find a new post from you. I think you're an interesting person, M.

I don't think it's a question of why you're alive but more a question of what you should do with your life. You're alive because you exist. It is axiomatic. If you weren't alive you would not be able to ask why you're alive. So that is self-explanatory. The question you then seem to be looking for is what to do with that life you have. But only you can answer that question.

To be honest, those girls sound rather very typical. There are many women (and probably men, too) who will completely forget their friends just because they found a relationship, or will only hang out with others who are in a relationship. And when their own relationship falls apart they will often then exclude the friends still in one. The first is probably due to guilt, and the second is probably jealousy.

It's your choice whether to remain in touch with them or not. If they aren't being good enough friends, I say just forget them and look elsewhere. Don't waste your time with them anymore.
If you think they are just being a bit silly and over-the-top with their relationship-frenzy, but that the friendship still exists, then just wait for your friend to contact you before bothering to worry about it. You can always find new friends either way.

I personally would probably just try to find some new friends and if she seemed really nice later on about forgetting to hang out with me, MAYBE then giving it another shot. But otherwise just accepting it for what it was and moving on.

Not sure what the photo thing was about, but I doubt he only excluded photos of just you and nothing else. He probably only picked a handful of pics. Otherwise he's probably just a jerk. And if you think he's a jerk, just know to stay away and not waste your time on him. Some people are really not worth caring about.

 

[there is no hope]

I know I've been specifically excluded from groups a few times, as if to make a point. Notes passed to everyone but me. The person doing this was a real piece of **** though, got involved with a bunch of stupid **** after high school as far as I know.

 

[ardour]

I'm guessing there's one or two people there who seem like they appreciate your company, but, and not to be brutal here, they're likely just being polite and don't have the heart to ignore you to the same extent as the others.

Is this a clique of friends since school? They're the worst. You'll never be included. Forget it and move on.