Alone=no disappointments. No disappointments=happiness. Alone=happiness!!

[Case]

Point of the story: I have lost hope. I ultimately agree that no one will ever understand me and that I must live with it. Whether someone understands me or not, it doesn't matter no more. Heart's broken already...

The idea that no one will ever understand us is unrealistic. I have heard this idea expressed by so many people for so long that it's amazing that we still think this way.

Then again, I have hope that we, as a society, will eventually learn that there are people who do listen, people who have compassion, and that happiness is worth fighting for.

 

[ardour]

Comfortable doesn't necessarily mean happy.

 

[thelonegamer]

Point of the story: I have lost hope. I ultimately agree that no one will ever understand me and that I must live with it. Whether someone understands me or not, it doesn't matter no more. Heart's broken already...

The idea that no one will ever understand us is unrealistic. I have heard this idea expressed by so many people for so long that it's amazing that we still think this way.

Then again, I have hope that we, as a society, will eventually learn that there are people who do listen, people who have compassion, and that happiness is worth fighting for.

there are indeed, I'm just giving up on looking for them

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Comfortable doesn't necessarily mean happy.

neither does being uncomfortable or misunderstood, I'm not looking to be comfortable, I'm looking to be happy and if that means being alone or hitting my face on the wall several times I guess I'm going to do that. I rather be alone than disturbed with company

 

[balo95]

I have been through the same things as you , I also liked your perspectives towards community and how you deal with your social life . All my life I have been feeling lonely until nowadays nothing changed to the better I don't have a lot of friends and I am fine with that as long it is hard to find a kind of people you can trust ... Sometimes being Alone it hurts but it is the only choice we have got to not get hurt more from the people we love . I spend most of the time with my parents because as I see they are the only ones I can depend on and who care about me , think of me wherever whenever I go . Now I am trying to find a way to enjoy my time being alone I tried to keep myself busy by going to the gym and doing sports it did work out though . However , I live alone abroad it is just now I am on vacation to spend some quality time with my parents , I talk to nobody but myself most of the time let's say . I thought about suicide during my teenage years , I was a fool back then I realized it will not solve anything , I am not wishing to change my attitude or my way of thinking as I am convinced I will end up alone anyhow

 

[Gravely]

Being alone has it's pluses and pitfalls. It's comforting to me 99% of the time seeing as I don't like most people, but when I do get lonely, that doesn't mean I want to be surrounded by people. One friend who understands when I need to be understood is all I want.

I have no pride in being hard to figure out, but I do take pride in there being layered with various interests. I'm a simple guy in nature and I don't think I'm hard to comprehend. You don't need to know my whole story to know my nature. Some people still struggle, though.

 

[thelonegamer]

I have been through the same things as you , I also liked your perspectives towards community and how you deal with your social life . All my life I have been feeling lonely until nowadays nothing changed to the better I don't have a lot of friends and I am fine with that as long it is hard to find a kind of people you can trust ... Sometimes being Alone it hurts but it is the only choice we have got to not get hurt more from the people we love . I spend most of the time with my parents because as I see they are the only ones I can depend on and who care about me , think of me wherever whenever I go . Now I am trying to find a way to enjoy my time being alone I tried to keep myself busy by going to the gym and doing sports it did work out though . However , I live alone abroad it is just now I am on vacation to spend some quality time with my parents , I talk to nobody but myself most of the time let's say . I thought about suicide during my teenage years , I was a fool back then I realized it will not solve anything , I am not wishing to change my attitude or my way of thinking as I am convinced I will end up alone anyhow

I think we're on the same page 'cause I can relate to almost every word you wrote. Plus, you have what I crave the most: living alone, and it just gets better: abroad. That's all I want right now, make time, turn 21 then gtfo asap, perhaps study abroad as well and stuff like that. It's funny

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Being alone has it's pluses and pitfalls. It's comforting to me 99% of the time seeing as I don't like most people, but when I do get lonely, that doesn't mean I want to be surrounded by people. One friend who understands when I need to be understood is all I want.

I have no pride in being hard to figure out, but I do take pride in there being layered with various interests. I'm a simple guy in nature and I don't think I'm hard to comprehend. You don't need to know my whole story to know my nature. Some people still struggle, though.

that's what I want too, to be understood. or at least what I wanted. now I just don't give a **** no more, it's been too many disappointing friendships for me to try it over again unless something really tempts me to. but for now, I just quit giving a **** no more

 

[VanillaCreme]

What happens when you disappoint yourself?

 

[balo95]

Living abroad alone was one of the best decisions I have ever made in my life , it has taught me a load of things and I gained a lot of experience . I used to be that spoiled kid depending too much on my parents shoulders to carry me but I had to do something about it I couldn't swallow it , nothing last forever I was convinced that I would end up living alone anyhow and it has already started like I was expecting due the fact that I do not have a social life and it will not change sooner rather than later it is not because I am a failure or I have lack of social skills or not good looking but I do not see myself fitting in with social norms .

 

[tone303]

Historically I have always risked disappointments & even heart break over loneliness. I both saw it and felt it as a non-option, sort of like do or die (trying to socialize and find Love) vs die or die (not trying to socialize), whether you view that metaphorically or literal possibility of death from extreme stress & heart break to the point of vomiting (I have never had a suicide attempt).

Dont get me wrong, i havent had much opportunity for the romance side of things, and had 95% isolation VS 5% romantic opportunities and about 10% friend chances vs 90% no one willing to get to know me. but out of the minority i had, they didnt go so well.

I take pride in being a very genuine person who doesn't believe in letting others down. If someone is attached to me theres no way in hell im ever leaving.<3 but they do. =(

FYI Im one of the lonely people who is very affectionate and social in nature VS not being one of the lonely ones who is below average in social desire. There's two main kinds of us and both are equally important people.

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Now i dont feel as worthy for Love because im in a bad disability situation & PTSD. =( even though it doesnt affect me socially, theres all the other ways.

You shouldn't feel that way. It's wrong and I'm sure you know that. One of the things I'm proud of is that I've always been fair to everyone but most importantly I've been fair to myself. Be fair to you. You deserve it. But don't sit down on your arse and waiting for someone to come. Go out there and fight, get high expectations then get disappointed then get back out there and repeat. It's not about how many times you're turned down, it's about how many times you get back up. So try and never give up. I was just where you are and now I look back saying I made it, why? Before I could barely talk to anyone yet I had three girls begging for me, prior to April 21st . Don't give up. Always believe you deserve better. Best of luck

Thanks to the other replies as well, not just this quoted one

yeah i have done extreme putting myself out there in the past, and as a person of good conversation. Ive even did meetup groups and dating sites. Ive had 6 relationships, every one was very bad, the cheaters and liars.

 

[Gravely]

thelonegamer
I've been there and felt that. In that moment, numbness feels like strength, and it is in a way. It feels like it will last forever, but it won't. The drawback to strength is decay, and we all decay. You can live a long time in numbness, but then the cracks will start to show, and one day your protective shell will fall apart. You will be exposed to the elements and you will feel everything. But the cycle has already started. You can't decide you're invincible, change philosophies, and discard your invincibilities. You can only prepare for a change now.

What happens when you disappoint yourself?

Either you evolve, or you cease to live. There are no-inbetweens.

 

[thelonegamer]

Pretty much what Gravely wrote. Personally, it sucks. You have that feeling where you mean something to someone yet it's all fake and that sucks. Many people suicided for that, many think about it. I think I'm in a 'better shape' than others given the fact I never considered and never will consider suiciding, no matter how hard life is. Why? Life's beautiful. I wouldn't be the person I am today had it not been for the twists I had in my life. And I love the fact that I'm me and not anyone else. Why? That's a story for another day

 

[tone303]

its life destruction, a person cant be forced into loneliness against their will.

 

[thelonegamer]

thelonegamer
I've been there and felt that. In that moment, numbness feels like strength, and it is in a way. It feels like it will last forever, but it won't. The drawback to strength is decay, and we all decay. You can live a long time in numbness, but then the cracks will start to show, and one day your protective shell will fall apart. You will be exposed to the elements and you will feel everything. But the cycle has already started. You can't decide you're invincible, change philosophies, and discard your invincibilities. You can only prepare for a change now.

What happens when you disappoint yourself?

Either you evolve, or you cease to live. There are no-inbetweens.

I think I've passed that stage where I come back to myself and realise being alone sucks. I've passed that and still realise somewhere in my head that I rather be alone than, as someone wrote before, be disappointed or disappoint at all. And, yes, I have been a disappointment to many and the reason I'm where I am now it's 'cause of the ********* I did in my life so I guess there's no one to blame but myself. But I don't care. I wouldn't be who I am if I hadn't done all those ***** and, partly, I'm kinda glad I did but that's life. **** happens. I don't think this is just a numbness and I'll fall back to reality. I just stopped giving a **** no more for I've been broken so many times and I guess that's kinda my revenge for everything