Alone on holidays

[Gravity]

Well, another Halloween working at home by myself - sometimes my job is just awesome like that.

I'm almost used to spending holidays working like this, but sometimes it still gets to me of course - do any of you spend a lot of holidays by yourselves? If so, what do you do to cope with it or even enjoy it in spite of the situation?

 

[IgnoredOne]

I have to admit that I barely even noticed until I came to work and found nomnoms left behind.

 

[DreamerDeceiver]

Yeah, I just listen to music and try not to think about it. I'm not missing out on anything.

 

[Nolife Princess]

Holidays are the WORST for me, I do have family but they NEVER include for any things, let alone a holiday, no phone calls, no cards, no noting.
I hate the holiday tv commercials, showing family, happiness and eating together and such, I cry, cry, cry through the holiday season as I do not have anyone.

how can it be possible to hate every holiday?

I absolutely understand anyone who dislikes the holidays, as I am and have been riding that boat for years.

 

[Limlim]

I don't think Halloween is one of those major milestones compared to the others.

 

[Callie]

I don't much care about Halloween, but yeah, it bothered me a little bit that I was alone (besides my kids)

Christmas and Thanksgiving are really hard on me. I go to my parents for dinner and whatnot, but as we aren't really a "family" and I know they don't particularly care about me, it just makes it worse. Add that to the fact that I do have to give up my kids at some point to their father and I'm utterly alone and have no one... yeah, I feel it. Especially Christmas.

Oh well, I'll learn to adjust I guess.

 

[Jilted John]

Yup,holidays suck when you are on your own.

 

[Bread]

I don't much care for Halloween (parroting the previous post, it seems- still, they've been trying to import Halloween here in the frigid North past couple of years, which I see as silly since it's completely an US tradition, and don't even think pumpkins grow here) but it's the 'togetherness' kinda holidays that hurt the most. Valentine's Day is always a nasty *** at my self-esteem: "Still alone, eh? Here, lemme play you a tune on this tiny violin." It'd be generally nice to have just someone at home when you come from work, regardless if it's a regular day o' labour or festive occasion. Holidays just make us think since we don't have the luxury of being swamped with stressors from work and other duties that keep our mind occupied, instead of doing introspection in the dusty halls of the psyche.

 

[Bluey]

I spend most holidays alone. Bank holidays, halloween all of them.
Christmas also. Sept Christmas day when I spend some of that day with the family. Being the only single one there makes me feel just grand!

 

[Sci-Fi]

I get to spend Christmas and New Years with my mom and brother, other then that I spend them alone unless they fall on a weekend. I love Halloween. Yesterday I purposely went into stores to see if people were dressed up. I can't dress up at work. The girl in checkout at the grocery store was dressed as a zombie, blood and all. There were quite a few witches and a women who I can only describe as a hillbilly Hitler. I have no idea what she was going for but it looked weird.

 

[Gravity]

As far as Halloween goes, I guess it bothers me to spend it alone for a couple reasons: first, it's also a family member's birthday so it was always a big deal for us, and second, I always used to love it when I was a kid, so it feels weird to do nothing for it now year after year. But nobody I know here wants or is able to do anything for it either.

And let's not even get into V-day yet - I wanna get through the winter holidays first before I get to be reminded by Hallmark how lonely I am the rest of the year.

 

[HappyYogi]

I feel lonely on the holidays, too! I didn't know so many others are estranged from their family.

I actually LOVE to celebrate and feel I have a lot to give. I make an effort to decorate, I Love to cook and share and dress up for holidays/celebrations. I love to converse, listen, etc but I, too feel lonely.

Mostly because Thanksgiving and Christmas are family holidays and ever since my mother died, I have not felt comfortable with other family members. She was the one family member who truly cared about me. The others have left me out numerous times and/or after socializing with them I'd leave crying from feeling deeply rejected.

So I don't hang out with them.

But I make the best of it and am working on attracting other kinds of love and kindnesses and fun into my life to replace it.

 

[Ak5]

I'm sure that must be horrible. At least I have my family and their friends.

Although having my own friends would make it even better.

At least holidays are just a day.

 

[Tiina63]

I have no family, so I'm alone for Easter and Christmas (apart from seeing a friend on Christmas Eve) and sometimes on Bank Holidays. So I see the holidays as times to be got through. Usually I stock up on books and DVDs so that there is something to occupy my mind.

 

[Syber Tiger]

ya,that sucks,being alone,but alone its not all bad

but it hurts,i understand,i am alone in vacation times etc...
i have fam around me,but its diff,i mean alone friends wise

but hope fully this year will be difrent

i know its hard,but just go out,go to the mall,just walk
or get some fresh air,it helps
and keeps you buzzy

and if seeing ppl togearher makes u jelly and feel more loney dont look at them,look at them as if there brothers and suster or something,or just ignore them

but altest we got this forum so it some was of sosilasing,it better than nothing

 

[AFrozenSoul]

The only time I spent any time with others during the holidays is when I am guilt tripped by the family. Otherwise mine are spent alone. I just treat it like any other day. Holidays are just excuses to not work.

 

[xrchz]

I've spent a lot of holidays alone. Last New Year's I went out to dinner by myself at the one restaurant that was open then went home to bed. My dad called me that night, though, which was nice. I've spent a few New Year's on planes, skipping time zones so they don't happen. My family never really did Christmas or Easter, so I don't really notice them much. The thing is, a really nice holiday seems like it would require close friends and family, people you already knew well and did things with at other times too. If I was invited to a random party, say, by some lucky chance, I don't think I would have a good time - it might be worse to be in the "meeting people" mode when everyone else is with old friends. Actually, that makes me think that perhaps one of the best ways to spend a holiday would be with someone you met on that very day, who also was hoping to meet someone to not be alone... I wonder where and how they would find each other?

 

[annik]

I don't care about Halloween or Easter. As for Christmas I spend that with my parents and sister. Honestly sometimes I think I'd rather be own my own, just go off somewhere by myself. I don't really care its Christmas either really. New Years gets me, I'd love to spend that with a boyfriend but the one I had demanded to always spend it with his dad . We did go away for a couple of my birthdays which was nice though. Valentines day never bothers me bf or no bf my eyes just always end up hurting by how much I roll them at how crappy and fake it all is!

 

[ladysigh]

I was about to create a thread about this topic but found this one so I'll just cry here...this will be my first Thanksgiving that I will be completely alone, the only person I have in my life is my mom, she's going to Australia for a wedding (she first told them no even though they offered to pay her trip, just because of me, but I ordered her to go and have a good time).

Somehow I feel like this is the beginning of the end of my life, and I had better get used to this being all alone on holidays thing...my mom isn't going to live forever (and she's the one always reminding me that when she's gone I'll have nobody)...oh, fun times a'coming...

 

[Factotum]

i just get really drunk.