Am I single because Im lazy

[Parabolani]

Being in a relationship requires effort. You have to do stuff with the other person that you might not want to do eg. having dinner with their parents or watching X Factor

So is that the real reason why Im single but I just don't wont to admit it to myself.

 

[VanillaCreme]

Possibly. I think compromise is a big part of relationships. A lot of people don't ever want to compromise because they might feel like "compromise" means they have to change themselves. When in actuality, it doesn't mean they have to change. It just means they need to give themselves more freely and be willing to do different things and do things they normally wouldn't have done other wise. It can turn out being fun to be honest.

 

[Barbaloot]

That sounds about right. Relationships are indeed a lot of work so I don't blame you.

 

[ladyforsaken]

Gotta agree with Vanilla. It will take a lot of effort especially if both of you do not share a lot of interests. You will need to do a lot of compromise. I'd say it's not entirely easy, but definitely easier if both of you have a lot of common interests and ideas. It helps. Maybe you can find someone you have a lot in common with? Good luck with that!

 

[ahaikulife]

Being in a relationship requires effort. You have to do stuff with the other person that you might not want to do eg. having dinner with their parents or watching X Factor

So is that the real reason why Im single but I just don't wont to admit it to myself.

XFactor has most likely ruined thousands upon thousands of relationships..... whatever you do, do not watch that show !!!!

ok, i'm kidding..... yes, to be in a relationship, you will have to do some things that you may not enjoy...and on the flip side, the other person will be doing the same thing. Do you really think that they will enjoy every little thing that you want THEM to do? It is called love. When you love somebody, you are willing to so stuff that you may not particularly like or enjoy, because it makes the other person happy...don't you want to make him or her happy? Eating with their parents may not make you happy, but wouldn't it feel good to know that you made the person your dating happy, by eating with their parents?

In terms of stuff like TV shows... I really doubt anybody would take offense if you simply said, "umm, i dont' liek that show, I think i'm going to go in my room and read or read some posts on ALL forums"

 

[ShybutHi]

Yep it is all about compromise but doing an activity for your partner should not feel like a burden. If it feels like a burden then you should talk to each other about it.

 

[Drew88]

I think the laziness lays in doing thing to try to start a relationship, ie going some where, talking, trying to figure out if they are interested, etc.

 

[AFrozenSoul]

I will say that a pretty big portion of me not really wanting anything to do with relationships is the fact that I hate my family. So why would I want to be a part of another person's family? I see the nightmare that ensues with all my siblings and cousins, visiting in excess of 4 families sometimes, and I want nothing to do with that.

That is what comprimses are for, as I am sure has been mentioned. You do X and she does Y.

 

[Montreal Skye]

I will say that a pretty big portion of me not really wanting anything to do with relationships is the fact that I hate my family. So why would I want to be a part of another person's family? I see the nightmare that ensues with all my siblings and cousins, visiting in excess of 4 families sometimes, and I want nothing to do with that.

That is what comprimses are for, as I am sure has been mentioned. You do X and she does Y.

That shies me away from relationships too, I want to be with a man, not his entire family. I have disowned my family decades ago so it's not an issue on my part. But I don't want to be part of my potential Him's family drama either. This was a problem for me in the past, but I don't think it's something I'll easily be swayed into.

 

[ShybutHi]

I will say that a pretty big portion of me not really wanting anything to do with relationships is the fact that I hate my family. So why would I want to be a part of another person's family? I see the nightmare that ensues with all my siblings and cousins, visiting in excess of 4 families sometimes, and I want nothing to do with that.

That is what comprimses are for, as I am sure has been mentioned. You do X and she does Y.

That sounds to me like you would much prefer to find someone who you could be alot more private with and not have to deal with others relations. You never know though you may meet someone and you may find you actually get along with their family really well.

It may be harder to find someone who is more of a private person and is willing to start a more private life with you but it certainly is not impossible. You may meet someone who has a very similar outlook on this and does not like to be social with other people's family.

I understand this as I am a bit of a social outcast and I am terrible at socialising with other peoples family and even my own family.

 

[Gutted]

I think it is overly common for people to not want to change when in a relationship. I personally think it is more common with Girls then with Guys. Girls tend to form stronger characters then Guys which is not an insult or compliment to either sexes. You know how it is though. Guys can be more laid back but also not sure of what they want. Girls can know for a fact of what they want and nothing will stop them from getting it. Of course it works both ways and everyone is different in different places. you just gotta be a little flexible where you can. The benefits SHOULD outweigh the draw backs. That's what makes a relationship worth continuing.