Am I wrong?

[wolfblood]

Am I wrong for not sharing more info with people?
I love making new friends but some people ask uncomfortable questions and I feel guilty for avoiding their questions. Am I wrong to push away potential friends just because they start asking personal questions on day 1?
Sometimes I feel like I'm missing out on making friends because I like to keep some things to myself.
I mean, friendships are all about sharing stuff with each other? Is that necessary in order to make friends?
I'd love to know your thoughts on this.

 

[147]

No, your comfort is your prerogative.
Friendships have to develop, and there is more to a bond between people than knowing personal stuff about each other.
It can always go the other way, as well. You may start out sharing a lot of personal things, just to have the beginning friendship end after a month, and you being left regretting whatever it is you shared.

I think when you meet a moment where you're in doubt (should you share something or not?), take a step back and ask yourself first: If this friendship doesn't turn out the way I want it to, or ends prematurely, am I going to regret sharing this detail?

 

[wolfblood]

No, your comfort is your prerogative.
Friendships have to develop, and there is more to a bond between people than knowing personal stuff about each other.
It can always go the other way, as well. You may start out sharing a lot of personal things, just to have the beginning friendship end after a month, and you being left regretting whatever it is you shared.

I think when you meet a moment where you're in doubt (should you share something or not?), take a step back and ask yourself first: If this friendship doesn't turn out the way I want it to, or ends prematurely, am I going to regret sharing this detail?

Great advice! Thank you!
I will now ask myself that question, every time.

I often felt guilty for not sending people the pictures they asked or for avoiding their questions. I was always told that I'm too reclusive.
But at the end of the day I have to be ok with whatever I share, my peace of mind is more important than trying to please everyone all the time.

 

[okidoke]

You can always say “I’m not yet comfortable sharing that, but I hope to be.”

 

[wolfblood]

You can always say “I’m not yet comfortable sharing that, but I hope to be.”

Yes, indeed!

 

[147]

my peace of mind is more important than trying to please everyone all the time.

This!