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Groove

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Hello.

I joined this forum because I really need to start talking to some one. It’s funny when I originally planned on writing this I felt sad but today I am happy because I managed to find a cheaper car insurance quote. That means I don’t have to save up for 3 weeks before I can drive.

Well to start off with I have recently been working for about 4 months. Originally I started the job with a lot of gusto. The years before this had been difficult. Long story short, I use to be in really good shape, had a reasonable job and things were looking good. Then I moved back to my home town, started putting weight on and found it hard to find a job. Eventually though I got a job. When I got this job I lost weight and was in decent shape not as good as before when I was in another town but as good as just before I left my home town to go to the new town. Soon I lost this job apparently due to the recession and some other factors.

Then I totally got overweight. I wouldn’t say I am really obese but I am way over weight. When I started this job a few months ago I was jogging and exercising then I stopped after a few weeks. I managed to lose about 14-21lbs. I stopped training for a little while because I was not losing any weight. I hit a plateau and to remedy this I thought Id give my body some time to rest then get back into. I figured I would start losing weight because my body was rested and it would confuse the muscles after such a time of inactivity. But what happened was I put weight on and didn’t train. About a month ago I started training for about 2 or 3 weeks but after the first week I started losing focus. I wasted a lot of my membership by not going to the gym enough. Now I am really over weight and until today I was really depressed about wasting my time and being fat. I didn’t want to use the word fat originally because people assume I’m big like a power lifter. Now though to think about it I am fat actually. But I know though I have the capability to lose weight and get in the great shape I use to be in.

Another thing, just when I settled in work and got over some time being depressed and absolutely hating the job they moved me to another department in the same building. Most of the time I do hardly anything because this new department is nothing like the old department I use to work in. I mean it wasn’t exactly busy in the old department but I did have stuff to do each day and the time would go so much quicker. Working in the new department has kind of made me lazy. Now when ever there is a task that I am given by certain people I feel like these certain people who are not managers give me work they should be doing. All this brought the depression back but the good car insurance quote has made me feel so much better after such a lengthy time feeling sad.


Has anybody else felt lonely and just think that there life is going nowhere? All I seem to do now is eat junk food, watch TV and just go on the internet. I feel like I have no life or friends. I feel like I can’t make a new set of friends, start a clean slate and do stuff with my time rather then just pointlessly wasting time on the internet and TV. Right now I plan on paying this insurance at the end of the week and then start going to the gym. Any suggestions on how I can stop wasting my time in front of the TV?

Thanks. I know there is a lot to read but I just had to vent out.
 
It's good to get these things off your chest. Helps to bring these problems out into the open so you can combat them better. First off, I can't emphasize this enough- junk/fast food is poison for your body. You'd need a healthier diet to back your training, and a mind set to committing yourself to self-improvement through training. I'm no bodybuilder or so, but I train regularly and have started eating more healthier foods, and are somewhat better off for it. You should try to cultivate a mindset in which you set yourself goals and reminders, and do your very best to keep to those goals, in this case, the training regime.

As for the question posed, I've had my times when life seems to be stomping on my head with a steel-toed boot, and times when inability to do something, ANYTHING to improve my situation drives me nuts, frustrated, et cetera. But I haven't given up on hope, haven't let weeds grow around my goals. Lonely as hell, but this place helps a great deal. Heh.

Maybe I'm a bit at fault with being alone, since I've learned that no relationship is forever. Folks tend to drift onwards or off into the horizon in a few weeks, months, years...so I can't really grow attached to anybody these days anymore. Still, I do my best to try and enjoy the little things in life, seek alternative sources for contentment and happiness. Training and exercise is a good way to work out your problems, to some degree. Nothing beats punching a punching bag for stress release, I'd say. :p

At any rate, good luck to you. Hopefully you'll manage to motivate yourself to keep up your training. Nobody else but you has the power to motivate you to that end.
 
Bread said:
It's good to get these things off your chest. Helps to bring these problems out into the open so you can combat them better. First off, I can't emphasize this enough- junk/fast food is poison for your body. You'd need a healthier diet to back your training, and a mind set to committing yourself to self-improvement through training. I'm no bodybuilder or so, but I train regularly and have started eating more healthier foods, and are somewhat better off for it. You should try to cultivate a mindset in which you set yourself goals and reminders, and do your very best to keep to those goals, in this case, the training regime.

As for the question posed, I've had my times when life seems to be stomping on my head with a steel-toed boot, and times when inability to do something, ANYTHING to improve my situation drives me nuts, frustrated, et cetera. But I haven't given up on hope, haven't let weeds grow around my goals. Lonely as hell, but this place helps a great deal. Heh.

Maybe I'm a bit at fault with being alone, since I've learned that no relationship is forever. Folks tend to drift onwards or off into the horizon in a few weeks, months, years...so I can't really grow attached to anybody these days anymore. Still, I do my best to try and enjoy the little things in life, seek alternative sources for contentment and happiness. Training and exercise is a good way to work out your problems, to some degree. Nothing beats punching a punching bag for stress release, I'd say. :p

At any rate, good luck to you. Hopefully you'll manage to motivate yourself to keep up your training. Nobody else but you has the power to motivate you to that end.


What's your current training routine like? I think I might post up the style of training I have recentlly been doing then post up my new routine that I plan on doing God willing. I think consistant cardio is the key for me.
 
Well, generally train thirty minutes every other day, such stuff as kettle-bell pulls and swings (a bit lost with the lingo here, since the words are quite different between English and my native Finnish), situps, squats, pushups and of course, beating the tar out of the punching bag. Generally prefer thirty repetitions each, easy to keep count and truth told, my stamina nowadays doesn't go much farther than that in one go. :D Still, thirty minutes of training three times a week, pretty much anyone has that much time to commit to self-improvement.

Also taken up walks and such in the local woods, but it's more recreational than actual exercise. Good for clearing the head and do some training on that big ol' musclemass between the ears. Biking is something I try to do all the time, when weather and the proper time presents itself. Usually minimum of two treks a week, usually ranging from a short stint of half an hour, to well over an hour.

Generally, having someone who's savvy on the subject of health as a to a fault is a good start. My brother's big on health issues, and managed to talk me out of meat eating, and adopting a more regular training routine, as well as lending me his old punching bag and kettlebell. I'm not all that good in actually devicing a diet and assorted training routine, since it should vary according to health factors of the person in question, but I'm hoping my modest input has been at least of some use, if only as inspiration. Aside from biking, the kettlebell and boxing, this stuff should also be things you can do at the comfort of your own home, free of charge.
 
I know what I have to do to get in shape but it's just actually getting up and doing it. I dwell on the past too much. Reminiscing about the days of old. Thinking about how I could jog 5 miles and just feeling so upset that I went from being in shape to this. I just need to move forward with my life.
 

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