Being in love with love...

[the-alchemist]

I'm 23 years old and I'm a guy. And like I many other here, I've never had a girlfriend and relationship which is a source of great sadness for me. I just want it so bad and the effect is that whenever I meet a girl who is somewhat attractive, I want to start a relationship with her eventhough deep inside, I don't really have any feelings for her. And whenever I meet a somewhat attractive girl, I always try too hard to impress her and then I regret it later.

Of course I don't tell her that but I do think I can come off as being desperate and needy for a relationship. I'm just so desperate that I want to skip the "getting-to-know-eachother" part and just have the relationship. It ******* sucks to be like that. Why is it so ******* hard to get a girlfriend?

I know some people who switches girlfriends like they switch socks every week.

I keep seeing people with their girlfriends and it has almost driven me to tears. I see even ugly guys being with beautiful girls, and while I am not a super-model, I'm far from ugly. I'm not overweight at all.

When it comes to guys and friends, I have no problem on that front. Not girls either as long as we're friends. But it's that ******* relationship part, I can't even get a date because I'm too insecure and desperate on that part. I'm not desperate for friends anymore but I'm desperate for girlfriends.

I'm sorry about my bad english. It is not my natural language

 

[Code S.O.L]

Yeah..... there's no such thing as skipping the 'getting to know' part. Also, just to gauge how desperate you are, have you actually been driven to ask a girl out?

 

[the-alchemist]

Yes I have asked a girl out. That's a bit complicated but suffice to say, I got turned down...

 

[Code S.O.L]

Yes I have asked a girl out. That's a bit complicated but suffice to say, I got turned down...

If you wanna get rid of that desperation real quick, then you need to think about how bad that rejection felt. Then you need to remind yourself why you don't wanna feel that ever again(or at least for awhile). Doing this will make you stop yourself from making reckless moves, and hopefully knock abit of that desperation out of you.

When we're desperate, we rush in without thinking, we push ourselves too hard, and it almost always ends badly. As negative as this sounds, we sometimes have to second and third guess ourselves before we commit to action. That way, we can make more calculated decisions about the risks we take before we take them.