Beliefs holding you back?

[Peaches]

Do you have any beliefs that are holding you back in life? Regardless if you think they are true or not, do you believe some things about yourself that are maybe damaging to your present and future life?
I am starting this thread because I read that such beliefs are sometimes created by events from the past that at some point don't exist anymore so that these beliefs are just a shadow of something that happened, and apparently they (the beliefs) can also be changed with some honest examination, but I have no clue on how to do it.

So, what are yours?

A couple of mine:

I believe that my gaze makes people uncomfortable, kind of like the Village of the Damned children.
I believe that if I truly love somebody, they will run away.
I believe that I am clumsy (that might be a fact), and that first time people meet me they can tell I am depressed.

 

[Bones]

Living by the "DTA" Rule - Don't Trust Anyone.

 

[perfanoff]

I believe that my gaze makes people uncomfortable, kind of like the Village of the Damned children.
I believe that if I truly love somebody, they will run away.
I believe that I am clumsy (that might be a fact), and that first time people meet me they can tell I am depressed.

#2 rings so strong and true for me. Personal experience.

 

[Poguesy]

My belief in the power of beans.

 

[PrinceOfPeace]

Great post, made me take a moment to evaluate myself.... & thats a good thing
I believe God blessed me with so many gifts that most people arent genuine with interests of friendship, only wanting to know me to benifit themselves.
I believe Im so soft at heart that people know they can take advantage of my kindness
I believe thats why I find I distance myself & am alone alot.
I believe because kind words were seldom spoken over me as a child it caused me to become fearful & seclusive
I believe the biggest battles in my life are the battles that rage on in my head
Im afraid to believe in love again because every where I look love is taken so lightly
I believe Im one of the very few who dont take the important things in life for granted
I believe Ive been hurt so manytimes that I perposly look for faults in others in the fear that Im unabe to let myself be loved

 

[Lady X]

I believe that anything I have that's good is liable to be taken from me or go totally, spectacularly wrong at any moment.


That's the one belief that I can never shake that's held me back from an awful lot, and is pretty much the main cause of my anxiety issues.

 

[Rosebolt]

Living by the "DTA" Rule - Don't Trust Anyone.

This, pretty much.

 

[el Jay]

I believe that anything I have that's good is liable to be taken from me or go totally, spectacularly wrong at any moment.


That's the one belief that I can never shake that's held me back from an awful lot, and is pretty much the main cause of my anxiety issues.

This is mostly mine, too. Though for me, it's more that I believe I'm not allowed to ever be hopeful about anything.

In my life, but especially over the past few years, any time I get too excited and hopeful for something good that could happen (or is planned to happen), it falls through and just totally ***** on my spirit, leaving me in an even worse place in terms of anxiety and depression, and teaching me that I simply am not allowed to ever want things to get better, much less work towards them.

 

[Sci-Fi]

I believe that anything I have that's good is liable to be taken from me or go totally, spectacularly wrong at any moment.


That's the one belief that I can never shake that's held me back from an awful lot, and is pretty much the main cause of my anxiety issues.

This is mostly mine, too. Though for me, it's more that I believe I'm not allowed to ever be hopeful about anything.

In my life, but especially over the past few years, any time I get too excited and hopeful for something good that could happen (or is planned to happen), it falls through and just totally ***** on my spirit, leaving me in an even worse place in terms of anxiety and depression, and teaching me that I simply am not allowed to ever want things to get better, much less work towards them.

Can totally relate to this.

 

[Evil_Genius]

The best question to ask here is why? Why do you think that these things are true. These things verge on the supernatural/paranormal in some cases and this reminds me of something said by English illusionist Derren Brown "There is only one reason a kid would learn magic. It's Because they don't feel all that special" I think casting off the persona's and faerie tales we all tell ourselves and looking head on at the truth in the mirror no matter how uncomfortable it may be was the best start to moving forward.

You can enter you own dark night of the soul and face your demons then when your psyche is a blank slate, you can rebuild it however you want. Of course this takes work and courage. But any psychology student can tell you one simple fact about personal growth. The only person who can make it happen is you. I can lead you to water, but I can't make you drink

 

[jayme89]

I believe I am very ugly therefore I will never have a relationship - never ever ever.
I believe I am only good for working and making others money.
I believe I am too weird and eccentric for 99.99% of the population hence my existence will be very lonely.

 

[perfanoff]

^ something like that but to a lesser degree.

 

[Evil_Genius]

If you hold on to this sort of belief, then you perpetuate the cage of your own myth you have built for yourself. You need to realize that the belief you have to your detriment is nonsense. The only person you can blame for your predicament is yourself. Being a force of personality despite your setbacks is admirable. In a rather cold world, blaming your setbacks for your own failings is merely seen as a poor attempt at an excuse.