Born or not Born

[Unsigned]

If you could go back in time and choose to be born or not born, which would you choose?

I would choose not born.
It's not like I would suicide myself. I would not do that unless I somehow lost my independence and self sufficiency.
I'd only kill myself if I was n a situation were I had to heavily rely on others. And really...there are no others on which I could rely.
Anyways...
There really is no purpose to my life.
I live only to work, collect a check, pay taxes, give money to escorts, eat, sleep, drink, go to the bathroom, and exercise (I guess to get an occasional BS compliment from the escorts).
So yeah I would choose not born.
How about you?

I wanted to make this a poll, but I did not see the option...

 

[MysteriousTelephone]

Oh, I'd kill myself today if it wasn't for the thought of upsetting the people closest to me.

As for going back in time, I'd probably pick a more useful option, such as "Buy Bitcoin" or "Learn to play guitar."

 

[user 139760]

If you could go back in time and choose to be born or not born, which would you choose?

I would choose not born.
It's not like I would suicide myself. I would not do that unless I somehow lost my independence and self sufficiency.
I'd only kill myself if I was n a situation were I had to heavily rely on others. And really...there are no others on which I could rely.
Anyways...
There really is no purpose to my life.
I live only to work, collect a check, pay taxes, give money to escorts, eat, sleep, drink, go to the bathroom, and exercise (I guess to get an occasional BS compliment from the escorts).
So yeah I would choose not born.
How about you?

I wanted to make this a poll, but I did not see the option...

If you went back in time and chose not to be born, you wouldn't be born. But that means you wouldn't go back in time to chose not to be born, so you'd be born. But then, you'd go back in time and chose not to be born....
It's a common mistake.

My point is though, through a touch of humor, is that focusing on those lines of thinking can only bring you down and depress you. You ARE born. You ARE here. You can either chose to increase sadness or try and decrease it. (Spoiler; it's probably wiser to try and decrease it )

 

[Unsigned]

If you went back in time and chose not to be born, you wouldn't be born. But that means you wouldn't go back in time to chose not to be born, so you'd be born. But then, you'd go back in time and chose not to be born....
It's a common mistake.

My point is though, through a touch of humor, is that focusing on those lines of thinking can only bring you down and depress you. You ARE born. You ARE here. You can either chose to increase sadness or try and decrease it. (Spoiler; it's probably wiser to try and decrease it )

I'm drinking German Brandy...

 

[okidoke]

Your premise is based on what you know now, but if you use that logic, then you could choose better options for your life instead of not being born at all.

 

[Unsigned]

Your premise is based on what you know now, but if you use that logic, then you could choose better options for your life instead of not being born at all.

Yeah is true.
If I could go back in time and lecture my 10 or 15 y/o self, sure...my life could have take a much different path.
Valid point.

 

[NotThrivingStillSmiling]

oooh good question, no easy answers....

i'm probably a rare case as i had a mother unalive herself on her first mothers day due to post-natal depression, and rightly/wrongly it is easy to take responsibility for that. Partly due to that i got a bunch of attachment issues, and meandered through life unintentionally pushing away anyone who tries to get close....once you have decided your a crap partner and your SO would be better off without you then ya REALLLY got that ball rolling...try and avoid opposite ***, they get gooey for no apparent , you explain your a ***** partner and they should stay away and bang they gotta sink the claws in and 'fix' me.... if at the time i'm doing well with mental health i can bat them away, if i'm lonely/low i kind of can't.....give that a decade or two you've caused unintentional harm and trauma to people you really loved, then you double down at staying away from people..... which in turn means your pushing away any potentially mentally healthy and positive partners and attracting partners which is a doomed matcg from day1...total carnage

cant unalive myself after what my dad and twin sister been through (at least while they still around) , could potentially become a missing person if i go to the beach n keep swimming but after the trauma i've experienced from other suicides in my life it hardly seems fair on anyone else.

feel guilty as **** for having my own flat when ppl on da streets. feel guilty every time i bite a bloody sandwich or flick a lightswitch (i cycle 12000miles a year and dont drive)

not being born sounds sweet as ****, can i not be born as a eagle/wolf/shark/butterfly or some ****???

 

[Kortelan]

I'm pretty sure, u are not feeling motivated or happy. I believe something bad happened and u keep thinking and thinking about it and feel empty. Everyone would choose not born. Who wants to go through the ****? We all have our happy moments, but we have the same amount of regrets. Stay strong pal. Life would be better if you see what's wrong within and fix it yourself. I promise you, it's not gonna be easy and it may take years. But, never give up on yourself.

 

[Unsigned]

I'm pretty sure, u are not feeling motivated or happy. I believe something bad happened and u keep thinking and thinking about it and feel empty. Everyone would choose not born. Who wants to go through the honeysuckle? We all have our happy moments, but we have the same amount of regrets. Stay strong pal. Life would be better if you see what's wrong within and fix it yourself. I promise you, it's not gonna be easy and it may take years. But, never give up on yourself.

Thanks.

 

[Walnut]

I thought about this question slightly differently throughout my life. Except I’ve also asked myself if I would repeat my life given the chance. No. Every time I consider it, No. I’ve asked myself this since I was a kid. No.

I’ve struggled socially my entire life. Lots of circumstance made me alone as well as my own non-sense. There have been two periods of my life that seemed “worth it”, but just because I had those two experiences does not justify everything else along the way.

I believe some of my issues are genetic. Definitely from one parent for sure. I believe this so deeply that I refuse to have kids (I once had a partner who wanted them with me). I will not risk passing this on to someone else. The pain stops with me. I consider this a decision of ethics.

The way my life turned out after her I am so glad I did not have kids. I can’t handle my own life. It would be irresponsible for me to be a parent.

Today I make an honest effort to better my life. I still wouldn’t repeat it.

 

[Unsigned]

I refuse to have kids

Same here.
Although it's been pretty easy for me, as I've never had a real girlfriend. Just ones I've paid.

 

[ardour]

You know the answer.

Considering what I went through as a small child, at school (some of which was my own doing), the decade+ of isolation as a young man, only to become an old man who wants his 'prime' back. Add to this, what I'm likely to face again as my remaining relative ages. Of course if I could escape that and delete my existence, I would.

I shouldn't have been born anyway. My father is the last type of man who should ever have children. I carry his genes, I look like him. I feel sick just thinking about that.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

This is an interesting topic

When I was a little girl, I was never treated like one, always treated like a threat to marriages for as long as I can remember… I grew up being told its not my fault however no man could resist me and well… life had a strange way of proving that to me… as man after man that I trusted were not trust worthy at all. Only my dad. Only my dad never wronged me and people still spread evil rumours that he did till this day. May he rest

I used to think if this is my life, if I cant be under the lords protection because I am just too tempting, if men will always hurt me… why was I even born? I started to think it was my whole purpose to just… be of use.

However time has taught me that the excuses were just excuses. I was always good enough to be loved, to be someones wife, to not be harmed by all the men that harmed me. I can finally say I am happy I was born, that **** of a mother did 1 good thing for me. Now I have my Rob to protect me, love me, teach me, provide for me, marry me.

 

[Cherubino]

it's definitely because of your very strict, narrowing and possibly high expectations with regard to a potential partner ... I'm very frustrated about even more substantial aspects in my life but default hope still there on autopilot

 

[TheSkaFish]

It depends on whether or not I'd be born with a high enough skill ceiling to be able to get good at anything.

If I'm born able to get good enough skills to be successful in life, then yes, I'd want to be born.

If I'm incapable of getting good at any skills and therefore incapable of success, and therefore am unable to live a good quality of life, then no, I'd pass.

As my life has gone, I don't know. Some parts growing up were good, but it's been getting worse lately and I am struggling to see any hope for the future. And I've never felt like I had any particular aptitude for any skills, something I've always hated about myself and been frustrated and humiliated by. I've always hated not having a strength, anything to show for myself, anything I could use as my source of pride. I think it's why I've struggled in life, and ultimately what's caused me to be lonely.

 

[August Campbell]

Back in the day, my life used to be painful, even hopeless. So compared to those days, my present life is paradise, even euphoria. In comparison, what a joy it is now, especially because my ultimate dream came true. Lucky, very lucky.
A big part of becoming lucky is by realizing that everybody's life is both joy and pain. Everybody has both. Everybody. It's by my accepting pain as an unavoidable part of reality that made it easier to survive. Acceptance of pain. After all, there's always a price to be paid.