They wan't someone who can care about them while he is looking good and he is being smart thats are their demand.. And half of them end up being with biggest *********s and jerks i know, is this somekind of unwritten rule? Are they just seeking attention are they posing?
Can someone explain me how teenage girls think,,,
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teen age girls want the "sexy" "buffed" boys
cuz they want to show off to there friends
but inside they want a loving caring guy,but dont go for them cuz they are usaly not that atractive as the "jerks" like you say,if u get my point
if they get older they grow out of it
enyways u dont want a girl that just go afterlooks,rather go for the caring/helpfull ones
and the girls that no one wants to be friends with,makes the best parkenrs in life
cuz they want to show off to there friends
but inside they want a loving caring guy,but dont go for them cuz they are usaly not that atractive as the "jerks" like you say,if u get my point
if they get older they grow out of it
enyways u dont want a girl that just go afterlooks,rather go for the caring/helpfull ones
and the girls that no one wants to be friends with,makes the best parkenrs in life
Good luck on that. I don't even know if the ladies here could explain how teenage girls think, lol, jk. Not all teenage girls are like that, but there's this whole popularity contest that goes on at that age.
I never understood that either. When I was in high school I had girls tell me that I was the kind of guy their parents wanted them to date, or the ones they should have dated instead of the idiots they ended up with. It goes the same way with teenage boys though, some just want to date the hottest girl in school. It's a status symbol that is so important in high school. Kind of crazy when you get older and think about it.
I never understood that either. When I was in high school I had girls tell me that I was the kind of guy their parents wanted them to date, or the ones they should have dated instead of the idiots they ended up with. It goes the same way with teenage boys though, some just want to date the hottest girl in school. It's a status symbol that is so important in high school. Kind of crazy when you get older and think about it.
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Teenage girls are like candy: while delicious, they're usually very bad for you.
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shesafrozenfire
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It's as useful or useless a question as to ask how all men or all women think. There is no one hard and fast answer.
Something to consider when pondering teenage girls and why they do the things that they do, and frankly, I think this goes for teenage boys as well, is insecurity.
Think about it, you have girls who are morphing into strange bodies, against their control, and these bodies are now the basis by which a lot of society is going to value their worth for the rest of their lives, whether it's if they have a pretty face or if they have bangin' bods, or if their skin is clear one day, or whether or not their hair is attractive omg on and on ad nauseam.
With teens, suddenly comes this idea of social status and fitting in. Along with this comes the idea of competition. Now all the other girls are competing for that same small pool of "acceptable" boys. Who decides who is "acceptable?" Well, society at large, and social conventions and ideals do change constantly, although the confident members are always the ones that stand out from the crowd.
Regarding the question of fitting in, in some cases, whether or not you have a good-looking or popular boyfriend hanging off your arm is the difference between whether you're in or out of certain social circles. Just being good at something or smart isn't going to cut it in the greater social pecking order.
Also, if you go too far in one direction or another, it can still hurt you. An example: my BFF in high school had a very curvaceous figure at a young age. Seriously, ALL of the guys at our school secretly or not-so-secretly wanted to screw her. This made the majority of the girls jealous, thinking that there was some other girl in competition for the hottest/most desirable guys. Consequently, they bad-mouthed her every day of school for 4 years, calling her a ****, defacing her car with some pretty awful graffiti. The kicker is that she never had a boyfriend and was a virgin until she went off to college. It was foul, what those ******* did, and it was all out of their own insecurity. They were insecure that the boys thought my friend was hotter.
For girls as well as boys, it totally sucks, being wrapped up in other people's validation of your worth. I was a late bloomer lol, and I remember going from 5th and 6th grade, pretty happy, outgoing and well adjusted, and then being slammed into the social ****-fest of later middle and high school, suddenly feeling as though I was worthless because a select small group of girls looked down their noses at me because I didn't have the same designer clothes as they had, and because the boys checked over my flat-chested figure and decided that I wasn't worth the time of day. These were the same boys and girls with whom I'd played since kindergarten.
Now, I understand that boys have it similarly. This is not some stupid pissing contest of who has it worse, men or women. Anytime any of us are judged and valued by shallow criteria, neglecting the true worth of the individual inside, we all suffer. Alas, it seems that it is a stinking rite of passage that we have to slog through on our way to adulthood. Mind you, some adults never outgrow this petty mindset. It's on my mind a lot because I have daughters who are embarking on this age. The agita, oh, the agita that is immediately ahead of me. Yikes.
So, to recap:
insecurity
Something to consider when pondering teenage girls and why they do the things that they do, and frankly, I think this goes for teenage boys as well, is insecurity.
Think about it, you have girls who are morphing into strange bodies, against their control, and these bodies are now the basis by which a lot of society is going to value their worth for the rest of their lives, whether it's if they have a pretty face or if they have bangin' bods, or if their skin is clear one day, or whether or not their hair is attractive omg on and on ad nauseam.
With teens, suddenly comes this idea of social status and fitting in. Along with this comes the idea of competition. Now all the other girls are competing for that same small pool of "acceptable" boys. Who decides who is "acceptable?" Well, society at large, and social conventions and ideals do change constantly, although the confident members are always the ones that stand out from the crowd.
Regarding the question of fitting in, in some cases, whether or not you have a good-looking or popular boyfriend hanging off your arm is the difference between whether you're in or out of certain social circles. Just being good at something or smart isn't going to cut it in the greater social pecking order.
Also, if you go too far in one direction or another, it can still hurt you. An example: my BFF in high school had a very curvaceous figure at a young age. Seriously, ALL of the guys at our school secretly or not-so-secretly wanted to screw her. This made the majority of the girls jealous, thinking that there was some other girl in competition for the hottest/most desirable guys. Consequently, they bad-mouthed her every day of school for 4 years, calling her a ****, defacing her car with some pretty awful graffiti. The kicker is that she never had a boyfriend and was a virgin until she went off to college. It was foul, what those ******* did, and it was all out of their own insecurity. They were insecure that the boys thought my friend was hotter.
For girls as well as boys, it totally sucks, being wrapped up in other people's validation of your worth. I was a late bloomer lol, and I remember going from 5th and 6th grade, pretty happy, outgoing and well adjusted, and then being slammed into the social ****-fest of later middle and high school, suddenly feeling as though I was worthless because a select small group of girls looked down their noses at me because I didn't have the same designer clothes as they had, and because the boys checked over my flat-chested figure and decided that I wasn't worth the time of day. These were the same boys and girls with whom I'd played since kindergarten.
Now, I understand that boys have it similarly. This is not some stupid pissing contest of who has it worse, men or women. Anytime any of us are judged and valued by shallow criteria, neglecting the true worth of the individual inside, we all suffer. Alas, it seems that it is a stinking rite of passage that we have to slog through on our way to adulthood. Mind you, some adults never outgrow this petty mindset. It's on my mind a lot because I have daughters who are embarking on this age. The agita, oh, the agita that is immediately ahead of me. Yikes.
So, to recap:
insecurity
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The frozen fire nailed it down
Oh, the silliness stage!
Oh, the silliness stage!
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edamame721
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LOL at Lost Drifter.
Teenage girls probably like bad boys because they're "dangerous" and it's a way of rebelling or they feel like they have something to prove. And some of them probably have low self-esteem and end up with creeps because they feel they can't do better. They learn though. They learn.
Teenage girls probably like bad boys because they're "dangerous" and it's a way of rebelling or they feel like they have something to prove. And some of them probably have low self-esteem and end up with creeps because they feel they can't do better. They learn though. They learn.
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Do you mean something similar to the way teen boys want girls who are sweet, pretty, and and smart... but end up with *******?
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I have no clue. I was terrible with girls at that age.
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There were a few really nice girls in my teenage years that I missed out on being with, it's the same for both sexes.
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I agree. Same here, perf.
I typically don't understand women, in general. They are exotic and mysterious. Maybe this is why I'm straight?
I typically don't understand women, in general. They are exotic and mysterious. Maybe this is why I'm straight?
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between the age of 15 to 40 woman are complete *******. you asked.
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Did you just call my mother a bitch?
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shesafrozenfire
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Parabolani said:
Oh look, another offensive over-generalizations about women. *major eye roll*
I just knew that eventually this thread would devolve to another "let's bash all women" event.
Grats.
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Okay this is not the first or second time something has been mentioned to you about your comments in the past few days. Maybe something stricter will make you realize that type of behaviour is not permitted on this forum.
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omg bro , you just made my day by posting this meme
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